emagdnim Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 I met this girl while I was visiting my sister in the summer in a different city. We agreed to go for a casual drink during my time there, and it ended up turning into spending the majority of my next 3 days there with her. I visited again a month or so later and it was just as great as the first time, again spending a lot of time together over a few days. We had a strong emotional and physical connection that developed during that short time. She was very into me and told me this. We communicated everyday in between and continued to do so until recently. I haven't seen her in nearly 3 months but we were still talking lots and she often told me how much she liked me. She told me I should visit her for Christmas but that was going to be hard for me. I was hoping to arrange something for the new year but didn't share this with her. Recently she grew distant over the past few weeks so I spoke to her about things. She told me she likes me a lot and that talking to me is hard for her because it makes her like me more. She said she didn't think starting out long distance was a good thing and that she didn't know what to do. i'm feeling overwhelmingly guilty. I feel that we had a strong connection, quite possibly one of the stronger ones that I've had with a woman. I've never really felt as valued as she made me feel. however there is the complication of distance. However. What if I had found a way to visit over Christmas? then I feel like this wouldn't be happening right now. She says that's not the case but I don't know. I told her that I will just be supportive of whatever it is that will make her happiest. I feel like I backed down too easily, I'm overwhelmed with guilt. She likes me, I like her, we're separated by distance, and I'm already thinking what could have been, what I should have done, etc. Did I let her go too easily?
Redhead14 Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 I met this girl while I was visiting my sister in the summer in a different city. We agreed to go for a casual drink during my time there, and it ended up turning into spending the majority of my next 3 days there with her. I visited again a month or so later and it was just as great as the first time, again spending a lot of time together over a few days. We had a strong emotional and physical connection that developed during that short time. She was very into me and told me this. We communicated everyday in between and continued to do so until recently. I haven't seen her in nearly 3 months but we were still talking lots and she often told me how much she liked me. She told me I should visit her for Christmas but that was going to be hard for me. I was hoping to arrange something for the new year but didn't share this with her. Recently she grew distant over the past few weeks so I spoke to her about things. She told me she likes me a lot and that talking to me is hard for her because it makes her like me more. She said she didn't think starting out long distance was a good thing and that she didn't know what to do. i'm feeling overwhelmingly guilty. I feel that we had a strong connection, quite possibly one of the stronger ones that I've had with a woman. I've never really felt as valued as she made me feel. however there is the complication of distance. However. What if I had found a way to visit over Christmas? then I feel like this wouldn't be happening right now. She says that's not the case but I don't know. I told her that I will just be supportive of whatever it is that will make her happiest. I feel like I backed down too easily, I'm overwhelmed with guilt. She likes me, I like her, we're separated by distance, and I'm already thinking what could have been, what I should have done, etc. Did I let her go too easily? Go read the thread "When It Rains It Pours". It goes on for hundreds of pages/posts over the course of more than a year about a long distance relationship and the struggles and difficulties of trying to develop and maintain an LDR. You saved yourself and her a lot of time and emotional energy.
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