NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Can someone give me an honest opinion on what they think. This is hard for me to talk about but I recently was involved with a guy who did not appreciate me at all. He barely took me anywhere, all he wanted from me was sex all the time and wanted me to do things that I didn't feel comfortable doing and when I wouldn't do it made me feel like i wasn't worth being with. He always tried to get money from me and use me for sex all the time. He even assaulted me one time during sex something i'm still dealing with. Well things started getting strange when he wouldn't add me on facebook i was going somewhere temporarily where all i would have to communicate with him was facebook at the time and he wouldn't add me for some reason which i thought was strange. So time went on he still wasn't putting forth effort and i got fed up said some mean things out of hurt and frustration then he told me he was done with me and that i'm the rudest person he ever met. that was crazy to me given how he treated me. Well we stopped talking was done with each other. One thing I noticed was even though i'm not friends with him on facebook his relationship status said 'single' for the public to see. 3 weeks after we had called it quits i went on his profile to block him for good and i noticed the relationship status that used to be public and said single was gone all of a sudden. why do you think this happened, was he hiding something from me that whole time or was it some kind of mind game to get my attention? it's strange that 3 weeks later the relationship status was gone. either he made it private so only his friends could only see it or something was going on behind my back. This guy was horrible and didn't care anything about me. Before we called it quits he even had the nerve to ask me would I give him 300 dollars to pay for a speeding ticket that he got. He couldnt even afford to pay it back to me if I were to lend him the money... thank goodness I didn't give him the money.
BaileyB Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 With all due respect, who cares about his Facebook status. It sounds like you did a good thing to get away from him. Be thankful that he is no longer in your life. He is a terrible, terrible person. But also, ask the questions you need to ask about how you allowed yourself to be in a relationship with a man who used you? Do whatever you need to do to be sure that you learn from this experience, and be sure that it doesn't happen again. 5
IfonlyIknew Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 He is a straight up player, a user, whatever the motive for his status change was, I don't think it had anything to do with you. I think you are reading more into it than you should. 1
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 i agree thank you for the advice BaileyB
Redhead14 Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Can someone give me an honest opinion on what they think. This is hard for me to talk about but I recently was involved with a guy who did not appreciate me at all. He barely took me anywhere, all he wanted from me was sex all the time and wanted me to do things that I didn't feel comfortable doing and when I wouldn't do it made me feel like i wasn't worth being with. He always tried to get money from me and use me for sex all the time. He even assaulted me one time during sex something i'm still dealing with. Well things started getting strange when he wouldn't add me on facebook i was going somewhere temporarily where all i would have to communicate with him was facebook at the time and he wouldn't add me for some reason which i thought was strange. So time went on he still wasn't putting forth effort and i got fed up said some mean things out of hurt and frustration then he told me he was done with me and that i'm the rudest person he ever met. that was crazy to me given how he treated me. Well we stopped talking was done with each other. One thing I noticed was even though i'm not friends with him on facebook his relationship status said 'single' for the public to see. 3 weeks after we had called it quits i went on his profile to block him for good and i noticed the relationship status that used to be public and said single was gone all of a sudden. why do you think this happened, was he hiding something from me that whole time or was it some kind of mind game to get my attention? it's strange that 3 weeks later the relationship status was gone. either he made it private so only his friends could only see it or something was going on behind my back. This guy was horrible and didn't care anything about me. Before we called it quits he even had the nerve to ask me would I give him 300 dollars to pay for a speeding ticket that he got. He couldnt even afford to pay it back to me if I were to lend him the money... thank goodness I didn't give him the money. did not appreciate me at all He barely took me anywhere all he wanted from me was sex He always tried to get money from me ASSAULTED ME ONE TIME Well things started getting strange when he wouldn't add me on facebook -- THIS is when things started getting strange???????????? I am dumbfounded that you are questioning the FB status when the guy was a complete and utter d'bag from the start! Why would you entertain a "relationship" with a guy like this to begin with or for very long anyway? YOU should have ended it a long time ago. 5
RecentChange Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 (edited) Why did you persue an abuser? Why did you allow him to treat you like that? Why would you ever allow such a man into your life? Facebook? That has no meaning. You need some serious help otherwise I fear you will continue invite abusive men into your life. He used you, and you let him. Edited to add - just peeked at your posting history. This is not the first guy to use you for sex, treat you like dirt, and you try to get them to stay. Honey, you need some counseling or something to give you some insight as to why your self worth is so low that you seek horrible men like this. This is NOT what all men are like. This is how abusers behave. Edited December 30, 2016 by RecentChange 2
BaileyB Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 I strongly support the suggestion that you get some counselling. This guy was bad news and the biggest concern in your post was that he didn't update his relationship status... Thank goodness you didn't give him money and thank goodness he didn't hurt you. Get some help for yourself so you don't continue this pattern... 1
mikeylo Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Get some counseling before dating another guy. You need help. 2
smackie9 Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 This guy was so horrible so you shouldn't even care what the hell he is doing. Stop stalking him on fb AND MOVE ON ALREADY.
