kalika Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 (edited) Been together over 6 years, would consider him my best friend and he had helped to raise my child. We actually broke up earlier this year, in January, and he moved out, but things had still been off and on. More off than on recently, and we only see each other maybe once or twice a week, but he was still someone I would consider to be my best friend. Recently we got into a fight over the way he was talking to my son. He texted me after he got home and said that he needs to figure himself out, that he shouldn't have talked to us that way, and that he doesn't want me to wait for him. Today we met up for lunch and he said the same things. He said that he knows he needs to figure himself out, he thinks he's been depressed, and he doesn't do anything any more, he's gained weight and he needs to figure out what's going on. He also said he knows this will take time. He said the last few years have been rough, he wants to make friends, focus on himself. He also said he won't ask me to wait for him. I said, What for? You don't even want to be with me. What would I be waiting for? He didn't deny this or say anything in response. I'm honestly not sure when he would have had the time, but I'm thinking he met someone else or else I doubt he would actually once and for all cut the cord after all these years. He doesn't do well when he's alone or bored, and we are both mostly alone in a new city. I am having a hard time believing he would say all that unless he had Plan B already in the works. I can't be sure, but in any event, I told him I won't contact him ever again. I wish I had told him, You made your decision, don't you dare ever call me again. There was little emotion from him. He seemed a little sad, but that's it. I feel like he's feeding me a bunch of bull and I am going NC. I have also blocked him every possible way I can. That being said, no matter what, even after our breakups and all of that, we have always been there for each other and I'm having a really hard time coming to grips with the fact that it's completely over. I considered him the love of my life. I'm 33, this is not child's speak. That being said, I feel like he's playing me for a fool. Thoughts? Am I handling this right? Edited December 26, 2016 by kalika
basil67 Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 The two of you broke up a year ago. If he has found someone else, surely it's a good thing for him - he can't be hanging on to you forever. Equally though, it could be that hanging out with you as an ex for so long is holding him back and he needs to put himself first. This needed to happen. It's a good thing. And now you can move on too.
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