TheGreatDivide Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 Hey guys, so there's this girl at my work that I'm really smitten with and I'm in need of an extra set of opinions that aren't affected by my own bias on whether or not I should ask her out. Firstly, I need to point out that this job isn't my career. It's at a restaurant and something I'm only doing while I'm earning my degree. I don't plan on being at the job for more than a year or two, tops. So this girl, let me tell you, she's awesome. Funny with an infectious smile and laugh, a very kind person and just a blast to be around. She's naturally, a very happy person and very giggly. I didn't realize I was crushing on her until around early December when she came in one day and I had the butterflies when I saw her. Shocked the heck out of me, man. I wasn't looking to date anyone or to even crush on anyone, but sometimes, that can be out of your control. We're always talking and laughing together. We sing together when we hear our favorite songs and do stupid little dances, lol. Random customers have come up to us when we're taking their order and told us how cute we are together after we helped them. When people come into our restaurant, we're suppose to greet them and we'll both kinda do a back and forth greeting with each other. I've noticed too that how she touches me is different than how she does with everyone else. Namely, she doesn't really touch anyone else lol, but still. For example, if we're walking past each other, she'll sometimes get in my way and physically won't let me pass, other times she'll just gently grab my arm or place her hand on my back (I've noticed she doesn't do this with anyone else). Sometimes, when I'm just standing there, not doing anything, she'll walk past me and, there's no other way to put this, but gently caress my face with her hand and slide it from my cheek to my chin, while giving me a small little smile or she'll rub the back of my head when I have a headache. Other times there are things like, she'll leave her hands on mine longer than normal, she'll show me things on her hands or arm so that I have to take her hand to look at it. I had a really small cut on my finger the other day. I went to the back to clean and bandage it myself, but she came out of nowhere (didn't know she was back there), took my hand and did it herself. And finally, a week after I finally asked for her number (we've been talking nearly everyday since), the Friday before Christmas, she was hugging the rest of our co-workers since we were off for the weekend. She hugged me last and gave me a huge hug that lasted a couple of seconds, when she only one-armed hugged the other guys we work with and gave short hugs to the girls we work with. It's things like this that lead me to believe that she likes me too. Now, I know some of you guys might read this and be like, "You idiot! Ask her out already!" The only reason why I haven't is... well, because I'm an idiot. I haven't actually dated anyone else since I broke up with my ex over two years ago (my ex and I dated for 6 years). I've talked to other people before this, but not haven't actually dated anyone else. So it's a little terrifying, but only because I don't want to mess this up due to reading the signals wrong. This may be the dumbest question ever, but should I ask her out? 1
GTR King Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 Just ask her out man... You like her and she likes you... All that can happen is she says yess or no.. what's not to loose 2
Satu Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 Ask her out. (Before someone else does.) Take care. 1
LargoLagg Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 I've talked to other people before this, but not haven't actually dated anyone else. So it's a little terrifying, but only because I don't want to mess this up due to reading the signals wrong. This may be the dumbest question ever, but should I ask her out?The bolded part is very dangerous thinking. It points to a pattern of waiting for someone who you really like, rather than just dating and seeing what develops. You'd do yourself a big favor to simply ask girls out because you like them, or you like the way they look, not just because they've given you signals. Yes, you'll get a lot more rejections. Yes, you'll get a lot more dates that won't go anywhere. But when one like this comes along, you'll be more than ready, and you won't be worrying about "signals". See what I mean?
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 Her behavior looks promising. If you are nervous about asking want her out, how about bringing up something in conversation that you might both be interested in, like a movie, band or event. If that she responds well to that then ask her if she would like to go see it together (naming a time and date). I get the feeling she will be very happy to spend more time with you. 1
preraph Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 Look at it this way. If you don't have the nerve to ask her out and you're waiting for her to ask you, you also don't have the nerve to GO out. Stop being a scaredy mouse and just ask her out. It's a DATE, not a marriage proposal!
Author TheGreatDivide Posted December 31, 2016 Author Posted December 31, 2016 Thanks for the advice guys! So I manned up, got my nerves in check, asked her out today and... We have a date scheduled for next week! I've never seen a person's face light up like that before, when I asked her out. It was adorable. 2
Ronnys93 Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 Thanks for the advice guys! So I manned up, got my nerves in check, asked her out today and... We have a date scheduled for next week! I've never seen a person's face light up like that before, when I asked her out. It was adorable. Really happy for you! Keep us updated if you can
phineas Posted December 31, 2016 Posted December 31, 2016 if you gotta write out half a page of text she probably isn't interested. also never ask out co-workers. you have to see her every day when it implodes.
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