Mumra Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 Ex's birthday was a couple of weeks ago (we're NC so I did not contact her), I got an email from her mom. The email said that I was on her mind and she just wanted to see how everything was going with me. The mom and I are not close at all. I replied respectfully, but why would her mom text me on my ex's birthday? 1
umirano Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 I don't know. Maybe she doesn't know why you are broken up and tries to find out this way? 1
Author Mumra Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 I don't know. Maybe she doesn't know why you are broken up and tries to find out this way? Never thought about it in that way. Could be. 1
Survivor12 Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 If you're truly committed to NC, block her mother, too. 1
Author Mumra Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 If you're truly committed to NC, block her mother, too. I've been told that alot. Just didn't want to be disrespectful by ignoring someone's mother. That's if it was indeed her mom. 1
umirano Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 You're perfectly right! It probably was your ex trying to find out what you're up to. Didn't think of this. Who's the dumper? 1
Author Mumra Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 You're perfectly right! It probably was your ex trying to find out what you're up to. Didn't think of this. Who's the dumper? My ex was the dumper, but is very manipulative. Whenever there was sometime between speaking, she will call my mother to get me to call. Almost as if calling me direct was a loss or to make it as though I am the one who pursued. So now that she's the dumper, she can't fathom contacting me direct as in her mind it would give me the control. Sounds silly I know, I want to just take it as it was the mother. But it my ex's bday and i think she was trying to get a happy birthday from me. 1
umirano Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 Meh... I guess it doesn't really matter. Do you like being her emotional crutch, even after the break up? 1
Author Mumra Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 Meh... I guess it doesn't really matter. Do you like being her emotional crutch, even after the break up? Nope. That's why I respectfully replied as if it was the mother. I didn't wish hbday. 1
Satu Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 No, they're not crazy, but they are manipulative. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete her from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care.
Author Mumra Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 No, they're not crazy, but they are manipulative. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete her from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care. Manipulative is an understatement. Confusing as well. 1
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