ry1206an Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me recently because she felt that we weren't mature individually enough and that we both needed to grow before we continued dating. We're both seniors in college (I'm 21, she's 20), and we met in 6th grade and have been dating since sophomore year in high school. I've been thinking a lot about this, and I do see how we need to grow up a little more and be more of adults in our relationship for it to flourish and really work. My question is how can one do this while still being in a relationship. I feel like I know it's possible since I know a few couples who are our age and have been dating as long as us but are now engaged or married. Are there any good tips on how to grow individually and personally as people while still being in a relationship with someone else? And similarly, are there any ideas on how to mature together as a couple? Thank you very much for your help and thoughts.
RecentChange Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 But the couples your age that are engaged are still very young and have not yet withstood the test of time! I agree with your GF, spending time to grow into individual adults would be a great idea. The time spent between graduating college and becoming an independent adult is one of major change. There are many accounts here on LS of bad relationships that people stay in because they have never known anything different. They have never know what it is like to be an individual, they end up codependent and uncertan of their ability to stand on their own two feet. It's important to develop those skills. You two have known nothing else since you were small children. Taking some time to grow up would be an excellent idea.
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