Would you ever date someone younger?

[Newcitygirl]

I'm female and upper 20s. He is lower to mid 20s. Essentially he is 3 years younger than me. He always makes a point to talk to me at social events. We seem to have common interest. I've tried the guys my age or the guys in their 30s, but it is something weird with them. Weird meaning like emotional unavailable.

[Mysterio]

Date whoever appeals to you. Same with friends. I am a Black 45 yr old single male. Connection come in all sorts of boxes.

 

I had a black female friend close in age and we always had problems. We have had three falling outs and you would think due to our age and ethnicity that we should be tight and we are not.

 

I have a White 65 yr old female friend that I have known for 20 yrs come summer of 2017. We are close. There is no real oddness with us. Yet our backgrounds are different.

 

In this context of dating. Just date who you get along with. Better to be with people you click with than not. Age once you get past 20 is just a number.

[MineEyes11]

If you have questions about whether you should or shouldn't date someone...don't.

 

It's that simple. If you have to talk yourself into dating someone then there's nothing there. Move on to someone who you actually like and want to be with rather than some random person who you have to force yourself into dating.

[Gaeta]

I don't call 3 years an age difference. You are of the same age.

[Satu]

Three years isn't a significant age difference.

 

Follow your feelings.

 

 

Take care.

[CobraX]

I'm female and upper 20s. He is lower to mid 20s. Essentially he is 3 years younger than me. He always makes a point to talk to me at social events. We seem to have common interest. I've tried the guys my age or the guys in their 30s, but it is something weird with them. Weird meaning like emotional unavailable.

 

3 years is not a big gap... but in my opinion women don't seem to age well past 32. Men seem to do good until about 50 something and then one day wake up looking 70. Also, men value looks way more, generally speaking.

[Redguitar35]

I'm female and upper 20s. He is lower to mid 20s. Essentially he is 3 years younger than me. He always makes a point to talk to me at social events. We seem to have common interest. I've tried the guys my age or the guys in their 30s, but it is something weird with them. Weird meaning like emotional unavailable.

 

I'm 30 and I actually prefer much younger women. Once men get to my age, most of the decent women that age are married up and if they aren't in a relationship it's because they have mental issues or other baggage that make them unattractive to prospective mates and are keeping them single. If a woman is in her late 20s-30s, it raises some serious red flags for me.

 

So most of the women I have dated were much younger than me. The last three girlfriends I had were 23, 22 and 20. Two more I'm in communication with are 19 and 22. I don't think it's an issue, especially an age gap of 3 years, which is nothin'.

Edited December 26, 2016 by Redguitar35

[stillafool]

3 years is not a big gap... but in my opinion women don't seem to age well past 32. Men seem to do good until about 50 something and then one day wake up looking 70. Also, men value looks way more, generally speaking.

 

Um, now that women make their own money this is not true.

[Sara1989]

I'm 30 and I actually prefer much younger women. Once men get to my age, most of the decent women that age are married up and if they aren't in a relationship it's because they have mental issues or other baggage that make them unattractive to prospective mates and are keeping them single. If a woman is in her late 20s-30s, it raises some serious red flags for me.

 

You sound like a right peach! If anything lots of people could judge you as a man in his 30s going soley after young girls just out of their teens.

[kidm]

I'm 30 and I actually prefer much younger women. Once men get to my age, most of the decent women that age are married up and if they aren't in a relationship it's because they have mental issues or other baggage that make them unattractive to prospective mates and are keeping them single. If a woman is in her late 20s-30s, it raises some serious red flags for me.

 

So most of the women I have dated were much younger than me. The last three girlfriends I had were 23, 22 and 20. Two more I'm in communication with are 19 and 22. I don't think it's an issue, especially an age gap of 3 years, which is nothin'.

 

With that thinking, you're going to continue feeling hopeless about your dating life. You wonder why most of your relationships have been superficial and never make it past 3 months? Exhibit A is staring at you in the mirror. More and more perfectly decent women are foregoing relationships and marriage for education and career and not settling down until late 20s/30s. It doesn't mean they have baggage or mental issues.

