Is my girlfriend trying to make me jealous? ***Updated***

[umirano]

Good for you, 4x4. You'll harden emotionally, the crying will become more controllable. Now go full no contact and keep it that way. The worst thing that can happen now is a tug and pull game, getting back together or not and all these mind games. Kill all that non-sense right out of the gate by maintaining no contact.

 

Block, delete, forget, ignore.

No messages, no FB checking, no friends or relatives playing messenger, no nada.

 

I wish you a happy 2017

[TheTraveler]

but this is where it all went downhill we started making out and she would continually stop to message someone on Facebook. She later opened up to me and told me it was the Ikea guy. I asked her to put her phone away and explained she couldn't because her and this guy were setting up to meet each other.

 

If this happens again to you in the future, you kick her out immediately and tell her to go home

 

Good job for getting rid of her. The relationship ran its course

[4x4storm]

I would like to thank everyone for voicing what they think on this. While I would like to go the whole no contact I just discovered a bunch of her stuff she left here. I feel it's the mature thing to only return them.

[4x4storm]

Stop all the excuses to keep in touch somehow. Put everything in a box and if she wants she can contact YOU and she pick it up. Mature thing to do is to realize how messed up you are to tolerate that level of disrespect and move on completely and fully. Self respect!

 

As I've never done this before should I just leave it on her front door?

[Gaeta]

As I've never done this before should I just leave it on her front door?

 

Yes, I am sure you found nothing expensive.

 

You may be an emotional man but you've got guts my friend ! Breaking up with her was the right thing to do. I know it was hard for you but I assure you it was the best! A lot of people come on here to complain and end up doing nothing. You're above all that.

Edited December 29, 2016 by Gaeta

[phineas]

As I've never done this before should I just leave it on her front door?

 

its her crap.

let her come get it.

leave it on your front door.

but only if she comes looking for it.

otherwise remain no contact.

 

good job on letting her know you can't trust her.

Talk is cheap.

She was planing to meet up with an ex she thought was hot and keeping it from you.

totally trust worthy.

 

sorry but if you had done the same thing she'd of probably slashed your tires or thrown a brick through your window.

Or maybe not since it looks like this hot guy pumped and dumped her?

 

see, that's another thing about this woman.

no self respect.

the guy did her wrong but because he is hot she wanted to be around him.

 

I smell monkeybranch.

[savvy2008]

When my last ex and I broke up, it was right before our 6 monthiversary (lol) and I had already bought a few small gifts for him, I had his clothes at my house, he had my makeup and toiletries at his. We decided to be "adult" about it and exchange the things.

 

 

I believe it led to us getting back together. We cried and missed each other, we dated for about another 3 months before the same issue broke us up again.

 

 

What I'm trying to say is, don't do it. You'll fall into a similar situation that I did, I can almost guarantee it. Got a mutual friend that can do the trade? Is it possible to leave her stuff in a box by the side door or something, so it's not right out there in front for someone to take?

[larrynelson]

Understand what she need from you.

[Maldives]

She's a lil selfish **** tard get rid of her dude

[4x4storm]

She's a lil selfish **** tard get rid of her dude

***UPDATE***

 

Love to see someone still commenting on this but here's a quick update on what happened in the end just in case anyone in the future comes across this thread.

 

After a week of being broken up I decided to give the whole trust thing ago and got back with her. She quickly mentions when we broke up she rescheduled to meet him so she shoots him a quick message telling him we are back together and there will be no meeting up. He is cool with it and wishes both of us the best but my girlfriend was so surprised this guy was so cool about it. Big Red Flag!

 

The first two weeks being back together was so s*** I took her out for dinner and walks on the beach and she would promise to call/text me the next day but never would so I was always reaching out. At times she would also cancel my calls and not get back to me for the next hour she denied ever doing that but I was no fool.

 

Then one night she had a massive "Anxiety Attack" and did not speak to me for days I was sick of messing around and confronted her. Pretty much said if you don't like being with me you can walk away now. But she wanted to stay with me

 

Then all of sudden BAM! our relationship exploded to all new heights she is now calling me everyday after work. we are now having rough passionate sex multiple times a week she even stopped snapchatting and texting that guy but then.....

 

I'm taking her out for a date one night so I go to pick her up. I arrive and she is on facebook talking to some guy I was cool with it's just small talk I asked a little about him. So she leaves me with the laptop to browse her Facebook while she made a call to her parents so I open up her conversations and she is talking to the IKEA guy again...... the last message she sent him was "My boyfriend just got here better run" I looked at some of the previous messages and it was just all small talk nothing sinister but couldn't go back to far because it seems the previous conversations was deleted.

 

I was a little angry but I still took her out and didn't mention it. While driving she turns to me and said she ran into her ex boyfriend today while looking to buy her new laptop. I JUMPED on the breaks in traffic and turned to her said "So you just went and said hello to your apparent crazy stalker abusive ex boyfriend!!!?" she was like well yeah...

 

I was done I was sick of all the drama I just didn't know what to believe anymore nothing ever made sense. We talked for a little while trying to fix our relationship until she finally admitted she went back to IKEA that day to seek out that guy her reason was because she wanted to talk about serious things with another man. I started to break down and said "I was always there for you so don't pull that excuse"

 

In the end we broke up she was very heartless about the whole thing and called me a bunch of names. We have been NC for 3 weeks now but she attempted to break the necklace I gave her when I received it back. But this is where stuff get's crazy when I was organizing my apartment I noticed random things were broken! you could tell the damage was done on purpose! I was confused because the only person I ever left alone in my apartment was..........her.

 

But that was only once way before any issues started. I thought I was losing it going crazy so I looked for therapy I told them my situation and mentioned my ex had Depression and Anxiety. They told me not to bother and revealed to me I was in a abusive relationship they believe my ex had something much worse then Depression and Anxiety at play and explained she was manipulating me like a sick twisted game. The strange thing is I feel a little sorry because I now know she is a very ill person.

[Gaeta]

But that was only once way before any issues started. I thought I was losing it going crazy so I looked for therapy I told them my situation and mentioned my ex had Depression and Anxiety. They told me not to bother and revealed to me I was in a abusive relationship they believe my ex had something much worse then Depression and Anxiety at play and explained she was manipulating me like a sick twisted game. The strange thing is I feel a little sorry because I now know she is a very ill person.

 

Please stop it ! she was a cheater, a 2 face liar, controlling and manipulative. She didn't do this because of anxiety or depression. Anxiety and depression does not make people liars and cheaters.