Our engagement ended babdly on both ends

[chase813]

Ok, Im going to try and make a long story short. I met my ex fiance 2 years ago. I moved in with her after dating only 4 months, because of my living situation.. and well since she offered why not live with who I started to love. I was head over heals for her, being 3 years older than me, she slowed me down and matured me in ways. I ended up falling so deaply in love with her, after 7 months i purposed to her. This was after realizing she had been thru a lot in previous relationships, she was still talking to ex's, maybe sleeping with one.. i wanted to show her she had a real man in front of her ready to take whatever responsibilities I needed and show her i was serious. Well she was surprised and said yes. So 7 months into our relationship.. I was engaged, I was happy and felt good, because my love for this female was so strong, and she was so beautiful to me. Her laugh could just change my whole day.. and things were getting better. She did a 360 and for a while things were perfect. She became the women I dreamed of. Well.. we started to fight over a lot of things, stuff made me curious why i couldnt have her passwords to her phone, facebook, etc. phone always on silent, and no notifications would pop up on the phone. So i caught her talking to one of her ex's, changed his name in the phone. So we argued.. but i didnt want to give up. I started to wonder and get insecure.. and said some hurtful things. I never gave her no reason to ever wonder about me so I got so mad. Her best friend who she talked to on a daily was who she lost her virginity to as well so that didnt help the problem. Well.. she ended up pregnant.. i was surprised and shocked didnt give her the reaction she wanted, but for our whole relationship i tried to get her pregnant.. well we lost the child to etopic pregnancy. We were both heart broken.. she started to complain she was lonely and needed a break.. being mad about the past and figuring how she would act out.. i distance myself and waited to see if she would cheat.. instead of being a man and being more by her side.. even though i was home everyday with her. Well i caught her talking to the same ex' and another guy she admitted to sleeping with. I told her we would try and work it out, but the fights continued, she was twerking online and posting videos that just made me loose it, even though she said it wasnt her intentions it was just the timing of everything. So i moved out .. and i think things started to hit her... I was seeing other females but just to void the pain, she was still the only female i slept with. She asked me to do counceling with her but i denied her request, though i wish i did. I ended up dogging her online becuase i was so hurt and angry , I knew how much i loved her i would take her back but at the time i wanted to sabotage everything so there would be no looking back. I ended up almost loosing my life in a car accident leaving her place after all this one night.. smacked into a tree... for months of recovery i ignored her with so much anger.. while she thought she might of been pregnant by me again. But she had also started dating somebody new, which now they are in a relationship. I made peace with her and her family, which the parents wanted me to work it out with her , but she said she is happy where she is with this new guy. Maybe Im just being soft, but I really loved her, I know relationships arent perfect, and mine wasnt either but it wasnt all bad as well. I told her I still love her and is always here, but she doesnt want communication because of respect for her new relationship and boyfriend. We were supposed to get married in 10 months , and now its all gone. Do you think she is in a rebound relationship or do you think she really just moved on from me? Everyone tells me to move on , but for some reason I just cant shake my feelings for her.. I never wanted to i wanted to marry her.. but i guess this reality that the love maybe wasnt the same?

[krich1187]

Ok, Im going to try and make a long story short. I met my ex fiance 2 years ago. I moved in with her after dating only 4 months, because of my living situation.. and well since she offered why not live with who I started to love. I was head over heals for her, being 3 years older than me, she slowed me down and matured me in ways. I ended up falling so deaply in love with her, after 7 months i purposed to her. This was after realizing she had been thru a lot in previous relationships, she was still talking to ex's, maybe sleeping with one.. i wanted to show her she had a real man in front of her ready to take whatever responsibilities I needed and show her i was serious. Well she was surprised and said yes. So 7 months into our relationship.. I was engaged, I was happy and felt good, because my love for this female was so strong, and she was so beautiful to me. Her laugh could just change my whole day.. and things were getting better. She did a 360 and for a while things were perfect. She became the women I dreamed of. Well.. we started to fight over a lot of things, stuff made me curious why i couldnt have her passwords to her phone, facebook, etc. phone always on silent, and no notifications would pop up on the phone. So i caught her talking to one of her ex's, changed his name in the phone. So we argued.. but i didnt want to give up. I started to wonder and get insecure.. and said some hurtful things. I never gave her no reason to ever wonder about me so I got so mad. Her best friend who she talked to on a daily was who she lost her virginity to as well so that didnt help the problem. Well.. she ended up pregnant.. i was surprised and shocked didnt give her the reaction she wanted, but for our whole relationship i tried to get her pregnant.. well we lost the child to etopic pregnancy. We were both heart broken.. she started to complain she was lonely and needed a break.. being mad about the past and figuring how she would act out.. i distance myself and waited to see if she would cheat.. instead of being a man and being more by her side.. even though i was home everyday with her. Well i caught her talking to the same ex' and another guy she admitted to sleeping with. I told her we would try and work it out, but the fights continued, she was twerking online and posting videos that just made me loose it, even though she said it wasnt her intentions it was just the timing of everything. So i moved out .. and i think things started to hit her... I was seeing other females but just to void the pain, she was still the only female i slept with. She asked me to do counceling with her but i denied her request, though i wish i did. I ended up dogging her online becuase i was so hurt and angry , I knew how much i loved her i would take her back but at the time i wanted to sabotage everything so there would be no looking back. I ended up almost loosing my life in a car accident leaving her place after all this one night.. smacked into a tree... for months of recovery i ignored her with so much anger.. while she thought she might of been pregnant by me again. But she had also started dating somebody new, which now they are in a relationship. I made peace with her and her family, which the parents wanted me to work it out with her , but she said she is happy where she is with this new guy. Maybe Im just being soft, but I really loved her, I know relationships arent perfect, and mine wasnt either but it wasnt all bad as well. I told her I still love her and is always here, but she doesnt want communication because of respect for her new relationship and boyfriend. We were supposed to get married in 10 months , and now its all gone. Do you think she is in a rebound relationship or do you think she really just moved on from me? Everyone tells me to move on , but for some reason I just cant shake my feelings for her.. I never wanted to i wanted to marry her.. but i guess this reality that the love maybe wasnt the same?

