Lonesomed0ve Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Hi everyone I am new! I've been talking to someone on tinder ( I know quality stuff ) here, and need help figuring out how to proceed with the guy I've been chatting with from there. Weve had a pretty great conversation so far. He seems nice, I don't believe I've said anything to scare him off. We haven't really gotten into deep conversations. The last thing I said on the app was that it's hard to get to know someone on a dating app, and suggested we text instead his response to that was verbatim, "Texting sounds amazing because I never really get ok here!! XXX-XXXX I hope to hear from you soon:)". He was home for the holiday and for the most part was communicative and responding in a timely manner within a day or so, sometimes more. So our conversation through text goes like this, me: XXX area code? You're a true East Flordian! Hey, it's Britney . His response: "Hey Britney!' Haha, true east Flordian indeed!! How are you today?". Replies back quickly and I send a text after that. Just mentioning moving, asking how his holiday is etc etc. Then he goes silence for daysss. Well like three - one just asking when he's back in town ( no response ), and then the third day I send a "Hope you have a wonderful new year. I apologize if I came across too forward or said something that you didn't like. It was nice to get to know you a little bit within the past couple of day. Take care!". Decide to write him off and forget about him. I'm not afraid to be forward. He messaged me the next day and says, "Hey! I am Sooo sorry. You did nothing wrong! I didn't get back until yesterday and went straight to practice and got hope and crashed haha. I am at a tournament right now. I would love to still meet up if you would like too, and I promise not to disappear!". I know this part sounds a little crazy and stalkerish but tinder tells you how far someone is. When he was out of town it said 100 miles. The days he wasn't saying anything tinder said 12. I know great - already not trusting him. So I reply back saying no worries - understand traveling and going back to work is exhausting yada yards ask when he'd like to meet. And again nothing. He texted me the last part yesterday early afternoon. Does he have a gf at home, just doesn't get a @&$&, what would you guys do next? Appreciate the replies - happy pre New Years
kendahke Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 If you're already finding fault, then put it down. You're still strangers and it doesn't matter. You made a mistake. Move on.
preraph Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 He probably has at least one girlfriend and a busy social life. You are one among many.
Mkn1010 Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 It appears, given that you have noticed the time it takes him to reply (if/when he does at all), that you two have incompatible communication styles. He did you a favour by going AWOL. Entertaining this dude further is going to be one anxiety inducing exercise!! Even for a FWB, this will send you around the bend!
KBob Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Most likely, since he is on Tinder, he is busy dating. That's what Tinder is for, after all. But if he's all talk and no action then he's not very worthy of your time, is he?
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