katty Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 I am confused bc my best friend just told me that she thinks my ex just called to talk to me not out of obligation. Can anyone tell me what you think? He broke up with me yesterday, called me today to tell me about a rumor he heard about me that supposedly happened on the night that we had our first kiss. He also ask about my date that I had last night. Is he just trying to be nice or could he possibly still care about me and just called because he missed me. Arghhhh What does it matter, I keep telling myself that he just called because he needed to know the truth and that is all. Any help would be appreciated.
dresden Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 Maybe he is conflicted about having broken up with you. (I'm kind of surprised that you had another date that evening. Wow. Tell him not to contact you if he's serious about the break-up. If he says he made a mistake, you have to have a serious talk about what led him to break up with you. Maybe he did it to shake you up? You had another date immediately. Could he be jealous of your relationships with other guys? Anyway, try to be with your friends as much as you can and try to find some joy (chocolate maybe?).
katty Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 Do you think it was wrong to go out so soon? When I first started seeing my ex I was dating (non-intimate) a couple of other guys and he knew this. I really don't know what is the proper or right thing to do. I guess I thought it was ok to go out since he was the one that dumped me, if it had been the other way around I would not have went out so soon. It would have looked as if I was breaking up to go out with the other guy. I appreciate your reply, its crazy but its amazing how you can have a 30 minute conversation with someone and then spend 20 odd hours playing it over and over in your head and wonder if you said the right thing, wrong thing, etc. It makes me wonder why I even get into relationships. Arrrggghhh.
Zaira Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 He is probably just playing 101 different scenarios around in his head. Has he told you why he broke up with you? Maybe it was insecurity. Maybe you should call him and just talk it all out.
katty Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 His excuse for breaking up with me was because he is Catholic and I am not.
Zaira Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 That is all? Was that his decision, or do you think it has come from somewhere else ie. his parents? Or do you think there may have been more to it? I think he's missing you.
katty Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 I think his mother has a lot to do with the decision. He has been going to a lot more early morning mass services with his mom and I think that has a lot to do with it. I know it shouldn't make me feel good that you said he misses me but I can't lie it does, because I miss him to. I will not contact him so if we talk again it will have to be because he calls me. I really need to have my head examined because the last thing I need in my life is a momma's boy.
Marshbear Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 I think he's missing you. I think I told you in one of your other posts that he is missing you and it is his way of seeing how you are. If you still like each other why don't you talk about the break up and see if things can be worked out. If they can't then there is no problem in you dating other men. Don't do it just to get over him. Take some time to get the feelings out so you are not just rebounding. Rebounds just make you unhappy and do not solve the emotions in you. Time is the only healer....
katty Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 Yes I remember your telling me he may miss me, but I don't feel as if I should contact him to discuss the breakup when he chose that path. As for my dating, I know all about rebounds and would never put myself or another party thru one. I went out on a date only to keep my mind off of him. I wouldn't allow myself to get into anything serious and that is why I chose to go out with a guy that I have been out with before and we both enjoy each others conversation. I know you must feel like banging your head against a wall for having to repeat yourself, but just mark it down as my being female. lol.
Zaira Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 When he calls again next, which I am sure he will, why not ask him what the whole breaking up because you're not Catholic is about? Surely he knew you weren't Catholic when you first started dating.
katty Posted July 19, 2005 Posted July 19, 2005 He definitely knew I wasn't Catholic b/c he has known my sisters a very long time. I am assuming just maybe he wasn't thinking we would get as close as we did. He did say that he started thinking about our future together and he ask me if I could honestly tell him that I could see a future for us together. My answer was I couldn't answer that because I have not really thought that far into it because I thought it was too soon for thinking of us in the future and so it didn't cross my mind. He said he did and that is why we had to break up because it wasn't fair to either of us if we had no future together and he couldn't have one with me because I am not Catholic. Oh well, it maybe that he used his religion as an excuse to dump me, who knows. Instead of it becoming more clear as days go by it seems to be more confusing to me.
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