Short notice for a date from a guy

[Cirilla]

Hi everybody,

 

I went out for drinks last week with a guy I really hit it off with. We were acquaintances beforehand so I never actually knew if our meetup was a date--although it did end up lasting 5 hours which flew by. The next day, he thanked me for the round I bought and I said we should do it again. He said "definitely!" I asked him when he was around this upcoming week and he said two potential days he might be. The first of which is tomorrow. I decided to try and confirm the date (it it even is one) myself and he said he wouldn't know until tomorrow for work reasons.

 

What to make of this? Should I still be open to going and give him the benefit of the doubt, or is this a sign of disrespect/bad planning? He seems a very nice guy overall; I don't think he's a player or anything. What would you do? Thanks!

[phineas]

well, did he say possibly tomorrow or did he say for sure he was free tomorrow?

you gotta chill out here.

[Cirilla]

Yeah, he said "might be" last week, to be fair. I wouldn't hold it against him if he wasn't since he didn't say definitely, I'm just the type of person who likes notice one way or the other.

[Cirilla]

I was very nonchalant and non-pressuring today, also. I started the conversation with something else and later said "you up for doing something tomorrow?" I didn't freak out on him or anything.

[winny]

wait for tomorrow and see if he gets back with a confirmation.

[Cirilla]

So in your opinion, it would be reasonable to make plans at that time for the same night?

[winny]

So in your opinion, it would be reasonable to make plans at that time for the same night?

 

If he responds before 12 pm then agree, else say that hey sorry this is bit late so I cant make it today and get a rain check....

[Cirilla]

He texted me today and told me he couldn't make it because of something work-related (which is fine since he said that would be possible), but said he should be available on a specific day next week. I don't think he's trying to blow me off otherwise he wouldn't have mentioned "how about next Thursday", but it's now up to him to initiate that next week.

 

As to whether or not the other day was a date or just two friends hanging out for drinks, that is a question I've asked myself. Most people I talk to said it sounded like a date (talked for longer than originally planned, he texted me the next day, offered me New Year's, etc), but he didn't make a move so I don't know. Either of those is possible.

[amaysngrace]

He doesn't sound that interested.

 

I think if he was he'd want to see you sooner than that.

[Cirilla]

He doesn't sound that interested.

 

I think if he was he'd want to see you sooner than that.

 

He had originally said he might be available either today or New Year's Eve, so he also put Saturday on the table before but I only said I'd be around on this day. His work is closed on NYE so I probably would have had a different outcome if I'd picked it, but I have other plans.

[amaysngrace]

He had originally said he might be available either today or New Year's Eve, so he also put Saturday on the table before but I only said I'd be around on this day. His work is closed on NYE so I probably would have had a different outcome if I'd picked it, but I have other plans.

 

Ah okay. Nothing wrong with taking it slow either I guess.

[Cirilla]

Ah okay. Nothing wrong with taking it slow either I guess.

 

Yeah. I really like him but I guess I just have to play this one by ear and see how it goes. And if he doesn't get in touch next week, I'm prepared to be out the door yesterday.