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There's a woman I met on eharmony for a last year and I recently saw she came up in my daily matches on another online dating website. We never went out on a date and just texted for a couple months. She changed jobs and it seemed like we could never meet up. Do you think I should contact her to try to reconnect?

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sure go ahead... what do you have to lose?

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Soooo you messaged her for two months......did you ever try to ask her out during that time? If you did, did she give you the song and dance about being too busy etc?

 

If so don't bother, she's not interested.

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Soooo you messaged her for two months......did you ever try to ask her out during that time? If you did, did she give you the song and dance about being too busy etc?

 

If so don't bother, she's not interested.

 

song and dance... ha ha ha

 

yeah... did she ???

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I suspect she had plenty of excuses.........

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I would give it a try. Often times online I have so much attention I know I lose a lot of guys just because I don't have the time to get to know them all. Timing is a huge component of a relationship IMO. If she doesn't respond or is still lukewarm then you have your answer.

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song and dance... ha ha ha

 

yeah... did she ???

 

She's not interested, at least not that much. Guys that I'm interested in, I go out with fairly quickly, the ones I'm not but sorta interested in, I'll kinda string along and say I'm busy, blah, blah. I know it's wrong, but just being honest here.

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thanks for the reply. after the new year I will reach out to her.

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She's not interested, at least not that much. Guys that I'm interested in, I go out with fairly quickly, the ones I'm not but sorta interested in, I'll kinda string along and say I'm busy, blah, blah. I know it's wrong, but just being honest here.

 

This is true but this is also why I bring up timing. If I have the time to go on 2-3 dates per week and I just finished a week where all my dates went well and they asked me out quickly again, I often will see where things go with them first before trying to add another guy into the mix even if he seems decent.

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She's not interested, at least not that much. Guys that I'm interested in, I go out with fairly quickly, the ones I'm not but sorta interested in, I'll kinda string along and say I'm busy, blah, blah. I know it's wrong, but just being honest here.

 

That happened to me once. Talked to a woman on-line but she was always busy or whatever. I gave up after 2 weeks. Then about a month later, I bumped into her while I was on a date, oh boy did she change her tune. She started pursuing me big time, but at that point I was seeing someone.

 

I get why it's difficult for women. It's hard to get a feel for someone through photos and text, especially when there's a myriad of other suitors drowning you in attention.

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That happened to me once. Talked to a woman on-line but she was always busy or whatever. I gave up after 2 weeks. Then about a month later, I bumped into her while I was on a date, oh boy did she change her tune. She started pursuing me big time, but at that point I was seeing someone.

 

I get why it's difficult for women. It's hard to get a feel for someone through photos and text, especially when there's a myriad of other suitors drowning you in attention.

The reason is that she saw you with someone else....when they see you with other women it brings up your value. Her reaction probably would have been different if you were by yourself.

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