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What does it mean when a guy cancels a date at the last minute?


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Last night, a guy that I knew asked me out on a date and he was very excited to see me. We have gone out a few times before and I had feelings for him and he had feelings for me also. He asked me out to dinner and I agreed to go. Then he texted me that he was getting ready to leave his house in a few minutes and then I texted him saying ok that's fine. Then a half hour has passed and I still haven't heard from him then I texted him asking where he was and then he texted me back saying that he couldn't make it. Why would he make plans with me and cancel at the last minute?

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Have you asked him? We have no way of knowing why he canceled.

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Last night, a guy that I knew asked me out on a date and he was very excited to see me. We have gone out a few times before and I had feelings for him and he had feelings for me also. He asked me out to dinner and I agreed to go. Then he texted me that he was getting ready to leave his house in a few minutes and then I texted him saying ok that's fine. Then a half hour has passed and I still haven't heard from him then I texted him asking where he was and then he texted me back saying that he couldn't make it. Why would he make plans with me and cancel at the last minute?

 

He owes you an explanation. But don't chase him for it. Don't reach out to him again. Let him call you first, no matter how long it takes. If he does that very soon and gives a credible explanation, fine. If he takes three days to reach out to you, you decide then how you are feeling about him. In this case, if it were me, I wouldn't answer again, ever.

 

What does it mean -- in this particular case, it means he has no respect for you or your time . . . At the very least, he should have called you after that second text -- not tell you via text he can't make it when he said he was on his way earlier. Unless he had been in an accident and dealing with police at the scene, etc., he owed you a phone call!!!!

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He owes you an explanation.

 

What does it mean -- in this particular case, it means he has no respect for you or your time . . . At the very least, he should have called you after that second text -- not tell you via text he can't make it when he said he was on his way earlier. Unless he had been in an accident and dealing with police at the scene, etc., he owed you a phone call!!!!

 

I agree that he should explain this.

 

I had to cancel a date one time because my grandmother went to the hospital, so this stuff does happen.

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Have you asked him? We have no way of knowing why he canceled.

 

No I didn't ask him.

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No I didn't ask him.

 

Why waste your time asking us? The only person that can answer the question is him. Find out what the reason for the date cancellation is... and if you are still confused this is a good forum to help you.

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No I didn't ask him.

 

Work on your communication skills.

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Don't bother texting him until he messages you...

 

if you get no reply then move on...

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He's married or in a relationship.

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Have you asked him? We have no way of knowing why he canceled.

 

Let me get out my crystal ball....

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No I didn't ask him.

 

Why not? Don't you think you deserve an explanation?

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He owes you an explanation. But don't chase him for it. Don't reach out to him again. Let him call you first, no matter how long it takes. If he does that very soon and gives a credible explanation, fine. If he takes three days to reach out to you, you decide then how you are feeling about him. In this case, if it were me, I wouldn't answer again, ever.

 

What does it mean -- in this particular case, it means he has no respect for you or your time . . . At the very least, he should have called you after that second text -- not tell you via text he can't make it when he said he was on his way earlier. Unless he had been in an accident and dealing with police at the scene, etc., he owed you a phone call!!!!

 

I agree, I wouldn't reach out to him either..

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Why not? Don't you think you deserve an explanation?

 

No only that....but basic conversation.

 

"Sorry. I can't make tonight"

"Oh, that's a shame - what happened?"

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I don't know if I would bother again with him if I were you. It seems lax of him to say he was on his way and then suddenly cancel at the last minute. Unfortunately I've come across people like this who don't think anything of letting others down if they don't feel like doing something.

 

However if it was indeed an emergency, you'd think he might say something soon to explain what happened. If it was a genuine emergency, I imagine he'll make an effort to get in touch. But I wouldn't chase him if I were you.

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just chill.

People who flake usually make up the dumbest excuses for why they can't make it.

 

If a woman did this to me i'd ask what happened or i'd just leave it until whatever crisis is averted.

it really depends if it's a first date or someone i've been dating.

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OP, I think you need to work on your communication skills.

 

Why didn't you ask him?

 

Your other thread is about guys ghosting after sex - again, it's a communication issue.

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He brushed you off. Either his buddies came over suddenly or a girl showed up. Either way, most who cancel (due to illness or whatever) will explain, apologize and make plans for another time, he didn't do that so chances are he's not worth it. Don't contact him again.

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