What areas of the United States do Indian men not have a terrible image?

[Ruby Slippers]

I'm a decent to cute blonde, and I dated an Indian man. He was a top guy by most sexual marketplace measures - good-looking, charming, refined, smart, high-earning. We traveled together a bit, and I found in general we got the most scrutiny and judgment in smaller towns in various geographic areas.

 

It's true that in a world where whites have economic dominance, white people are at the top of the dating ladder. Like you and it seems most Indian guys, my Indian boyfriend had a thing for blonde white girls, too. He chose me, a decent to cute blonde, over any number of gorgeous Indian women he could have had, probably because my overall look turned him on more sexually. Which was good for me, because he drove me wild, too

 

My dad would no doubt prefer that I date white men, and that's the factor that will keep a good number of white women from even considering a non-white guy. But beyond his judgment, there's another story.

 

Personally, I find Indian men and lots of other ethnicities very attractive. My most intense work crush is on an Indian guy

[ElizabethIII]

OP i got some bad news. Most girls are not gonna be interested in Indian dudes.

 

Ask yourself, how many men in the US would be interested in an Aboriginal girl from Austrailia.

 

That isnt true. I am interested in Indian dudes as skin color does not bother me. They dont seem to take white women seriously other than for a fling with a white girl before they find someone of their own race to marry.

 

That might be why white women are put off. However I am not in the USA and the situation there may be different.

[normal person]

I think it does, there is no vendetta against Indian men in Florida but there seems to be one among people in the northeast.

 

So in Florida, women like Indian men. As soon as you cross the Mason-Dixon, there's a "vendetta." Got it.

 

All of this does play a role as girls who are brought up in these areas are told to hate and avoid Indian looking men which makes them avoid them. Not sure if westernized or not has a difference, you can change behavior but you can't change your racial appearance and women are primarily judging men by ethnic appearance.

 

I've lived in the northeast for 29 of my 30 years, I've never heard of anyone being "told to hate and avoid Indian looking men." You're just making this crap up.

 

Where I grew up there was one family of 3 Indian brothers in our high school. One of them was very studious, obedient, docile. He was a likable, nice, guy but struggled with women. His two brothers on the other hand were much more westernized, were very gregarious and class clowns, and everyone wanted to hang out with them, including the girls. You saw the same patterns across all races. The asians, middle easterners, whites, whatever, who were more "hip" and westernized did fine with all the opposite sex. The ones who were less outgoing, more awkward, less "with it," did poorly. Race had nothing to do with it. What you're doping is assuming that an "uncool," "unappealing" person who happens to also be a minority isn't a success with women as a result of his race rather than his sex appeal. Are there some people that might prefer one race or another and not a certain race? Sure. The same way you prefer white, blond women.

 

There is no secret white conspiracy against Indian men. Sorry to burst your bubble.

[smackie9]

Are women truly "judging" ethnic appearance??, or personally just don't find your ethnic group attractive??

[ses]

Oh boy. N=2, but both my boyfriend's brother and an ENT I've heard of in my area are in successful, long-term relationships with blondes. I don't think they are anomalies. Yes, there's a stigma against Indian men from India but I would attribute it more due to cultural differences than an actual prejudice.

 

I really like and am attracted to brown guys. Honestly, I used to not pursue South Asian men primarily due to the expectation of an arranged marriage; it had nothing to do with their appearance. Perhaps discrimination is more prevalent in rural areas but that problem could easily be mitigated by moving to an area with an established Indian community.

[vampirebrat]

Like you and it seems most Indian guys, my Indian boyfriend had a thing for blonde white girls, too.

 

Super common in Mediterranean countries and Asia as well. I went to Greece as a kid, I had bright blonde and am as pale as they come. People were just obsessed with me. I even got free food.

 

It's the exotica factor. If something's unusual, it's attractive.

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