Sarah77 Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 What questions do you wish you would have asked before getting married?
SaveYourHeart Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 I don't think any questions would have a difference in my marriage. People change. They say they want kids, and suddenly they don't. They say they support gay marriage and then all of a sudden they think it's an abomination. 2
central Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 I would ask: is marriage necessary, or just desirable? Marriage can provide some pragmatic benefits that you can't get otherwise, but it also imposes some obligations and negatives if it doesn't work. Beyond that, I would ask myself if we are truly compatible in the important ways: ethics, beliefs, attitudes, life goals, family goals, habits (any we can't live with, especially!), financial attitudes, etc., as well as being similar in terms of sexual libido, frequency, and range of activities. Any one deal breaker is a deal breaker for it all. And love is NOT enough - there has to be a lot more than that for a successful relationship, married or not.
wmacbride Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 watch this... it's old, but there are some things about relationships that never change. Watch the other old movies that go along with it, and you will learn a lot about marriage, getting along, compromise and love.
Lady2163 Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 Huh. Good question. Married couples fight about five main things. Sex Finances Child care and rearing Household responsibilities Self government (doing things without being told) I would have asked more questions about all Of these to make sure we were on the same page. I would have asked more about future wants, needs and goals. 1
basil67 Posted December 30, 2016 Posted December 30, 2016 I'm pretty much with SaveYourHeart. I knew the answers to all the basic questions, but it was the fact that we changed in different directions was what got us. 2
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