[Kelley]

You sound like a right catch! Maybe you just don't have the confidence to date established women in their 30's with real life experience? More women are concentrating on their careers and enjoying their lives and are just not interested in settling down just now. Besides since when is having kids classed as baggage? It takes a strong man to take on an established family unit, many guys do it everyday. You stick to the 'kids'!

 

I'm 30 and I actually prefer much younger women. Once men get to my age, most of the decent women that age are married up and if they aren't in a relationship it's because they have mental issues or other baggage that make them unattractive to prospective mates and are keeping them single. If a woman is in her late 20s-30s, it raises some serious red flags for me.

 

So most of the women I have dated were much younger than me. The last three girlfriends I had were 23, 22 and 20. Two more I'm in communication with are 19 and 22. I don't think it's an issue, especially an age gap of 3 years, which is nothin'.

[Popsicle]

3 years is nothing. Yes, do it. (I would)

[Newcitygirl]

Yeah I have plenty of female friends who won't date a guy younger than a year. This guy I've met seems pretty rooted in his morals. Unlike this other guy who was 27. I assume they have different family values and also raised differently so that helps. I see new guy Wednesday at a social event. I'm excited.

[Redguitar35]

With that thinking, you're going to continue feeling hopeless about your dating life. You wonder why most of your relationships have been superficial and never make it past 3 months? Exhibit A is staring at you in the mirror. More and more perfectly decent women are foregoing relationships and marriage for education and career and not settling down until late 20s/30s. It doesn't mean they have baggage or mental issues.

 

Not in my experience. The worst dating experiences I've had have been with older women (late 20s/30s). I used to be open to dating women closer to my age, but I've learned that these women tend to be single for good reason. One woman I met was 34. We met for drinks and she started randomly crying. Then she disappeared to the restroom for 30 minutes before coming back. I was like, "Uh, you okay?"

Another one was 29 and didn't see fit to divulge to me that she still hadn't finalized the divorce from her husband six months after they had separated. These women were not single because they were "career women". They were single because they had baggage and men who had any sense wanted nothing to do with them.

[Redguitar35]

You sound like a right peach! If anything lots of people could judge you as a man in his 30s going soley after young girls just out of their teens.

 

You can ridicule me if you like, but the fact is, this is the way dating is for men in their 30s. Once guys get at or near this age, single women of quality basically disappear, and they have no choice but to "date down" in age. And a lot of young women prefer older men.

[strawberryshortstack]

I'm 30 and I actually prefer much younger women. Once men get to my age, most of the decent women that age are married up and if they aren't in a relationship it's because they have mental issues or other baggage that make them unattractive to prospective mates and are keeping them single. If a woman is in her late 20s-30s, it raises some serious red flags for me.

 

So most of the women I have dated were much younger than me. The last three girlfriends I had were 23, 22 and 20. Two more I'm in communication with are 19 and 22. I don't think it's an issue, especially an age gap of 3 years, which is nothin'.

 

Gosh. So, as a never-been-married woman in her early 40s, I suppose it's hopeless for me to ever dream of finding a good man.

 

Such a narrow view of the world you have.

[strawberryshortstack]

Not in my experience. The worst dating experiences I've had have been with older women (late 20s/30s). I used to be open to dating women closer to my age, but I've learned that these women tend to be single for good reason. One woman I met was 34. We met for drinks and she started randomly crying. Then she disappeared to the restroom for 30 minutes before coming back. I was like, "Uh, you okay?"

Another one was 29 and didn't see fit to divulge to me that she still hadn't finalized the divorce from her husband six months after they had separated. These women were not single because they were "career women". They were single because they had baggage and men who had any sense wanted nothing to do with them.

 

Pretty sure this has more to do with the caliber of woman you're choosing, not their ages.

[Space Ritual]

I'm female and upper 20s. He is lower to mid 20s. Essentially he is 3 years younger than me. He always makes a point to talk to me at social events. We seem to have common interest. I've tried the guys my age or the guys in their 30s, but it is something weird with them. Weird meaning like emotional unavailable.

 

I am in my early fifties but still regularly date women 20 years or more my junior.

