Mark1 Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 I'm 28, she's 42. She looks very young so its not like if we went out it would look odd. We've been texting for a few days and heavy flirting. Selfies, telling each other how excited we are to see each other, other things basically implying we are going to hook up. I knew things were going pretty fast and I have seen things like this be cancelled before, and of course I get the text, "I'm sorry, I'm not ready to date right now." Usually I would reply some bs like "I understand, you're a sweet woman with a lot to offer, take all the time you need etc etc" but this time I just said, "yeah I saw this coming," and that was it, to which she replied, "I'm sorry." We were going to meet Jan 2, should I go cold on her until then or just move on completely?
OnlyHonesty Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 Most guys do not have the fortitude to do what they need to do. She has already showed you that she is a flake, all talk and no action. Why would you entertain this for a second? My advice to you would be not only to move on, but to block and delete her from everything. This is because people will have pangs of loneliness when the New Year arrives and will try to use you to fill the void. It's likely she will contact you by then. 1
IfonlyIknew Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 Is this someone you met online? Does she check out like on social media? Wonder if she has someone or hiding something.
dpass Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 She's probably married and just using you for a little fun on the side without actually getting involved. Probably other men she does this to as well, and she didn't have any intention of meeting you.
GunslingerRoland Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 I'm 28, she's 42. She looks very young so its not like if we went out it would look odd. We've been texting for a few days and heavy flirting. Selfies, telling each other how excited we are to see each other, other things basically implying we are going to hook up. I knew things were going pretty fast and I have seen things like this be cancelled before, and of course I get the text, "I'm sorry, I'm not ready to date right now." Usually I would reply some bs like "I understand, you're a sweet woman with a lot to offer, take all the time you need etc etc" but this time I just said, "yeah I saw this coming," and that was it, to which she replied, "I'm sorry." We were going to meet Jan 2, should I go cold on her until then or just move on completely? Why wouldn't you move on completely, she just rejected you...
OnlyHonesty Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 Is this someone you met online? Does she check out like on social media? Wonder if she has someone or hiding something. It does not matter what / if she is hiding. Al of that is a waste of time and does not change who she is or how she acted. Why is not important. This is why people get caught up in drama.
IfonlyIknew Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 Of course it matters why. You are asking if you should move on, her behavior is extremely shady as if she is with someone and filling her time to chat, forget January 2nd.
preraph Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 She's done. Listen there are people all over online dating on there just for the ego boost or because they're lonely but otherwise not ready for dating because they're messed up socially or because they're taken or because they are healing from someone or something. Don't take it personal. Be glad she finally said she's not really going to date you and just stop contacting her at all.
Erik30 Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 She didn't just cancel a date, she ended it. You can't "go cold on her," She won't even novice or care. She probably was just having fun until it started to become real. Move on, she was wasting your time.
Shining One Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 What does a guy do when she cancels? He goes out with another woman.We were going to meet Jan 2, should I go cold on her until then or just move on completely?Move on completely. Do not waste any more time or attention on this one.
Redhead14 Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 I'm 28, she's 42. She looks very young so its not like if we went out it would look odd. We've been texting for a few days and heavy flirting. Selfies, telling each other how excited we are to see each other, other things basically implying we are going to hook up. I knew things were going pretty fast and I have seen things like this be cancelled before, and of course I get the text, "I'm sorry, I'm not ready to date right now." Usually I would reply some bs like "I understand, you're a sweet woman with a lot to offer, take all the time you need etc etc" but this time I just said, "yeah I saw this coming," and that was it, to which she replied, "I'm sorry." We were going to meet Jan 2, should I go cold on her until then or just move on completely? "I'm sorry, I'm not ready to date right now." -- This is your queue to move on . . . don't reach out to her again.
CobraX Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 I'm 28, she's 42. She looks very young so its not like if we went out it would look odd. We've been texting for a few days and heavy flirting. Selfies, telling each other how excited we are to see each other, other things basically implying we are going to hook up. I knew things were going pretty fast and I have seen things like this be cancelled before, and of course I get the text, "I'm sorry, I'm not ready to date right now." Usually I would reply some bs like "I understand, you're a sweet woman with a lot to offer, take all the time you need etc etc" but this time I just said, "yeah I saw this coming," and that was it, to which she replied, "I'm sorry." We were going to meet Jan 2, should I go cold on her until then or just move on completely? I would move on from this one.
phineas Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 LOL! I love it when women do this. get all flirty and such for days. Then the day before the date or day of the texting just stops on her end. Then they cancel. LOL! I can see it a mile away and just try to get nudes for fun and not affected when they bail. I don't even respond.
winny Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 LOL! I can see it a mile away and just try to get nudes for fun and not affected when they bail. I don't even respond. How mature
Author Mark1 Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 On the other hand, she is an older woman and probably wants to be pursued and feel pretty again.
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