Rebound Relationships

[Pugwash]

Has anyone on here either been on the receiving end of a rebound or been in one themselves?

 

After splitting up with my ex fiance around 5/6 weeks ago, she's after been in a new relationship this past 2 weeks or so!

 

Its crazy because in the 3/4 weeks we were split up I was fine "but" you know still had major feelings for her, then once I found out she was in a new relationship I hit the roof As the days have passed since I found out, I'm getting over it slowly but surely but it's a long process.

 

Isn't it amazing how you can go from one extreme to another emotionally so quickly.

[Jimmyjackson]

I think I was the reboundee in my recent involvement with a girl. Really sucks to be honest, especially when there were no issues and you got on well etc. Maybe if we'd met at a later date things could've been different who knows.

 

The thing with your ex and her new flame might not last, it might at the same time though who knows. Sounds like you've got a classic case of wanting what you can't have. The fact it bothers you means you've still got feelings for her.

[Pugwash]

I think I was the reboundee in my recent involvement with a girl. Really sucks to be honest, especially when there were no issues and you got on well etc. Maybe if we'd met at a later date things could've been different who knows.

 

The thing with your ex and her new flame might not last, it might at the same time though who knows. Sounds like you've got a classic case of wanting what you can't have. The fact it bothers you means you've still got feelings for her.

 

If I truly wanted her, I wouldn't have broken up with her?

 

If she was single right now I would be 50/50 on whether I would get back with her or not (provided she wanted to of course)

 

Of course it bothers me? I said I'm slowly but surely getting over it

[Been]

Because chances are she lined it up while you were still with her. That's what's bothering you. And 9 times out of ten that's what they did-they threw a line out to someone while they were still with you.

[Pugwash]

]Because chances are she lined it up while you were still with her.[/b] That's what's bothering you. And 9 times out of ten that's what they did-they threw a line out to someone while they were still with you.

 

Couldn't be further from the truth

 

I dumped her anyhow and she was begging me to take her back for a month, her new relationship won't last more than a few months.

[Bromeo]

Pug,

 

I've read your threads and you present quite the interesting case. Unfortunately, this is mostly a community of dumpees, so support will wax and wane for the dumper.

 

I came here looking for magic advice for my situation, and found some good online friends.

 

To wit, my ex of 18 months leapt into a relationship 3 weeks or so after our demise. I didn't know, and went to see her to profess my love. What a terrible idea. Read my tale if you want to laugh. After some light FB research, I decided I don't care. We had our problems, for sure, and I am satisfied I exhausted all possibilities to reconcile.

 

You appear to be over analyzing to the extreme. Make your intention known, and then try your best to move on. Don't make my and others mistakes.

 

Online fist bumps, our logic and their emotions don't mix at all. I asked mine to consider her issues from my point of view. She said she did, and I still sucked. Lol

 

Dave

[Blanco]

My advice would be not to waste too much time examining your ex's new relationship or its odds of lasting.

 

I left what had become a really unhappy relationship two years ago. I still very much cared for her, but knew the relationship had no happy future. It still hurt a lot when she was seeing someone a few weeks later. I tried to tell myself that it wouldn't last because it was a rebound and because of some other factors. I obsessed over it, and in the end, it was pointless. I kept waiting for the relationship to fizzle out. To my knowledge, it never did.

[basil67]

Couldn't be further from the truth

 

I dumped her anyhow and she was begging me to take her back for a month, her new relationship won't last more than a few months.

 

You dumped her. You didn't want her back.

 

So why do you care that she's moved on? Why are you not happy for her?

[basil67]

My advice would be not to waste too much time examining your ex's new relationship or its odds of lasting.

 

I left what had become a really unhappy relationship two years ago. I still very much cared for her, but knew the relationship had no happy future. It still hurt a lot when she was seeing someone a few weeks later. I tried to tell myself that it wouldn't last because it was a rebound and because of some other factors. I obsessed over it, and in the end, it was pointless. I kept waiting for the relationship to fizzle out. To my knowledge, it never did.

 

Yeah, my 'rebound' after leaving my first husband is still going strong 25 years later.

[Survivor12]

Yeah, my 'rebound' after leaving my first husband is still going strong 25 years later.

 

Haha...Mine lasted 28!

[LuvMyDogMore]

I was in/am in a similar position: NC was going okay and I felt like I was making progress, until he got drunk and sent me a picture of his date (and someone else told me he was out with some chick the previous Saturday night -- small town). All of the sudden I was re-devastated, amazed that he could start dating so quickly -- and it's none of my business! I'm the one who kicked him out of my life and I have no desire to replace him until I get right in the head. I also know he's definitely NOT right in the head and feel sorry for whomever he ends up with as she too will be on the receiving end of his emotional => physical abuse.

 

Nonetheless, I just became fixated on the horror that he's already forgotten & replaced me. It's getting better and I've kept up NC but the pain is still there (especially during the holidays -- ugh!).