 

I have the luck in that I am in very good physical shape for my age, have all my hair and all my teeth and don't look my age at all. I am just lucky in that regard. I am not rich or drive a corvette or anything like that. I simply put my best foot forward as an extrovert and am never put off by approaching much younger women for fear of rejection. It happens to all of us guys t one time or anther, so for every time 4 times I get shot down i get one that will take the plunge, and for the most part it is enjoyable for the duration, which admittedly is usually short.

 

I do know enough though that eventually that these are always short term relationships and I am ok with that. Eventually the age thing does rear it's head in my case and we run out of things we find mutually interesting. So I am usually never too upset when these things end. They are pretty much going to end at some point anyway.

 

I was a guy that had a terrible past with relationships culminating in a real disaster during my engagement when I was younger so after that I learned that for myself, it was better to not expect too much out of anyone and to just ride it for what it was.

 

Being in your 20's or 30's and having an age difference is far more distressing than it is to a guy my age. I have been able to operate with the full knowledge that there would always be some guy to come along that was either better looking, had a bigger dick or more money, so as long as I was accepting of that and moved aside when it was time I have been much happier.

 

People in the younger age groups tend to put way too much emphasis in finding Mister or Missus Right as soon as possible and expecting every candidate as having to possess a book full of qualities.

 

I learned a long time ago if you don't have a lot of expectations you'll never be disappointed.

[Space Ritual]

I'm 30 and I actually prefer much younger women. Once men get to my age, most of the decent women that age are married up and if they aren't in a relationship it's because they have mental issues or other baggage that make them unattractive to prospective mates and are keeping them single. If a woman is in her late 20s-30s, it raises some serious red flags for me.

 

Bullschnit, Einstein. There are plenty of great women who are single in their 30's. and 40's.

 

You just expect too much and expect that they should be tripping over themselves to have a shot at you.

 

 

You will only be disabused of that notion if you stop taking yourself so seriously. When you have more days behind you than ahead of you, you'll figure it out. I have more fun now than I ever did

[Redguitar35]

Bullschnit, Einstein. There are plenty of great women who are single in their 30's. and 40's.

 

 

No there aren't.

 

If a woman is single in her 30s and 40s, more often than not it's for good reason. There is something there that's repelling men. Quality women are in demand, and they simply do not stay single that long.

Edited December 27, 2016 by Redguitar35

[Redguitar35]

Pretty sure this has more to do with the caliber of woman you're choosing, not their ages.

 

No, the older they are the more baggage they have. Another woman I met online was 34. Good thing I googled her before the date: she had kids from a previous relationship and obviously wasn't going to tell me until we were on our first date. I then cancelled that date and moved on to other [younger] matches.

[strawberryshortstack]

No there aren't.

 

If a woman is single in her 30s and 40s, more often than not it's for good reason. There is something there that's repelling men. Quality women are in demand, and they simply do not stay single that long.

 

There are many good reasons for women in their 30s and 40s remaining single - not all of them are baggage, or that they're repelling men. Maybe they are unhappy with the choices presented to them. If all I have to choose from are men who think like you do - thanks, but I'll stay single.

[kidm]

No, the older they are the more baggage they have. Another woman I met online was 34. Good thing I googled her before the date: she had kids from a previous relationship and obviously wasn't going to tell me until we were on our first date. I then cancelled that date and moved on to other [younger] matches.

 

So you're the common denominator in picking women with so-called issues and baggage and it doesn't sound like you are having any luck with these teenagers and women in their early 20s because you are still 30 and single. What's your excuse there? A man who is single at 30 and hasn't been any meaningful long term relationship and seems jaded at life is huge huge red flag. Your baggage is overflowing. It doesn't sound like the quality women are beating down your door. It may serve you well to look inward instead of outward at where the problems lies.

[amaysngrace]

I don't think three years is that big of a deal when it comes to age difference. Whoever said it's like the same age is right....if you both were in high school at the same time you are pretty much the same age.

[smackie9]

OP don't sweat it.... I started dating my husband when he just turned 20 and I was 26 three months after that........we have been together coming up 27 years Jan.15th.