tilby Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 Hi, I've just started dating a guy I've known for about 2 months. We get on really well, he's smart, intelligent and he treats me well when we're together. Issue I'm having is that he rarely phones to chat only text message, completely drops off the contact radar after about 5pm until about 8am or so. Even on weekends. We have been on 3 dates only, but I find it very odd that if I send him a message at 6pm asking how his day was etc. he would never reply until the next morning. He told me he wasn't seeing anyone else before we started dating, so I automatically presume it wouldn't be that. He also said he'd work around my schedule in arranging dates. I'm a working single mum. He sends sweet messages every morning. I just can't shake this extremely eerie feeling I have about the evening contact thing. Like he's already in a relationship or something. I know its only 3 dates but this feeling I have is really bugging me. I'm only a few months out of a previous relationship that ended badly, could it be too soon for me to date again??
salparadise Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 The evening disappearance is a bit odd, but I don't think you should assume so much. Have you asked? Is three months too soon? You tell us. Are you still thinking about your ex all the time, and do thoughts of him trigger emotions? It's highly variable as to how much time is necessary. When you can go a whole day without him crossing your mind, you're moving forward. If you can't go more than an hour or two, it's too soon. That's my perception anyway, your mileage may vary. Have these three dates been spread over the two months, or did you not start dating until a couple of weeks ago? Once or twice a month is way too infrequent for you to be feeling invested. It also may support the suspicion regarding the evening texts. I think you should ask questions.
Redhead14 Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 Hi, I've just started dating a guy I've known for about 2 months. We get on really well, he's smart, intelligent and he treats me well when we're together. Issue I'm having is that he rarely phones to chat only text message, completely drops off the contact radar after about 5pm until about 8am or so. Even on weekends. We have been on 3 dates only, but I find it very odd that if I send him a message at 6pm asking how his day was etc. he would never reply until the next morning. He told me he wasn't seeing anyone else before we started dating, so I automatically presume it wouldn't be that. He also said he'd work around my schedule in arranging dates. I'm a working single mum. He sends sweet messages every morning. I just can't shake this extremely eerie feeling I have about the evening contact thing. Like he's already in a relationship or something. I know its only 3 dates but this feeling I have is really bugging me. I'm only a few months out of a previous relationship that ended badly, could it be too soon for me to date again?? Three dates in two months? This guy isn't too serious about you. I'd say you're a back burner girl at best. Were you intimate with him and when? It may be too soon for you to date anyway. But this guy wouldn't be showing me enough to keep me interested. In fact, I'd have moved on and stopped responding after the first couple of weeks. Move on. You're wasting your time. 3
Gr8fuln2020 Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 Hi, I've just started dating a guy I've known for about 2 months. We get on really well, he's smart, intelligent and he treats me well when we're together. Issue I'm having is that he rarely phones to chat only text message, completely drops off the contact radar after about 5pm until about 8am or so. Even on weekends. We have been on 3 dates only, but I find it very odd that if I send him a message at 6pm asking how his day was etc. he would never reply until the next morning. He told me he wasn't seeing anyone else before we started dating, so I automatically presume it wouldn't be that. He also said he'd work around my schedule in arranging dates. I'm a working single mum. He sends sweet messages every morning. I just can't shake this extremely eerie feeling I have about the evening contact thing. Like he's already in a relationship or something. I know its only 3 dates but this feeling I have is really bugging me. I'm only a few months out of a previous relationship that ended badly, could it be too soon for me to date again?? He's probably tending to his family and wife during the hours of 5PM to 8AM. :oDoes he respond at all during the day on weekends?
Gaeta Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 Only a couple of dates in 2 months, he drops off the radar after work hours and also on weekends = married. He is a waste of your time. Of course he will tell you he is not seeing anyone else, cheaters lie right. 2
Redhead14 Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 He says he's not seeing anyone else . . . maybe, maybe not . . . the point you need to focus on is that he isn't even really seeing you . . . 1
leogirl876 Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 One of the biggest mistakes I've made in dating, is analyzing a man's behavior, but never stopped to decide how his behavior has made me feel. I think his behavior seems shady, and of course he's going to say he's not seeing other people. Not everyone out there is honest! 4
Author tilby Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 The evening disappearance is a bit odd, but I don't think you should assume so much. Have you asked? Is three months too soon? You tell us. Are you still thinking about your ex all the time, and do thoughts of him trigger emotions? It's highly variable as to how much time is necessary. When you can go a whole day without him crossing your mind, you're moving forward. If you can't go more than an hour or two, it's too soon. That's my perception anyway, your mileage may vary. Have these three dates been spread over the two months, or did you not start dating until a couple of weeks ago? Once or twice a month is way too infrequent for you to be feeling invested. It also may support the suspicion regarding the evening texts. I think you should ask questions. We've seen each other once a week for 3 weeks so far. We communicate daily and he initiates most of the early morning communication. During work hours we communicate often. My ex doesn't cross my mind often. If I see something that reminds me of him I'll think about him briefly then go about my day. I did say to this new guy in a non-threatening way that he seems very busy late afternoons and evenings and when is a good time to call him for a chat. That was last night and I'm still awaiting a reply. Its very early morning here right now so we'll see. We're meant to be going on another date today.
Author tilby Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 Yes, we do communicate on weekends too. Just not during that 5pm-8am period, unless we're on a date.
Author tilby Posted December 27, 2016 Author Posted December 27, 2016 Ok. I received no response whatsoever and the date never happened without any reason why. I think it might be time to move on.
smackie9 Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Tip: texting daily is not seeing someone........ 2
PinkPampies Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Op BIG GIANT RED FLAG ON THE PLAY Please don't ignore it
Gaeta Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Ok. I received no response whatsoever and the date never happened without any reason why. I think it might be time to move on. Yes please do move on. What ever his deal it was not good enough for you. Women excuses men's poor behavior too much and I have done it as well in my dating years.
Miss Peach Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Three dates in two months? This guy isn't too serious about you. I'd say you're a back burner girl at best. This was the part that caught my attention too. This guy isn't into you. Only a couple of dates in 2 months, he drops off the radar after work hours and also on weekends = married. This was another thought that crossed my mind. Often times rigidness (especially outside of work hours) is a sign he's not available.
Recommended Posts