I'm Too Afraid I Won't Get The Chance To Fall In Love Because Of What I'm Packing

[S.Man]

So i believe true love exist and like any other person would hope to one day fall in love.

 

As a person people say i'm cool to hang with, somewhat funny and very kind. I'm 28 and also overweight but not for long.lol. i'm working on that part of my life and it's going good!

 

Anyways my problem is that i was born with a micro penis (that's hard for me admit) so when it comes to the dating world it is always on the back of my mind. This effects me in a huge way, because of this i have low self esteem and stop myself from approaching women.

 

I dated this girl i met through online dating.. we hung out a few times for about a month or so, we connected well and it was going great until one night we were both a bit tipsy and decided to have sex. Let's just say it wasn't good. The next day she told me through txt she just wants to be friends and that her ex just got in touch with her so she wanted to see if they could maybe get back together. I acted cool about it but was obviously hurt and felt that her real reason is because of what i'm packing ( I could be wrong).

 

After that i just gave up on dating. Thing is, i hate being lonely and i fill that void by hanging out with friends, entertaining people (I'm a musician), doing crossfit and watching Netflix. But at the end of the day loneliness is still there and it's eating me up inside. I'm afraid i'll die alone and not find the love of my life because of something so stupid.

 

Has anyone got any advice on how i could get over this? It would be greatly appreciated.

[Mystique01]

So i believe true love exist and like any other person would hope to one day fall in love.

 

As a person people say i'm cool to hang with, somewhat funny and very kind. I'm 28 and also overweight but not for long.lol. i'm working on that part of my life and it's going good!

 

Anyways my problem is that i was born with a micro penis (that's hard for me admit) so when it comes to the dating world it is always on the back of my mind. This effects me in a huge way, because of this i have low self esteem and stop myself from approaching women.

 

I dated this girl i met through online dating.. we hung out a few times for about a month or so, we connected well and it was going great until one night we were both a bit tipsy and decided to have sex. Let's just say it wasn't good. The next day she told me through txt she just wants to be friends and that her ex just got in touch with her so she wanted to see if they could maybe get back together. I acted cool about it but was obviously hurt and felt that her real reason is because of what i'm packing ( I could be wrong).

 

After that i just gave up on dating. Thing is, i hate being lonely and i fill that void by hanging out with friends, entertaining people (I'm a musician), doing crossfit and watching Netflix. But at the end of the day loneliness is still there and it's eating me up inside. I'm afraid i'll die alone and not find the love of my life because of something so stupid.

 

Has anyone got any advice on how i could get over this? It would be greatly appreciated.

 

 

Well, I'm probably not in the best position to offer advice on this topic since I'm a woman, and haven't had umm "experiences" with men in your position before....

 

BUT, what I will say is IF you haven't done so already, work on your CONFIDENCE first and foremost. Sometimes we make something a bigger deal than it has to be for others simply because of our OWN insecurities. People usually tend to adopt the view of us that we have of ourselves, so make sure you think of yourself in a positive light. It seems you've already started working out and getting fit, so that's good!

 

SECOND...(and this is a biggie)... By all means,work on your FOREPLAY GAME! Believe it or not, a woman's biggest sex organ is her MIND. If you can perfect your foreplay game well, by the time you actually get down to doing the actual act,she'll probably be so turned on she won't care what you're packing down there lol.

 

I'm not going to lie, a nice-sized package IS nice, but if a guy doesn't really know what he's doing in the sack, or he hasn't "warmed the oven" adequately so to speak, it honestly won't matter what a guy is packing...he won't be able to get the job done in a...how shall I say..."satisfactory" way. The package isn't everything in other words. Trust me. In fact, sometimes I feel like men put way too much emphasis on it.

 

Btw, there are other ways to instill pleasure without penetration..just saying...

 

And lastly...I know this may sound really taboo...But maybe you could try to purposely seek out women who are kind of used to their own race/culture of men that supposedly run smaller than most. Supposedly (not sure how true it is) some men run smaller/bigger than others. Maybe they won't even notice a difference when it comes to you.

 

HTH

[winny]

Most women do not orgasm from penetration.

So I agree to what Mystique said above. Work on your foreplay skills and how to pleasure a woman in other ways. If you google statistics also you will find that size doesn't matter to most women. And women also operate from an emotional place as opposed to men who are more visual and physically inclined.

That girl you mentioned surely dumped you cause of your condition not because some x showed up overnight - she was selfish and I am sorry this happened and people are so mean they never even think how there actions can affect someone.

Try to stay positive and build an emotional connection with a woman then I am sure she will overlook this condition.

Also, find someone outside of OLD.

[angel.eyes]

Losing weight will certainly help, but if you have a micropenis, that alone will not solve your problem. I would suggest a visit to the urologist. There may be options that you might not have considered.

 

As for dating, your best bet is to be upfront relatively early in the dating process. That way, you aren't getting emotionally invested in someone who will walk away because this is a deal breaker. You will find the right person. It will just take a little longer and a little more effort. Hang in there and stay positive.

[Poutrew]

Losing weight will certainly help, but if you have a micropenis, that alone will not solve your problem. I would suggest a visit to the urologist. There may be options that you might not have considered.

 

This. There is a surgical procedure that can be done where a ligament is cut at the base of the penis which will make it 'pop out' more. Male porn stars get this done to be more marketable - you may be able to gain half an inch to an inch or so. Look into it with a doctor - but don't get carried away - you don't want to cut so much that it falls off...

[S.Man]

Thanks for the advice, i greatly appreciate it.

 

I will surely take everything you all said on aboard. I'm not too sure about the operation part, and i do understand that what i do have could be a deal breaker. However i do agree it's best to be upfront about it from the beginning. Also i will work on other aspects to pleasing a woman as you suggested.

[basil67]

If it is indeed micro, I also would look into surgery. There's no sense living an unfulfilling life because you don't want to fix something which could be fixed. It's really no different to any other type of reconstructive surgery.