First love blues

[Ziggy01]

Hey guys,

About two weeks ago my girlfriend of seven months broke up with me. The time we spent together was the most beautiful and amazing time of my life, we never argued, always had things to talk about and were always there for each other. It was the first real relationship that either of us have had and I'm just finding it quite hard to process at the moment. I could sense that about a week or so before she abruptly ended things that she was withdrawing from me but I simply let this slide as she was going through a difficult time at home and thought she needed some time to herself. However; she told me that she had "lost that feeling of love for me" and couldn't truthfully continue the relationship with me as she couldn't reciprocate the feelings anymore. I know that this may sound rich coming from an 18 year old who has never had a relationship before but she was honestly the most amazing person I've ever met and always so nice and caring (even now that she's broken up with me) and everyone who knows her will attest to this and she is also incredibly talented in the arts.

 

We have been in intermittent contact over the past couple of weeks and I saw her a week after we broke up just to kind of clear things up, while I haven't begged her to get back together as I want to respect her wishes I have brought it up to which she replies "in the future I don't know what will happen but I can't promise anything and I don't want you to wait around for me because that isn't fair on you." Everything is still very amicable between us as we still respect each other a great deal but I'm still hurting a lot. I am slowly beginning to recover though with one of the positive signs being that I'm getting back into music (I'm an aspiring musician) which I couldn't do until recently because all romantic notions of music had been and still are intertwined with her. She says she wants to stay friends and still catch up, while this is proving difficult at the moment I think I'll be able to do this in the future although I'm not sure. I think what I really need is just some advice, obviously what I really want is to get her back but I know this won't be possible anytime soon as 2017 is an incredibly busy year for her and one where she won't have time for a relationship so I guess I'd just like some advice on the way forward and how to heal myself. If you've made it this far I sincerely thank you for taking the time to read my post

[krich1187]

Hey guys,

About two weeks ago my girlfriend of seven months broke up with me. The time we spent together was the most beautiful and amazing time of my life, we never argued, always had things to talk about and were always there for each other. It was the first real relationship that either of us have had and I'm just finding it quite hard to process at the moment. I could sense that about a week or so before she abruptly ended things that she was withdrawing from me but I simply let this slide as she was going through a difficult time at home and thought she needed some time to herself. However; she told me that she had "lost that feeling of love for me" and couldn't truthfully continue the relationship with me as she couldn't reciprocate the feelings anymore. I know that this may sound rich coming from an 18 year old who has never had a relationship before but she was honestly the most amazing person I've ever met and always so nice and caring (even now that she's broken up with me) and everyone who knows her will attest to this and she is also incredibly talented in the arts.

 

We have been in intermittent contact over the past couple of weeks and I saw her a week after we broke up just to kind of clear things up, while I haven't begged her to get back together as I want to respect her wishes I have brought it up to which she replies "in the future I don't know what will happen but I can't promise anything and I don't want you to wait around for me because that isn't fair on you." Everything is still very amicable between us as we still respect each other a great deal but I'm still hurting a lot. I am slowly beginning to recover though with one of the positive signs being that I'm getting back into music (I'm an aspiring musician) which I couldn't do until recently because all romantic notions of music had been and still are intertwined with her. She says she wants to stay friends and still catch up, while this is proving difficult at the moment I think I'll be able to do this in the future although I'm not sure. I think what I really need is just some advice, obviously what I really want is to get her back but I know this won't be possible anytime soon as 2017 is an incredibly busy year for her and one where she won't have time for a relationship so I guess I'd just like some advice on the way forward and how to heal myself. If you've made it this far I sincerely thank you for taking the time to read my post

 

If you're a musician, let music be your muse. Heartbreak has resulted in some of the best music I've heard.