OLD dating

[Nicole10]

I talked to a guy on OLD, and yesterday we met in person at a coffee shop. We probably talked for an hour and the he had to go back to work (so did I). Date was ok, we talked. He told me I was really easy to talk. He walked me to my car and we hugged and parted our ways.

 

He has my number, but later that day he messaged me on OLD, and asked if not giving me a normal kiss at the end of a date was a mistake. I was confused by what he meant with "normal." Anyway, I replied no worries, I dont think it was a mistake. He texted back: I should have.... and then nothing.

Is he even interested?

[DK_Casus]

I talked to a guy on OLD, and yesterday we met in person at a coffee shop. We probably talked for an hour and the he had to go back to work (so did I). Date was ok, we talked. He told me I was really easy to talk. He walked me to my car and we hugged and parted our ways.

 

He has my number, but later that day he messaged me on OLD, and asked if not giving me a normal kiss at the end of a date was a mistake. I was confused by what he meant with "normal." Anyway, I replied no worries, I dont think it was a mistake. He texted back: I should have.... and then nothing.

Is he even interested?

 

Interested?

 

He wanted to kiss you, so he's probably interested in f**king you.

[normal person]

He's interested, but also seemingly insecure, indecisive, or whatever else you'd call someone who clearly wants to do something, doesn't, and then passively checks with you afterwards to get retroactive confirmation that he should have.

 

I'd move on.

[Nicole10]

It is weird. First of all, it was a brief meeting. We had a good time but I would never let him kiss me. And also, it was 1pm, and we were standing in front of the coffee shop. Not the best time and place to share a kiss. Yuck

[Satu]

He's over-thinker, and a kiss in that situation would have been too much of a presumption.

 

Not my cup of tea.

 

 

Take care.

[Nicole10]

He's over-thinker, and a kiss in that situation would have been too much of a presumption.

 

Not my cup of tea.

 

 

Take care.

Why didnt he ask me for a second date? This happened yesterday but still...

[GemmaUK]

He's interested, but also seemingly insecure, indecisive, or whatever else you'd call someone who clearly wants to do something, doesn't, and then passively checks with you afterwards to get retroactive confirmation that he should have.

 

I'd move on.

 

Ditto thoughts on this.

Dating him would be hard work.

 

Move on.

[Satu]

Ditto thoughts on this.

Dating him would be hard work.

 

Move on.

 

Ditto, ditto.

[Satu]

Why didnt he ask me for a second date? This happened yesterday but still...

 

Do you really care?

 

Do you really want to see him again?

 

Unless you're keen to see him again, it doesn't matter.

[Miss Spider]

He seems interested but really awkward, and not the cute kind lol...That he messaged you on the site when he has your number is the most puzzling part to me.

[DK_Casus]

Who the f**k cares if he's awkward?

 

If he's a nice guy and you're attracted to him otherwise, such things are incredibly easy to overcome. It just takes that one step - and there goes that issue.

 

Guys aren't more interesting because they've learned to play the game and not give a ****. At least, I think that's a huge fallacy.

 

How shallow can some people get?

[IfonlyIknew]

He was fishing around to see if he can the OK next time you see each other. I notice with OLD's there is usually a text afterwards to "check" to see if the other is interested by saying "I had a great time, lets meet up again sometime" or .. crickets.

[Nicole10]

He was fishing around to see if he can the OK next time you see each other. I notice with OLD's there is usually a text afterwards to "check" to see if the other is interested by saying "I had a great time, lets meet up again sometime" or .. crickets.

 

Well, I only answered what he asked. And never heard from him again. I am moving on, just very very confused about this one. It was a brief meeting at the coffee shop. Kiss would be very inappropriate.

Maybe be stupid, but he seemed impressed with how much I work while also go to school pursuing very lucrative career. Then, he walked me to my car and was surprised that I drive a brand new expenssive car. He joked "I found my sugar mama."

It is just not a good feeling to never hear from your date again. I take it as a rejection

[IfonlyIknew]

I talked to a guy on OLD, and yesterday we met in person at a coffee shop. We probably talked for an hour and the he had to go back to work (so did I). Date was ok, we talked. He told me I was really easy to talk. He walked me to my car and we hugged and parted our ways.

 

He has my number, but later that day he messaged me on OLD, and asked if not giving me a normal kiss at the end of a date was a mistake. I was confused by what he meant with "normal." Anyway, I replied no worries, I dont think it was a mistake. He texted back: I should have.... and then nothing.

Is he even interested?

 

 

Rejection? Did you reply to his "I should have?"

[Larryville]

I am moving on, just very very confused about this one.

 

I wish it were possible to exactly know how many threads where people (mostly women) post about being confused about men and what they do, and why they do or don’t do.

 

Someone (a woman) will start a thread today confused over some idiot dudes action or non-action, don't waste time!

 

The simplest overthinking often leads to a full-blown existential crisis, for nothing.

 

Ladies, I know it is easier said than done but when guys makes you think too damn much, walk away or better yet run. Life is too short wasting mental energy constantly processing.

 

Don’t let guys live rent free in your head unless they earn the right or privilege to do so.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I wish it were possible to exactly know how many threads where people (mostly women) post about being confused about men and what they do, and why they do or don’t do.

 

Someone (a woman) will start a thread today confused over some idiot dudes action or non-action, don't waste time!

 

The simplest overthinking often leads to a full-blown existential crisis, for nothing.

 

Ladies, I know it is easier said than done but when guys makes you think too damn much, walk away or better yet run. Life is too short wasting mental energy constantly processing.

 

Don’t let guys live rent free in your head unless they earn the right or privilege to do so.

 

That deserves a HALLELUJAH and and AMEN!

 

Women (and men) take note and live accordingly.

[Nicole10]

Rejection? Did you reply to his "I should have?"

 

I did not. Well he said "I should have... have a great day at work"

I replied "hace a great day too."

[CobraX]

I did not. Well he said "I should have... have a great day at work"

I replied "hace a great day too."

 

I agree with DK. For some reason what makes a guy attractive is his ability to play the game and not give a crap about women.

 

When I was doing OLD my friend told me to ignore everything a woman says in her profile because it's just bull****. When I started to do that I got more successful. I think relationships work like this too. A guy has to interpret the emotions behind what a GF says because the words are pointless.

[Gr8fuln2020]

I agree with DK. For some reason what makes a guy attractive is his ability to play the game and not give a crap about women.

 

When I was doing OLD my friend told me to ignore everything a woman says in her profile because it's just bull****. When I started to do that I got more successful. I think relationships work like this too. A guy has to interpret the emotions behind what a GF says because the words are pointless.

 

So, for those of us who include well written profiles, truthful, should not waste the time to do so?

[CobraX]

So, for those of us who include well written profiles, truthful, should not waste the time to do so?

 

Two points. First the way you see yourself is not likely the same way other people see you, nor how you are in reality. Don't bother writing about this even if you are spot on and insightful the other 90% of the female population can't accurately describe themselves, so most guys won't believe you.

 

Second, if you have a list of even 1 requirement drop it. My response rate goes up when I don't fit the stated requirements. I think they see my picture and drop the list. Guys are the exact same. Even if you are obese and they say "no fat ladies"... still hit them up.