Kkristine Posted December 23, 2016 Posted December 23, 2016 We've been hanging out pretty regularly for a couple of months now in the same group setting and have become very good friends. We do flirt on occasion and joke with each other. I've thought for a while that there might be something between us, but I've just been enjoying the ride. Last night, we all got very drunk. There were 6 of us, two couples and the two of us. I admitted to him that I would absolutely with him any night of the week. After that, he was very touchy feely with me all night. He tried kissing me, holding me and hugging me, gave me a head massage in the car, and a few other things in the car. He also said that he would still want to hang out with me if his best friend and my best friend broke up. He's a very flirty guy, but he's never played that game with me until last night. It's always been a friendly situation with us. My friend knows I like him. She was drunk and told him that we should date. I said it would be weird because we all hang out all the time as friends. He said that he is difficult to be in a relationship with. He isn't a relationship person at all, and everyone knows it. Including myself. He does have that reputation, but he's always been very respectful with me. Last night was the first time he came on to me, but only after I admitted that I was interested in him in that way. He texted this morning asking how I was feeling, and then he texted this evening asking if we all wanted to get together tonight.
RecentChange Posted December 23, 2016 Posted December 23, 2016 . I admitted to him that I would absolutely with him any night of the week. After that, hHe said that he is difficult to be in a relationship with. . Oh come girl! There's your sign. So didn't you say you wanted to hump him? Or am I miss interepting that first line? What do you want? Do you want to date him? Do you want to hump him? 2
Author Kkristine Posted December 23, 2016 Author Posted December 23, 2016 Haha, I do. I'd also like to date him, but he's not relationship material. I just feel like I blew my cover, and I don't want it to be awkward between all of us now because that line was crossed.
preraph Posted December 23, 2016 Posted December 23, 2016 He hasn't asked you and you alone on a real date but he's coming on to you, so yes, he just wants sex. If he wanted you for a girlfriend, he'd have asked you on a proper date and treated you right and with respect. 3
HereNorThere Posted December 23, 2016 Posted December 23, 2016 Nothing is written in stone. A lot of non-relationship type people crave relationships, but need space to seek the relationship. They run when someone gets needy or starts love bombing them because they can't take the pressure. Just enjoy yourself and be a challenge. Keep him guessing let him pursue you. Match his interest level but don't let him think you like him more than he likes you. This type of person needs to miss you before they realize how much they like you. Ironically, these type people don't fall easily, but they do fall HARD. Be the best option and let him come to you.
Weezy1973 Posted December 23, 2016 Posted December 23, 2016 Of course he just wants sex! Both you and he admit that he's not good relationship material. And he has the reputation of being a player. I hope when you say you like him, you mean you just want to have sex with him and maybe a FWB. If you want to date and have a relationship with him, then that's kind of crazy... 1
Author Kkristine Posted December 23, 2016 Author Posted December 23, 2016 Maybe I'm just trying to make excuses and am in denial, but I never really gave him any notion that I was interested in him prior to last night. He's never been disrespectful to me. He knows that I've only been with one guy. He made a comment last night out loud how we wouldn't do anything because he knows that I'm not a ho. I've never been in a FWB situation. Bad idea?
HereNorThere Posted December 23, 2016 Posted December 23, 2016 Maybe I'm just trying to make excuses and am in denial, but I never really gave him any notion that I was interested in him prior to last night. He's never been disrespectful to me. He knows that I've only been with one guy. He made a comment last night out loud how we wouldn't do anything because he knows that I'm not a ho. I've never been in a FWB situation. Bad idea? Ooooooooo, this changes everything. Yeah, danger, alert. Don't play the game on expert mode until you're ready. This is not for the inexperienced. 1
joseb Posted December 24, 2016 Posted December 24, 2016 "He said that he is difficult to be in a relationship with." When people say this kind of thing, listen to them. It sounds like you want to bang him, but don't want to admit it (to yourself of others). If you want to have sex, go have sex. Just know that it is very unlikely to lead to a relationship with this guy, he has made this clear. 4
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