Walylynn86 Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Hello, I have been seeing this guy for the past two and half months and let me tell you, it has been very interesting..as we are both Scorpios. We met last year through one of our mutual best friends. At the time, we were both seeing other people, but when I saw him, I was mesmerized. Little did I know he had a crush on me and wanted to take me out but my friend had failed to tell me at the time. When i saw him at her party, it was like we knew each other forever. We began seeing each other however I am a little confused on how the relationship is going.. Let's just say every time we are intimate, he is very anxious. He is also very curious to my whereabouts and expects me to respond to texts or phone calls within a particular time. He also was very reluctant to open up until I would open up and would be shocked if I didn't completely open up or if I mentioned I didn't trust him all the way. Even though We would literally talk everyday, there has been at least two occasions, where he would ignore me for days and then respond like nothing was wrong. I have expressed my concerns to him however he doesn't seem to give me a reason on why he is the way he is. The last episode, I mentioned breaking things off. When I realized I was being very emotional, I can tell he was upset. I also expressed my concerns to out friend and she mentioned that he is a very weird guy when it comes to dating. But she also said I should't worry as she never have seen him like this with a girl. Normally he would just talk to girls for fun and not make any sort of effort. However I am afraid he is treating me just like one of his past girls and he's not being honest. If he likes me and wants to date, great but if not please tell me. I can't seem to figure him out. What should I do? Should I continue to give him space until he comes around or just forget about the whole thing? I really like him and the fact he's been not speaking to me is driving me insane. What is crazy is he's 40 while I am 27, so I would think his maturity would be a little more advanced.
butterfly84 Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 (edited) I don't think it has to do with your signs but maybe just that he isn't being as direct as you. Sounds like you have tried to discuss things which is the right way to go about this but he is still using behaviors that are not as direct like not talking for a few days. Maybe give him a few days of space then re-open the questions, but this time don't mention breaking up because that might seem like a threat to him and might make him respond different just to keep you. Just try having a discussion where nothing is at stake and say what your needs are. Focus on the things you need something like 'i can't always respond to messages right away so i just need to make sure the person i am with understands that' - put more focus on you. then he can better tell if he can meet your needs. he may not know why he is how he is, but maybe he will be able to tell if he can be the person you need or not. does that make sense? It may just be that you guys aren't as compatible as you hope to be. relationships should be fun and nice so you don't want to ever feel confused or like you can't be open. goodluck and let us know how it goes! Edited December 27, 2016 by butterfly84 typo
Gaeta Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 He is controlling and manipulative and it's just a matter of time before he becomes abusive. End this right now. This is not how healthy relationships progress. Ever wonder why he goes after women half his age? THAT is because women his age won't put up with his sh$t. What do you think a 40 year old woman would tell him if he commented on the fact she does not return his call right away? yep, she'd tell him to go..... Younger women like you are easier to manipulate and control so before he screws up your heart and mind and you can't enjoy a normal relationship again just dump this clown. And your friend is the worse person to advice you. She knows him as friend which means she has no clue what it is to date him. I know men that are great friends but are awful boyfriends.
umirano Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Dating (or not) based on zodiac signs is like dating (or not) based on race. Both are concepts without any logical, reasonable base. Stop doing it. Find your justification to date someone (or to stop doing so) based on real world facts.
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