chumly Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 I have noticed this alot. I get a good number of people favoriting me on OLD but they never message me?? I also have people favorite me, never contact me and then remove me from the fav list unexpectedly?? Does anybody have any idea why people do any of these things? Favoriting and not contacting the person? or favoriting and then removing a person from their list without ever having contacted them at all? Thanks in advance;)
Shining One Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 It's a low-effort method of checking for some level of mutual interest. A man adds a bunch of women to his favorites. Some of those women add him to their favorites. He then messages some of the women who added him. It's less effort than writing initial messages to all of those women and having the vast majority of those women not respond. 4
Popsicle Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 In most cases, it means I like you but I'm too scared to write to you. In lesser instances, it means I like you but I'm already seeing someone else but I want to bookmark your profile to remember to return to later. It's like how in real life a guy will get a girls number but not call her. It's for possible future use because he's busy right now. But mostly, what you describe is someone fearing rejection. 4
Popsicle Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 It's a low-effort method of checking for some level of mutual interest. A man adds a bunch of women to his favorites. Some of those women add him to their favorites. He then messages some of the women who added him. It's less effort than writing initial messages to all of those women and having the vast majority of those women not respond. Good point. If there is no "Like" feature on that dating site, it is bascially the equivalent of a Like. 2
normal person Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 I "favorite" someone when I like them but I'm too busy or preoccupied to commit to a date in the immediate future. I'm just saving them for later. A lot of times they'll see that I favorited (or even just viewed) and message anyways. This happened pretty recently: I'm thinking about moving to another city for a tax break, so I went on OLD and started looking at women in those different cities just to see who was out there, and I "favorited" one who was totally irresistible; if I moved there, I wanted to talk to her immediately. Anyways, she saw that I favorited her and messaged me, and I've been down there twice since to look at homes and meet up with her. Then again, I've favorited a woman before when I didn't have time to go out with her, she eventually messaged me later and when we met up she confessed that she thought it was kind of lame that I favorited her and didn't message -- she figured it was my "job" as a man to initiate things. But then I explained that I was just busy and all was well. So take from that what you may. 1
kendahke Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 I have noticed this alot. I get a good number of people favoriting me on OLD but they never message me?? I also have people favorite me, never contact me and then remove me from the fav list unexpectedly?? Does anybody have any idea why people do any of these things? Favoriting and not contacting the person? or favoriting and then removing a person from their list without ever having contacted them at all? Thanks in advance;) Because they don't want to--that's really the gist of the matter. They're sitting in front of their computer mindlessly looking at profiles on the site and there was something in your profile that moved them to favorite your profile, but it wasn't enough to make them come out of their comfort zone and contact you. It happened to me the whole time I was on OLD--it's part of the experience. Certainly nothing to obsess about. OLD is a social tool and that's all. It's not a promise to deliver on expectations. Best way to not have this happen is to log off of OLD and only deal with dating in the real world. 7
bluefeather Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 kinda weird that it notifies the other person, no? If a favorite is just meant as a bookmark 2
basil67 Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 I haven't done OLD so it's likely I'm wrong.... But could it be like when you're online shopping and you put heaps of stuff in the basket and then cull it down to the absolute favourites at the end? After all, OLD is basically Amazon for partners. 2
kendahke Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 I haven't done OLD so it's likely I'm wrong.... But could it be like when you're online shopping and you put heaps of stuff in the basket and then cull it down to the absolute favourites at the end? or just you're out and about, people can see you, check you out, but they don't approach you. Same difference. 2
chphan Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 Scammers. Well depends if you are a guy and you get a lot of favorites and notice the profile is off or way too attractive then you know it's a bot account. You know it's a bot account when it gets remove right away. It means the site or that account been reported as botting. Some site even use bot accounts to favorite to trick you into signing up for a paid account to see who has favorite you. Lots of noobs don't realize this. 2
