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dichotomy Established Member

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If so - can you share what its like?

Larryville Established Member

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Question for ya, what do you magically think happens when someone turns 50?

 

For me my biggest obstacle is women who turn 50 are still raising kids, nothing wrong with that other than being a mom is a top priority and I’m not going to compete with that, many men might just not me.

 

The other issue, if a woman who is now in her 50’s came out of a long marriage many are in no way nearing the ability to actually be in a relationship with anyone because a woman is typically “reinventing” herself transitioning into being single, again raising kids, career changes, maybe going back to school and figuring that she no longer needs a man to be happy.

 

Women who are not 50 are much better at being single and independent than most men are.

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Gaeta Established Member

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I was on the dating market from age 45 to 50. I think each has a unique experience as we all have a different past and seeking different things.

 

I had a good time dating, I dated tons, and even if it turned out extremely difficult to meet a serious man I lived what I had to live, I lean the lessons I had to learn and today I 100% appreciate the man in my life.

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dichotomy Established Member

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Question for ya, what do you magically think happens when someone turns 50?

 

 

Menopause ? ;)

 

ED? :cool:

 

AARP Card and discounts at the Old Country Buffet ? :D

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Larryville Established Member

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Menopause ?

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AARP Card and discounts at the Old Country Buffet ?

 

Ok well yes, but I’ve known far more women who did the Menopause thing before their 50’s

ED yes what 50 percent over 50…

 

AARP card yes been getting those in the mail LOL!

 

There is this gap that I find where some women are so into taking care of themselves that a good number I have run into look far better than women in their late 30’s 40’s.

 

If their husband left them for younger models they will try to reinvent themselves and thereby like to play the field more and won’t settle as easily and are looking for “pure” companionship.

 

The flip side, so many give up and get frumpy, fat, bitter…

 

Other 50’s plus attributes for women is they won’t be in “awe” of dudes and hang on their every word. Less susceptible to men BS also they won’t be interested in pumping any dudes ego or making some dude feel young.

 

Men in their 50s…. they don’t often like change… especially in the bedroom

Men in their 50s (biggest issue I hear) like to complain, about every freaking thing.

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Formerfiveo Established Member

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Okay, I'll bite.

 

Married for the 1st time in my early 40's. No kids.

 

Asked for a divorce in my late 40s - very amicable and still friends.

 

I'm in my early 50's and am retired, no dependents, no debt, no menopause (yet), own my own house (from before marriage), no AARP (the deals aren't that great, I can do better) and found that I wasn't attracted to men my age or older. I KNOW there are attractive, fit men in their 50s and beyond, but I didn't meet any while I was in dating mode.

 

I do have wrinkles, and I color my roots, but I take care of myself and am in the gym lifting weights daily. Heavy weights.

 

I also compete in races (bike, running, triathlons) so my peer group is early to mid 30s.

 

I was set up on a blind date with my current bf - divorced, sans kids, and mid 40s. He says I have the body of an 18 yo. I disagree, but who am I to argue with his biased opinion. ;)

 

I didn't do OLD, nor did I barhop. I just recruited some trusted friends and told them that I was looking to date and to keep me in mind if they knew any single men. :)

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I am 49 and never married. No menopause and no kids. (No interest in kids either.)

 

 

I have been with the same man for 8 years now, but thinking about ending it.

 

 

I am NOT looking forward to being back in the dating scene. In fact, it will be a lllooonnngggg time before I date again.

 

 

Thankfully I own my own home and am independent.

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Formerfiveo Established Member

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Primer, I just read your thread.

 

Please, please, please end it! That is not a relationship, and yes, he is controlling you.

 

No kids and financially independent? We're a hot commodity, girlfriend! :)

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I'm in 50s but married. Have a couple of single 50s friends ( men ). While set in their ways , if given a choice between a woman in 40s and 50s, they choose the 40s woman.

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Gaeta Established Member

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Men in their 50s…. they don’t often like change… especially in the bedroom

Men in their 50s (biggest issue I hear) like to complain, about every freaking thing.

 

I am a witness to that.

 

Between 45 and 50 I rarely dated men in their 50s. They were very set in their ways, often they're stuck in gender roles, and most of all very very bitter! They carry anger toward women or their ex years after they're divorced. It was too heavy to date them.

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I'm freshly 54 and 17+ months out of a 10-year "interaction" with my ex gf; prior to her I was in two LTRs, one 5 years and the other 7. No kids.

 

I haven't dated in 10 years until recently; having been subjected to the narcissistic cycle of abuse in my last "interaction", I've learned so much and those lessons have served me well in my recent dating adventures.

 

OLD is, IMHO, complete garbage and a waste of my time and energy.

 

The women I've recently dated were local "real" people who I met either randomly and chatting them up, or were recommended by a mutual friend, or at local "singles" gatherings in my area.

 

I dated one rich older (62) woman for 3 weeks until I realized she was likely disordered in some way; I ended it and my suspicions were confirmed: she unloaded on me in a fashion consistent with Cluster B personality traits.

 

I dated another woman in her 50s who, on the first date, said to me, "I guess you could say I'm a psycho." I took her at her word and there was no 2nd date.

 

I'm currently in a loose FWB situation with another woman (late 50s) I met at the market; we've been on a few "dates" but basically we go somewhere, have some drinks, then come back to my place for sex. I have no interest in her as a long-term partner but when we're together, we have a good time. I'm happy with that.

 

I do, however, feel I have many attributes that make me good later-life husband material so after the holidays I shall resume my efforts in seeking a trustworthy and kind woman.

 

I know I have a lot of dating to do and a lot of work ahead of me; there is simply no way to know if someone is right for me until I've spent some decent time getting to know them, so I'm patient and willing to wait.

 

Until then, I'm loving being single. It's all about me. Marsha, Marsha, Marsha!

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Been awhile but my remembrance of 50's dating was same, same as earlier in life except with fewer rug rats running around since they were adults and gone. It was markedly different dating without having to constantly work around the childcare thing. More relaxing. The ladies seemed more relaxed too. There was still some rancor over past intimacies but I just tuned that out. Marriage teaches lessons :D

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