LookAtThisPOst Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 I was Googling on "What is considered 'dating''? and came up with tons of articles on the ambiguous nature of the process these days and it is rather sad that is nebulous. I have known a few women that get irritated with men that aren't entirely clear about their intentions when asking them out...and thus these men sabotage their situations. Is It A Date Or Just "Hanging Out"? How Men Define Dating | YourTango The people I've talked to claimed it to be more of a Millennial thing. Those that don't abide by hanging out, where I see quite a few posts even here starting off with, "There was this girl I met and I asked her if she wanted to 'hang out' after...blah blah blah." You pretty much have to stop this poster in mid-sentence because my gut instinct is to say, "Stop right there, you asked her to 'hang out' instead of an actual date...so just call it a date." You know, Walks like a duck, talks like a duck, then it's a duck, right?
NuevoYorko Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 I can see why it confuses you, but one shouldn't get too hung up on labels. Just take it day by day and if there is mutual attraction and both are interested, something may develop. What is your stye of asking women on dates? From this post I assume that you are very clear with your intentions. Does it affect the ultimate outcome with the women you ask out?
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 28, 2016 Author Posted December 28, 2016 (edited) I can see why it confuses you, but one shouldn't get too hung up on labels. Just take it day by day and if there is mutual attraction and both are interested, something may develop. What is your stye of asking women on dates? From this post I assume that you are very clear with your intentions. Does it affect the ultimate outcome with the women you ask out? It doesn't confuse me in the least as I'm quite clear with my intentions, but it does usually confuse those being asked out. When I ask women out, my intentions are of a romantic interest. The end result is more clear to the receiver, so that way there is no ambiguity. Edited December 28, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst
Larryville Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 LATP I hear ya... I personally hate the term “dating” because the term is so blurry and confusing now… When I ask women out, my intentions are of a romantic interest. I have known a few women that get irritated with men that aren't entirely clear about their intentions when asking them out... Whether you call it “dating” or something else, both people should agree on a definition and the same ground rules for the relationship. Do you have romantic feelings for this person? Are you and the person you’re interested in both looking for a committed relationship? If you continue to go out…. Do both people in the relationship agree that it’s exclusive? When is that determined? When I meet someone online and I get to the point where I want to ask them out (a date), I am indeed asking them out for purely romantic interests. I am committing my time, and money and actions to try to hopefully create something more with that individual otherwise why bother?
WitlessFool Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 I have to agree with the "hanging out" stuff. It seems like a cop out to not want to call a spade a spade. I never even consider a man on OLD who wants to "hang out". Ask me on a date, for crying out loud. I'm 39 not 19.
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