forumaddict Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 I had a several months relationships with one girl and it went so wrong that I could not even imagine in my worst nightmare! We have been dating and having OK relationship for around 4 months. I notice that she was kind of gold digger, and wanted open relationship rather than normal one, but everything was still OK... Last month one of my colleague invited me on his wedding to another country. As almost everybody was going with partners and I decided it could be fun to take her with me. So i booked bus and hotel and prepared everything and first day of our travel was wonderful. On second day we went to wedding. It was in december so I catch cold and was really not in a good mood on wedding night There was also one of my colleagues who is single, I introduced him to my girlfriend. as I was not dancing he asked her to dance and they got with each other quite well. I got kind of jealous when she started to make eye contacts with him and asking to add on facebook. But I did not tell anything. After wedding was over we started to argue little bit and till morning it escalated so much that I was extremely angry and canceled her from ticket, so she had to go and buy new one(around 50$) to return at home. My attempts on next days to get her back was unsuccessful, i went with flowers and also offered to return 50$ which she had to pay. now she is keeping contacting with this colleague and they even went for date I am very angry and have no idea how to solve this, and this colleague sits next to me and I can not think about anything else than this damn girl flirting with him just in front of me. I could not imagine before that some people could be such a**holes what do you think about this? what would you be doing in my case?
Tyler_Tyrell Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 If I was in your place, I'd tell leave the girl to her fate. 1) She likes open relationships; that's fine, but unless you agree with her views, sooner or later you're going to clash. 2) Flirting with your colleague right in front of you: horrible, horrible behavior by her part. 3) Starting to date the colleague right after dumping you shows that she wasn't very committed with your relationship. So... I would just let her go her way. Your relationship was basically just begun (only 4 months!), so there's probably not much invested in. As for the colleague sitting right next to you dating with your ex... well, that can be hard to swallow, but it's just a matter of time until you won't care anymore. Oh, and keep those 50 $.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Did you agree to the terms of this open relationship?
Author forumaddict Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 the problem is I can not just swallow, I am having a stress and can not focus on work , I just think about it all time, while seeing this colleague always. I am thinking to quit from that job is there anything I can do legally , for example to sue?
kidm Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 the problem is I can not just swallow, I am having a stress and can not focus on work , I just think about it all time, while seeing this colleague always. I am thinking to quit from that job is there anything I can do legally , for example to sue? Sue who and for what? Also if you couldn't handle an open relationship, you shouldn't have agreed to one. Sounds to me this so-called relationship was DOA. 1
Author forumaddict Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 Sue who and for what? Also if you couldn't handle an open relationship, you shouldn't have agreed to one. Sounds to me this so-called relationship was DOA. I do not think open relationship here matters, because i took her on wedding where only person with a wife or serious partner was invited and she knew about it. this is very disturbing what she did, even if i have brought some animal instead of her it could behave better. this is the case when human is so disgusting that any animal could be better....
Been Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 RUN. You dodged a bullet. You might not think so now but trust me you did. She sounds unstable.
dumbass2 Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 "I notice that she was kind of gold digger, and wanted open relationship rather than normal one, but everything was still OK..." No, it wasn't ok with you. You got attached despite knowing all this. She is who she is and did not tell you she wanted a serious relationship with you. That's what you hoped it might turn into, despite knowing all this. You have to be a little upset with yourself for ignoring the red flags. Even knowing that she wanted an open relationship, you introduced her to your apparently single colleague because you weren't feeling like dancing. You kinda opened the door to this, but it was going to happen sooner or later because she wants an open relationship to date around. Plain and simple, you and her are not on the same page. She's just not the right fit for you at this time.
kidm Posted January 1, 2017 Posted January 1, 2017 I do not think open relationship here matters, because i took her on wedding where only person with a wife or serious partner was invited and she knew about it. this is very disturbing what she did, even if i have brought some animal instead of her it could behave better. this is the case when human is so disgusting that any animal could be better.... And therein lies your problem if you think being in an open relationship didn't matter. She wasn't your wife or serious partner. She was a girl you had an open relationship. You were trying to turn an open relationship into a serious relationship to keep up appearances at a wedding and it didn't work. If you want a girl who would act like a serious girlfriend and be by your wife at the wedding, not searching for other men, you should have found such a girlfriend. Next time, don't try to turn a "hoe" into a dutiful serious girlfriend.
Author forumaddict Posted January 1, 2017 Author Posted January 1, 2017 I was just thinking what should I do with the colleague? because what he did is not nice he saw we had conflict and used that situation to obtain contact of my girlfriend and now contacting her and going on dates as she tells "He wrote me first" should I tell that he is an a**hole, and kick his a** or ask the employer to take some actions because I can not really work somebody like that sits in next to me!
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