BruinsFan Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 (edited) Hi, I want to tell you a story about my former love and I. We met in school, she was 2 grades below me and we met on the bus that took students home for those who stayed after school had already ended. A year and half after that, we started actually dating. The first try was for a week, my long distance ex girlfriend at that time wanted to try and work things out after she broke it off. I as dumb as could be, broke it off with this girl and it broke my heart to let her down like that. I was 16 and she was 14 at the time. Fast forward 2 months later after that, my long distance girlfriend broke it off again. I was done with it, completely. I talked with this girl again and started dating in November. We had a great relationship, we did however have our downs. We argued of course, what couple doesn't? We had some heated ones for sure throughout the 9 years together. In early 2011, she broke up with me. We didn't talk to each other for 2 months. It was tough, I still loved her and was trying to move on. 2 months after the fact, she texts me saying she misses me and we start talking. I come see her, pick her up all of that and we recondiled our relationship. The last 5 and a half years, we had gotten engaged, got 2 apartments together and all of that. Still had ups and downs, again who doesn't? Mind you, she was heavily in love with me and I know I'm without a doubt in love with her (still am). He were are in December, 3 weeks after our 2nd apartment. She and her friend who's a female always hung out. I'd feel like I was not even there when that was the case. She over the weeks said "I don't want to give up" "I don't want to give up on love" even went as far as being jealous a few months back in September about a girl who was a friend of mine for a while, saying she didn't like us talking because she didn't know her. At my sister's wedding, when the "single guys" have to catch the garder that the bride wears, which it's guys who aren't married, someone wanted me to go up. I did not want to, I figured I'm taken and happily would rather sit by my fiance. She got upset about it and was saying that we're engaged and showing her ring off that I got her and everything. Again, he we are three weeks broken up. Well how that happened was, I passed out and forgot to wake up to go to work. Night shift ran me rampant, and this job wasn't any great so I had already lined up a career that I was getting into the next week. This is Friday night, she comes home and gets angry at me. We have an argument, she leaves for her friends place and tells me she will see me tomorrow. My plan was, earlier in that night I had bought her a rose and a card telling her how much she meant to me, I appreciated her and don't want to know what life would be like with her. Tomorrow never comes, she stays at her friends house until Tuesday comes around. Monday morning she sends me a text stating we needed to sit and talk civilly. I said I agreed and that was that. I start my career that Tuesday, come home and tell her I am home like she said to tell her. She comes over, sits down and drops it on me. Says she has no feelings for me anymore, loves me but isn't in love with me and that she's dealt with this for some time. It ends there, she says she wants me in her life and all that. She comes the next day when I'm gone and gets only a few of her things, that's it. We haven't spoken since, The rest of her stuff is still at my place and I don't want to contact her at all. I am just wondering others' opinions on this. She has been depressed and unhappy with her life for quite some time. She said she isn't happy at all with anything in her life. It'll be three weeks exact this Tuesday. Thank's for reading. Edited December 26, 2016 by BruinsFan Forgot a detail.
Ilovepizzalady Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 First instinct is that she wasn't expecting you to be off work and had a date?
ExpatInItaly Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 Sorry this has happened to you, OP. The major red flag that stands out for me is that she has been with you since she was very young, and likely is nowhere near ready to really commit to only you forever. It's a harsh reality that most people don't stay with their highschool/young loves. She may have truly been frustrated by certain things in the relationship, or maybe she just outgrew it. Do you sense that she picked an argument with you to give her a reason to leave for a couple days? What was she angry about before she left? Do you know for sure that she went to stay with this friend of hers, and not somebody else?
Author BruinsFan Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 I know for sure, she's staying there right now as we speak. She lives down the street from my place, and she walked there that Friday night. I really wanted to marry this girl so it's a huge blow. She tried dating during that break and I was talking with someone also, but it didn't work. This time, who knows. I refuse to find out anything about her. I want to strictly stay away from it. Someone did tell me that she posts stuff with her and her female friend drinking and what not. It's none of my business.
Author BruinsFan Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 She did pick a fight about me not going in that night for work. She got upset because she was struggling financially.
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