electrobeam Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Hey guys, so let's say I asked a girl out, and she said "sorry I'm busy next week, maybe next week" and let's say I'm the type of dude who is persistent, and makes sure that there is ABSOLUTELY NO POSSIBILITY of a potential relationship happening with that type of excuse. How long would you wait before contacting her again, and asking her out, and how would you do it so that you don't come off as needy/desperate. how would you even start the conversation -> This is through ringing her, I dont have any classes with her or anything. P.S. I don't really want to be one of those guys, who whenever they get a "im busy" they immediately get all sad and upset and never contact the girl again. I'm not afraid, and do not care about looking like one of those guys who cannot take a hint, if the girl is getting annoyed with me asking her out multiple times, she can be honest - instead of being ambiguous - and tell me she doesn't like me... I'm saying this to everyone who will advise me to not ask her out again... sorry lol I've made up my mind, I am going to, but I don't know the best way to do it.
Mangue Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Wait for two or three weeks and try one last time.
elaine567 Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Try to pin her down to a date on the week she is not so "busy". If again you get the brush off, then you may have to accept "busy" means she is just not interested. You can't afford to spend weeks waiting to have her keep turning you down, that is a complete waste of your time. Interested people tend to act interested. People who eventually get worn down by persistence, may just leave when they get an offer from someone they are excited about. Life isn't the movies where the persistent guy gets the girl and they live happily ever after. It can work out sometimes but you are better trying to find a girl who is as interested in you as you are in her.
GemmaUK Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Assuming you have only asked her out once so far and she suggested maybe next week then call her and set a date for next week. If you have already asked her out more than once and had the same reply then leave it. 'Busy' is not necessarily an excuse. It's often the reality, especially at this time of year when most folk already have long held plans over several weeks.
Whodatdog Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Maybe be a little more direct the next time. Perhaps say, "Would you like to go out with me sometime?". That way she can't say she's busy, she has to actually give you a direct answer of yes or no.
Alamo657 Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 I'm busy = I'm not interested. just get the message the first time. Persistence doesnt win women's heart, consistency does.
phineas Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 You tell her to let you know when she isn't so busy and never contact her again. seriously, if a woman knows she won't see you again she will not play hard to get.
stillafool Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 . I'm saying this to everyone who will advise me to not ask her out again... sorry lol I've made up my mind, I am going to, but I don't know the best way to do it. You know the good news is she isn't the only girl out there. Pursue those who are interested in you.
Erik30 Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Wait a week then try again. If she gives you the same excuse, she's not interested. Stop contacting her if that happens.
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