Bluemug Posted December 25, 2016 Posted December 25, 2016 Merry Christmas all! An awkward moment arose around my family Christmas tree involving a gift given by the lovely man I've been seeing for maybe six weeks. It was a bath set from a very nice cosmetics company... Except it's for men! And I'm not a man. I didn't notice as there was no packaging (kinda odd?) and my mum asked if she could smell the scent/see what's in it. Now my dilemma. I've Thanked him via text (big family days for us at different ends of the country), but do I say anything about the man gift? So far, my thoughts are just to donate it to charity... as there are no labels, I can't imagine it would be easy to take back. My parents think I should make a joke of it, and give it back... or I just ignore it? Shove it in the back of my bathroom cabinet and move on? I'll be honest - I'm a tiny bit disappointed. I'd put a lot of thought into what I got him ( but by no means expensive at all!). I don't know how to proceed. So far, he has no idea and thinks I "love" it. Not rocking the boat today...
travelbug1996 Posted December 25, 2016 Posted December 25, 2016 I would wait until tomorrow and bring it to his attention.
Author Bluemug Posted December 25, 2016 Author Posted December 25, 2016 Thanks travelbug! I think I'm hesitant because I don't know how to phrase it to him. He's so damn nice, but I'm beginng to wonder if it's some damn re-gifting disaster
Fair Posted December 25, 2016 Posted December 25, 2016 (edited) Let it go, you've only been seeing him for six weeks and likely that's why he didn't put more thought into the gift??? Something to think about. I would think since it has no packaging and it is for men it was a gift given to him that he passed on to you Edited December 25, 2016 by Fair 4
Author Bluemug Posted December 25, 2016 Author Posted December 25, 2016 Yeah, this is what I suspect too. Makes me want to give it back but will donate instead. Note to self, don't bother anymore
Author Bluemug Posted December 25, 2016 Author Posted December 25, 2016 So I told him. No apology. ****
Fair Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 I wouldn't have said anything. Six weeks is too early for too much angst unless he's done something really bad.It may not have been an ideal gift but it was still a gift. He doesn't have an obligation at this point to shower you with diamonds. No offense, but ... plus maybe he can't afford to buy gifts at this point. I'd only worry if he's already showing thoughtlessness toward you in general. 2
BDJ_1 Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 So I told him. No apology. **** What did you expect? Sorry, you caught me regifting a mans gift set?
winny Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 Was there no gift receipt? Seems like an honest mistake to me. I would have just let it go.... 1
Author Bluemug Posted December 26, 2016 Author Posted December 26, 2016 Well.... it's been said,mostly as he asked me if enjoyed using them yet.i got a later message, and he was really ok with it. They were ordered off a shopping channel, so he wants to return them. he said something about not seeing in the description they were for men and i'll go with that. Never mind
Mjm1014 Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Actually I would say something....maybe it was meant for someone else and got the gifts mixed up-it happens. Also, he prob ordered it online and didn't read the description carefully, even if he went to the shop-it happens...just tease him and make a joke of it. No hard feelings you've only been dating 6 weeks, it's the thought that counts!
OatsAndHall Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Lol... I'm horrible at shopping for significant others. I probably would have seen a nice bath set, thought my GF would like it and not taken a second look at the package. But, then again, I have spent some serious cash on nice, casual (nothing gaudy) jewelry for women and had them never wear it.
elaine567 Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Use it every time you know he is coming round, just to remind him of the lovely present he gave you. LOL! I think had I given a man a women's cosmetic set by mistake, I would be splashing the cash to give him a more appropriate gift ASAP and use the stuff myself, not spend time waiting for a return.
Poutrew Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Hey, for a man, you should be grateful. Seriously. It could have been a *lot* worse... When I was a lot younger, and stupider, I used linear thinking to get what I thought was a great gift for my girlfriend... I bought her some re-usable, washable, feminine napkins. They made perfect sense from my point of view - I really thought she would appreciate all the money she would be saving...nope. 1
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 Victoria's Secret makes a nice smelling man's cologne that I almost mistakenly bought for my friends' daughter. I'm glad I asked the girl who worked there about it because if I picked it up for the neighbor she may have thought I was a cheap, re-gifting bastard or something.
IfonlyIknew Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 My first thought was it was an honest mistake. ... Like mine. Yesterday. I gave the boyfriends parents a bottle of wine that read in Spanish "lets make a threesome" WHAT IN THE F. Lol. 2
clia Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 I totally think it was a regift and he was too dumb to realize they make different stuff for men and women. No packaging? I mean, come on. And what guy is ordering stuff like that off a home shopping network? (And have you ever watched one of those presentations? They would be saying over and over again that it was for men!) At six weeks I wouldn't expect much of a gift, but this seems pretty bad. All he had to do was go to Bath and Bodyworks or Macy's and get you a gift set.
Miyoko Posted December 27, 2016 Posted December 27, 2016 I wouldn't have said anything. Six weeks is too early for too much angst unless he's done something really bad.It may not have been an ideal gift but it was still a gift. He doesn't have an obligation at this point to shower you with diamonds. No offense, but ... plus maybe he can't afford to buy gifts at this point. I'd only worry if he's already showing thoughtlessness toward you in general. I agree, I would have just kept my mouth shut.
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