marky00 Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 (edited) Yes your doing the right thing. Don't reply to lame reach-outs, it never ends well. You only consider replying when you get something substantial. Sending a photo or saying "hey" is close to zero investment. They themselves know its not worth a response but they are in a sense game playing trying to get an ego boost from you. When you get something substantial you will know about it. The fact you are on here asking the question on LS and your inherent doubts backs up the fact the contact is only breadcrumbs. Always trust your gut and never reply right away. If after a week or so you really feel it's time to reply, come back to LS and we will give you our opinions. Oh and I am going through the exact same thing. 8 months NC and the bread crumbs are steadily flowing. Every time, I ignore a msg or her birthday or w/e, I think that's it she's done but nope, the crumbs keep coming. Breaking someone's heart is a serious business. Ignoring crumbs pales into insignificance, hence why they just keep coming. Edited February 25, 2017 by marky00
Author Mumra Posted February 25, 2017 Author Posted February 25, 2017 Yes your doing the right thing. Don't reply to lame reach-outs, it never ends well. You only consider replying when you get something substantial. Sending a photo or saying "hey" is close to zero investment. They themselves know its not worth a response but they are in a sense game playing trying to get an ego boost from you. When you get something substantial you will know about it. The fact you are on here asking the question on LS and your inherent doubts backs up the fact the contact is only breadcrumbs. Always trust your gut and never reply right away. If after a week or so you really feel it's time to reply, come back to LS and we will give you our opinions. Oh and I am going through the exact same thing. 8 months NC and the bread crumbs are steadily flowing. Every time, I ignore a msg or her birthday or w/e, I think that's it she's done but nope, the crumbs keep coming. Breaking someone's heart is a serious business. Ignoring crumbs pales into insignificance, hence why they just keep coming. Thanks for the feedback bro. Very insightful as I think you hit it right on the nose. Even is she sent something substantial, I'm now just turned off. I've lost respect and value for her, therefore there can be nothing serious.
teddyzain Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 "DO UNTO OTHERS..." Who dumped who? If you dumped her and it was just about you not feeling it anymore then show her some compassion. Be patient, be nice. No "it's over, get over it..." If she dumped you but is reaching out to get back together, well follow your heart/head. Did you dump her because she cheated or something of equal weight? If so ignore her.
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