Author chumly Posted January 1, 2017 Author Posted January 1, 2017 thanks everyone for the responses! I am guessing that it is still sort of a compliment to have someone favorite you because that must mean that there is something they liked about the persons profile or pics but like you said, i guess for some reason they dont want to take it any further then that. What is really strange to me is when they fav you and then suddenly unfav you. I have had that happen a number of times. One time a very attractive man had me on his fav list ...but when I added some new pics he suddenly took me off. I guess he did not like the new pics. it was kind of insulting since I did not think the new pics were any worse then the ones I already had on there..I guess it could have been any reason that he removed me from his list but it just seemed like too much of a coincidence that he had unfav me shortly after I had added the new pics. Not a good feeling at all!! Has anybody else unfav people and if so, what was the reasons you did it? just curious again Thanks
kendahke Posted January 1, 2017 Posted January 1, 2017 thanks everyone for the responses! Has anybody else unfav people and if so, what was the reasons you did it? just curious again Thanks Yes... that's part of the OLD. I did it because he no longer was of interest to me. Initially, he may have had an interesting profile, but once I looked at his responses to particular questions, I changed my mind on him. He was a stranger, I was a stranger to him, so really---I don't invest like that in strangers with whom I've never had a conversation. If he wants to unfavorite me, that's his prerogative 3
Author chumly Posted January 2, 2017 Author Posted January 2, 2017 Yes... that's part of the OLD. I did it because he no longer was of interest to me. Initially, he may have had an interesting profile, but once I looked at his responses to particular questions, I changed my mind on him. He was a stranger, I was a stranger to him, so really---I don't invest like that in strangers with whom I've never had a conversation. If he wants to unfavorite me, that's his prerogative Thanks! yes, you are right..I should not take it personal since i never even spoke to the man. I guess I was just so flattered that such an extremely handsome man like that would favorite me to begin with so it was a bit of a disappointment when he unfavored me. Anyway, thanks again:)
joseb Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 Thanks! yes, you are right..I should not take it personal since i never even spoke to the man. I guess I was just so flattered that such an extremely handsome man like that would favorite me to begin with so it was a bit of a disappointment when he unfavored me. Anyway, thanks again:) Yeah don't take OLD seriously. Don't invest in anyone until you have met then. I'm not sure if it's the same for women, but as a guy if a very attractive woman just favourites me out of the blue, 9/10 it's a bot account. 1
ltjg45 Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 I have done this. On the OLD site that I am on, there is a lot of attractive women there so naturally, I would add a suitable number of women on my Favorite list so I can check back and read their profile later. Whenever I do, if I like a woman but can't write back immediately, I keep her profile on my list. If, after reading the profile, I lost interest than I take her off of it. Another limitation this site that I am on has is that I can only write a certain number of messages a month so I can only write to the top 3 ladies that I like each month on a regular basis. With the selection that is available, that does make it hard to get to know most of them on a basic level. So, after some time, if I hasn't wrote to her in a few months, I simply remove them from my list because, well, why keep her there if I don't have enough desire to contact her, even if it is because of limited messages? Apparently, there is other ladies that got my attention more than she do. 2
salparadise Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 I have noticed this alot. I get a good number of people favoriting me on OLD but they never message me?? Perhaps they're thinking it's your turn? Have you ever tried (women do that these days you know)? That's how my girlfriend and I got together... she fav'd me, I sent a note asking her to meet in the first message, she accepted in her reply. No muss, no fuss, no dick pics, no negotiation, no BS. We're thick as thieves. I suggest you consider it an invitation for you to contact them. 1
Miss Spider Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 I tell myself it's just that theyre too intimidated by my beauty to say hi, but more realistically, as someone mentioned, it's a low-effort way of showing some interest. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 As a guy I don't favorite Women, because it means nothing. They won't write me back. I don't even use it to keep track of Women to message later. In fact I've found when I favorite women I have a harder time with them. I think you have to look at what it is called. "Favorites". In one click you are already putting the Woman on a pedestal and showing her that she is special to you. Girls like to play cat and mouse, and she already knows she is a sure thing for you, since she's one of your favorites. Even though 99% of the time us guys have to message Women first, we don't want them to feel like we're qualifying ourselves to them. Advice for Men -- skip the favorites function and just message women instead. Advice for Women -- go ahead and use the Favorites feature, guys will probably message you back. 1
kendahke Posted January 3, 2017 Posted January 3, 2017 Thanks! yes, you are right..I should not take it personal since i never even spoke to the man. I guess I was just so flattered that such an extremely handsome man like that would favorite me to begin with so it was a bit of a disappointment when he unfavored me. Anyway, thanks again:) Another angle you should consider is that you were dealing with a scammer and they figured out you weren't in the age range of women they target to extract money. Do a reverse google search on the photo used--I'll bet it's being used by at least 10 other profiles. 1
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