Jam89 Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 (edited) Haha I suggest copying and pasting into a new reply and putting some breaks in there. I read what I could bare to read and kind of blocked out some information. I suggest keeping the information that is most important to the break up. From what I gather, he is in a rut in the relationship. He distanced himself. He's been thinking about breaking up for a while. He's depressed meaning he's swaying back and forth between the choice. He finally did it. Feels like he may regret it. And you are in the same boat as many people. Whether you subscribe to GIGS or emotional immaturity or cold feet, or something else all together, that's what it seems like to me. I think it's pretty normal for any young person, guy or girl, when in a long relationship that lasts much of their twenties, and when in a rut, to think of what else is out there. Someone may have caught his eye, he may have flirted once and got the thought. I'm a fan of the middle ground where the relationship begins to get to be a routine and comfortable or some needs are not being met or a lot of stress straining the communication in the relationship. It may only be a couple things, but when mixed with the thought of greener grass, it spreads like wild fire in your ex's head. He may take some time off to just deal with stress but from what I have noticed from many threads, a lot of ex's leave for a variation of reasons and tend to go to the arms of different people. Again, you know your ex the best more so than anyone on here. However, it's surprising how contradictory their reason for the break up is and their subsequent actions can be. For me, and I don't bet, but I would put my money on that he wants to see other people. Take this as an opportunity to commit to no contact, regain your confidence and independence, and if it is nothing other than him dealing with his stress, you got a good break to gain your self back. For some people, they can throw away 8 years to search for other people, and experts say the longer the relationship, the more likely for reconciliation. So it is up to you whether you will take this time to heal and move, which is what I suggest, or you could heal and move on. Yea either way, this is your best option. He finds someone else, and you'll already be healing and moving on. He wants a reconciliation? Only way is to heal and move on to have a successful one. So sorry about your break up, I've also been dumped... Really crossing my fingers that he's just stressed! -WhatDEWWWWW Edited December 27, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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