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why would a girl who told their bf they are in love with them never ask their guy for a one pic together?

 

is that strange?

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why would a girl who told their bf they are in love with them never ask their guy for a one pic together?

 

She either:

 

1. doesn't like how she looks

2. doesn't like how you look

3. doesn't want people knowing she's dating you (why, only she can answer, if she'll answer honestly)

 

is that strange?

 

it's shady a.f., IMO

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phineas Established Member

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4. her real BF would probably get mad.

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3. doesn't want people knowing she's dating you (why, only she can answer, if she'll answer honestly) for reasons such as:

a) her real BF would probably get mad.

 

b) friends will give her grief for her choice

c) she runs her relationships past her committee for approval

 

 

There. Fixed that.

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What about shes not that into you?

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What about shes not that into you?

 

I am one of these girls so I can answer from my personal experience. I don't like how I look like in the pictures and didn't want my bf to see it. I also hate posing, waiting for someone to take a picture. One guy, I was dating was very suspicious of this, another one... well I am not sure how he felt, but he kept asking me to take a selfie together and we never did.

 

So, it doesnt necessarily mean she is not into you or she has someone else. At least, that wasn't the reason in my case.

 

But also, I do not have fb or instagram, so you can tell I dont like pictures (of myself).

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I am one of these girls so I can answer from my personal experience. I don't like how I look like in the pictures and didn't want my bf to see it. I also hate posing, waiting for someone to take a picture. One guy, I was dating was very suspicious of this, another one... well I am not sure how he felt, but he kept asking me to take a selfie together and we never did.

 

So, it doesnt necessarily mean she is not into you or she has someone else. At least, that wasn't the reason in my case.

 

But also, I do not have fb or instagram, so you can tell I dont like pictures (of myself).

 

Well OP, does she have pics on social media? If it's only you she doesn't want a pic with, more likely than not she's trying to hide the relationship or is embarassed to be with you.

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I'm with Iva and SwordofFlame. Does she have other pictures of herself on social media? This may not be about you.

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this was another generic question. i am trying to learn from my mistakes to avoid heartbreak again.

 

i have written my story on the break up thread but to summarise we were official bf and gf for a month and half and dating for 4.5. so 6 months in total.

 

she has instagram and Facebook. she uses it a lot and puts pics of herself all the time. with her ex bf she used to do the same and put statuses about him all the time.

 

i questioned it once why she didnt put up statuses about me and she said she doesn't want to make the same mistake again. i said fair enough. she also made me take down our relationship status on Facebook as she wanted to keep things private from her work mates and people. ( her close mates and parents knew about us)

 

i never questioned about us having a pic together until she met a new guy and started doing that with him and things like that. and they weren't bf and gf they were still in the early dating phase yet she was happy to put pics of them together on instagram. i found that very hurtful to me and then thats when i started questioning why she never asked me and we were together 6 months and she told me she was in love with me. i feel she lied to me about not liking to put things on line.

 

I'm very angry

SwordofFlame Established Member

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She did lie. In the future, recognize that what she did is a big red flag.

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how can i ever recognise this?!! I'm not a mind reader

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how can i ever recognise this?!! I'm not a mind reader

 

No mind reading is required. The act of not wanting to take a pic with you is the red flag, not her false explanation. You may need more dating experience if you thought what she did is normal and acceptable.

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i never asked her for a pic. not once only because iv never asked a girl for one cos i dont care much bout pics. and i thought she doesn't do that stuff anymore because of the hurt she had from the previous guy so she does things differently now. thats what i thought and thats what she told me and i dint want to pressure her or come across intense so it wasn't a big deal to me

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Well I'm sure there's other behaviors that were also present that indicated she wasn't serious about you. For example, never wanting to hang out with her or your friends. Those are the red flags, not the false explanations.

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She had her reasons why she didnt come to my best friends birthday. She wasnt wearing jeans and finds it awkward meetingnew people.

I didnt want to force the issue otherwise she would say " you keep having a go at me and i feel like you want much more from me. If you keep doing that im gonna back off"

 

So i kept quiet. Plus it was 4 months and maybe it was too early esp cos her guard was up from her previous break up and i wanted to respect her pace and be patient. Is that the right thing to do? Please help. I feel like i dont know anyjing about dating or relationships. Ps we were not in a relationship until the 5 month mark so i dont know how to act when its not official yet

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Dude, looking at your post history, you REALLY need to get over this one. The answer is simple, she just wasn't that into you and never will be. It sucks but it happens, and most people have experienced it sometime in their life. While obsessing over this girl you are missing out on other potential girls around you. You can ask us questions and analyze all you want but it's not going to change what has happened. You can't change the past but you can control your future. Force yourself not to think about her anymore. Find a new hobby, improve your looks and talk to new girls instead of wasting your best years on a girl who is not wasting any time on you.

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She had her reasons why she didnt come to my best friends birthday. She wasnt wearing jeans and finds it awkward meetingnew people.

I didnt want to force the issue otherwise she would say " you keep having a go at me and i feel like you want much more from me. If you keep doing that im gonna back off"

 

So i kept quiet. Plus it was 4 months and maybe it was too early esp cos her guard was up from her previous break up and i wanted to respect her pace and be patient. Is that the right thing to do? Please help. I feel like i dont know anyjing about dating or relationships. Ps we were not in a relationship until the 5 month mark so i dont know how to act when its not official yet

 

Cuz, chicks like her got an answer for everything. Again, guy who left me for the Town Skank? Takes a lot of skill to juggle several guys at a time - that skank had an excuse/answer for everything and he was dumb enough to eat it up. I was so glad she called our commander on him and said he was harassing her - and still, he didn't get it.

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