GunslingerRoland Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Facebook? How is this post about Facebook? Please get some counselling to work through whatever is letting you think that this was an acceptable relationship at any point.
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 This guy was so horrible so you shouldn't even care what the hell he is doing. Stop stalking him on fb AND MOVE ON ALREADY. You're an idiot....I've never asked for anyone's password, I'm not like that and the guy is blocked I don't stalk his profile.
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 Why did you persue an abuser? Why did you allow him to treat you like that? Why would you ever allow such a man into your life? Facebook? That has no meaning. You need some serious help otherwise I fear you will continue invite abusive men into your life. He used you, and you let him. Edited to add - just peeked at your posting history. This is not the first guy to use you for sex, treat you like dirt, and you try to get them to stay. Honey, you need some counseling or something to give you some insight as to why your self worth is so low that you seek horrible men like this. This is NOT what all men are like. This is how abusers behave. Thanks for the advice...,I'm already doing this
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 Facebook? How is this post about Facebook? Please get some counselling to work through whatever is letting you think that this was an acceptable relationship at any point. Thanks for the advice I'm already seeking counseling....nothing happens overnight but thank you for the advice.......
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 Get some counseling before dating another guy. You need help. Already doing that.......but thanks I guess
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 Get some counseling before dating another guy. You need help. Thanks for the advice if it was advice and not trying to be rude but I'm aware that there are some things in my life that have happened to me to lower my self esteem I'm not stupid I know that. Telling me I need help.....ok thanks. I know where these problems are rooted and a lot of it has to do with growing up in a home where love was rarely shown and seeing a lot of domestic violence take place in the household between my parents. I'm not asking for sympathy but do understand that I am trying to get through this and the last thing I need is a bunch of ******* comments concerning this situation
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 Facebook? How is this post about Facebook? Please get some counselling to work through whatever is letting you think that this was an acceptable relationship at any point. Already doing that......
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 I strongly support the suggestion that you get some counselling. This guy was bad news and the biggest concern in your post was that he didn't update his relationship status... Thank goodness you didn't give him money and thank goodness he didn't hurt you. Get some help for yourself so you don't continue this pattern... thanks for your advice and for not being a total douche with your response like some of these people.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 To be honest, it wouldn't surprise me if he was pursuing multiple women at the same time, given his dodgy behavior and disrespectful attitude. It could have also been mind games, like you thought. People who play games like that seem to be able to sense a person's vulnerability and exploit it for their own gain, ie: sex, money, validation or control. He very clearly wanted sex and had absolutely no shame in asking for money. As for why you can no longer see his status, it is probably only visible when he is trying to convey his "availability" to certain people at any given time. Either that or he restricted you from seeing his private information now because you are of no further use to him. It may take a while to let go of the feelings you had, not to mention all the hurt and confusion over his actions, but I promise it will get easier in time. If you ever have weak moments, just remind yourself that you did the right thing removing this creep from your life.
Author NJooo Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 To be honest, it wouldn't surprise me if he was pursuing multiple women at the same time, given his dodgy behavior and disrespectful attitude. It could have also been mind games, like you thought. People who play games like that seem to be able to sense a person's vulnerability and exploit it for their own gain, ie: sex, money, validation or control. He very clearly wanted sex and had absolutely no shame in asking for money. As for why you can no longer see his status, it is probably only visible when he is trying to convey his "availability" to certain people at any given time. Either that or he restricted you from seeing his private information now because you are of no further use to him. It may take a while to let go of the feelings you had, not to mention all the hurt and confusion over his actions, but I promise it will get easier in time. If you ever have weak moments, just remind yourself that you did the right thing removing this creep from your life. Thank you and I have not been in contact with this person. I did report him for the assault and letting the law handle things from here on out. 1
smackie9 Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 You're an idiot....I've never asked for anyone's password, I'm not like that and the guy is blocked I don't stalk his profile. That is my signature, and has nothing to do with my post.
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