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Clueless about sober sex with someone i'm dating


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Hi, i'm a 23 year old guy looking for some advice on this "issue".

 

So i'll jump straight into it. I've never had sober sex, except for the casual morning sex after a one night stand. This has bothered me a long time, and it's driving me crazy now as i have just recently started dating. (No prior dating or relationship experience)

 

There is this one girl i've been seeing for about a month now, and we've had 4 dates so far. No sex yet, but it looks like it's just around the corner, which makes me nervous as ****. When i'm drunk it's easy, going from the club to the bedroom. Now when i'm sober i have no idea what to do, when to initiate or if she will notice that i'm inexperienced in "relationship sex". I really like this girl, and i don't want this to be the reason i **** up.

 

Has anyone of you been in the same boat, or had similar experiences? I'd appreciate any answer from both genders!

 

Thanks in advance :)

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My advice: foreplay. Sex starts long before you get to the bedroom (and I don't mean just making out on the couch). Touch her hair, kiss her gently, put your arm around her, listen to her closely when she speaks (even if you aren't interested) & let your eyes do the talking.

 

When the time is right, you'll know it.

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It's like riding a bicycle..once you get back on it all comes back to you.

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