Brittybritt92 Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 Hi everyone, I went on a date with someone I met online the other day. We had talked both texting and on the phone for a few days and the texts were constant back and fourth. Our date went (in my opinion) pretty well for a first date. We got breakfast together and he was making me laugh the whole time. He talked a lot and I could tell he was trying to impress me, but I could also tell he was very confident and intelligent, which was a huge turn on--so I was nervous After breakfast we went to a grassy area where he pulled out his guitar and sang to me. (I know it's so corny but I loved it!) We talked for another hour or so and he kissed me multiple times. We became very affectionate, little kisses on the nose and head, cuddling, and he mentioned going on another date where we could spend a full day together. Once we were walking back to the car he put his arm around me and then held my hand the whole ride home. He dropped me off a little earlier than we planned, but he told me he was trying to "keep it classy" he also mentioned driving home that now he had a lot to think about on his way home (that confused me a bit) He told me he would text me when he got home but texted me a little sooner than I expected with a kissy face "thanks for an amazing date" and then "Ttyl"- I responded with a kissy face and "I had a great time, drive safe! Ttyl" but didn't hear from him all of yesterday. I'm genuinely confused because I thought we had a really nice time, there wasn't a time where I felt like we weren't into each other, and the cutsie text right after the date led me to think he enjoyed it as well... I didn't text him either yesterday to be fair because I just don't want to screw anything up or seem needy. I'm so used to hearing from him though and this has really thrown me off. I've had mixed opinions from friends saying he wasn't really into me or that he is just testing me and waiting for me to text him... he's just always seemed very confident so I figured I would hear from him yesterday morning-- feeling a bit bummed out. What do you guys think is going on? Should I reach out or forget it? Thank you for your opinions!!
preraph Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 No. If you responded last telling him you had a good time, leave it alone and see if he asks you out again. You texted more before to get to know each other a little to see if you wanted to go out. But now if you text all the time between dates, what will you have to talk about in person? And there's the risk of it getting too familiar and losing the chemistry. Don't waste your best material texting!
GTR King Posted December 28, 2016 Posted December 28, 2016 After the he texted you then you texted him... I would say leave it a few days then message him again, if no reply move on. If he is interested or keen on you. he will reach out to plan the next date
Author Brittybritt92 Posted December 29, 2016 Author Posted December 29, 2016 He texted me today and said he hoped my day was going well. I responded really nicely and kind of left it at that. I don't really know what more I can say... I don't want to be the pursuer in this
KBob Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 Was your response inviting to more conversation? I'm a man so I'm on the other side of the fence but girls often use the "hope your day is going well" as an initiator for conversation. I'd say roll with it and see where it goes. What's the worst that can happen?
Author Brittybritt92 Posted December 29, 2016 Author Posted December 29, 2016 Yeah my response was flirty and he's usually been super confident via text but first he was typing and then stopped (that (...) stuff drives me nuts lol) and I didn't get a response until 20 mins later that kinda came off to me as either insecure or disinterested. It was like "haha I wish I could" and it kind of ended the conversation so I didn't respond. I've pulled back a bit and I'm trying to see what he does. I would really like to just plan another date if he's still interested and keep the conversation to a minimum before that, just not sure why he's texting me if he wasn't ...? Hmmm...
KBob Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 First of all, you need to stop looking at the .... and timing his texts, because you don't know what he's thinking and you'll just get in your head too much if you keep thinking about it. Let him make the next move, he's a guy, it's what we do if we're interested. If you don't hear from him for a couple days throw him a "hope your day is going well". If he doesn't bite then you have your answer.
GunslingerRoland Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 So wait, he brings his guitar with him to a breakfast first date, so he can serenade you afterwards? I'm sorry that sounds like a little too much. I'm guessing he goes on a lot of these dates... 1
Kempeitai Posted December 29, 2016 Posted December 29, 2016 So wait, he brings his guitar with him to a breakfast first date, so he can serenade you afterwards? I'm sorry that sounds like a little too much. I'm guessing he goes on a lot of these dates... I was thinking the same thing.
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