 

Sounds like a lot of heavy stuff. Stuff that it's hard to get over. You can love someone and move on. If you love someone, and they're happy, leave it alone. I think you will find a better fit for you anyways.

[VeveCakes]

Shes a serial cheater and liar...this was a blessing in disguise.

 

Set yourself free and find a woman who only has eyes for you.

[Been]

You should rewrite it like this: I meant a female and everything moved really fast. Before you know it we were moved in togeather. I then placed her on a pedestal. She could do no wrong.

I proposed to her. She said yes. But latter I found out she was still talking to an ex. Even changed his name on her phone to disguise it. I confronted her. We argued. She still kept talking to her ex. I got mad and moved out. End of story.

 

Who in the hell wants to be with someone who still is talking to her ex?HUGE red flag. And to top it off she changed his name on the phone to disguise it-RED FLAG.

She is stuck on her ex. You were option B. And it was ALWAYS going to be like that. No matter what you did.

[jellybean824]

Wow. Sounds like you have been through a lot with this girl. I am sorry that your heart was broken. It seems like she entered into the relationship with a lot of baggage. That might sound very cliché, but it does affect all relationships going forward. Sadly, it seems she was never on the same page as you were. I don't know if this new relationship is just a "rebound," as you have suggested. Looking at her history, it seems this is a pattern she has been repeating for some time. As hard as it is to move on, it might be the best thing for you. Of course you will grieve the loss. That is normal and to be expected. Hopefully, with time, you can open your heart to love again. Best wishes as you move forward.

[Pugwash]

Ok, Im going to try and make a long story short. I met my ex fiance 2 years ago. I moved in with her after dating only 4 months, because of my living situation.. and well since she offered why not live with who I started to love. I was head over heals for her, being 3 years older than me, she slowed me down and matured me in ways. I ended up falling so deaply in love with her, after 7 months i purposed to her. This was after realizing she had been thru a lot in previous relationships, she was still talking to ex's, maybe sleeping with one.. i wanted to show her she had a real man in front of her ready to take whatever responsibilities I needed and show her i was serious. Well she was surprised and said yes. So 7 months into our relationship.. I was engaged, I was happy and felt good, because my love for this female was so strong, and she was so beautiful to me. Her laugh could just change my whole day.. and things were getting better. She did a 360 and for a while things were perfect. She became the women I dreamed of. Well.. we started to fight over a lot of things, stuff made me curious why i couldnt have her passwords to her phone, facebook, etc. phone always on silent, and no notifications would pop up on the phone. So i caught her talking to one of her ex's, changed his name in the phone. So we argued.. but i didnt want to give up. I started to wonder and get insecure.. and said some hurtful things. I never gave her no reason to ever wonder about me so I got so mad. Her best friend who she talked to on a daily was who she lost her virginity to as well so that didnt help the problem. Well.. she ended up pregnant.. i was surprised and shocked didnt give her the reaction she wanted, but for our whole relationship i tried to get her pregnant.. well we lost the child to etopic pregnancy. We were both heart broken.. she started to complain she was lonely and needed a break.. being mad about the past and figuring how she would act out.. i distance myself and waited to see if she would cheat.. instead of being a man and being more by her side.. even though i was home everyday with her. Well i caught her talking to the same ex' and another guy she admitted to sleeping with. I told her we would try and work it out, but the fights continued, she was twerking online and posting videos that just made me loose it, even though she said it wasnt her intentions it was just the timing of everything. So i moved out .. and i think things started to hit her... I was seeing other females but just to void the pain, she was still the only female i slept with. She asked me to do counceling with her but i denied her request, though i wish i did. I ended up dogging her online becuase i was so hurt and angry , I knew how much i loved her i would take her back but at the time i wanted to sabotage everything so there would be no looking back. I ended up almost loosing my life in a car accident leaving her place after all this one night.. smacked into a tree... for months of recovery i ignored her with so much anger.. while she thought she might of been pregnant by me again. But she had also started dating somebody new, which now they are in a relationship. I made peace with her and her family, which the parents wanted me to work it out with her , but she said she is happy where she is with this new guy. Maybe Im just being soft, but I really loved her, I know relationships arent perfect, and mine wasnt either but it wasnt all bad as well. I told her I still love her and is always here, but she doesnt want communication because of respect for her new relationship and boyfriend. We were supposed to get married in 10 months , and now its all gone. Do you think she is in a rebound relationship or do you think she really just moved on from me? Everyone tells me to move on , but for some reason I just cant shake my feelings for her.. I never wanted to i wanted to marry her.. but i guess this reality that the love maybe wasnt the same?

 

That is something called TRUST, why the hell would you want access to her facebook account or her phone ffs. That is crazy behaviour on your part!

 

There isn't anything wrong with having a peak to see who the other person is texting if they're lying in bed beside you or anything we all do it but no way should you need/want access to private password.

 

My ex used to tell me to check her phone if ever I had no doubts about her being faithful which I never had thankfully and I was the same! No my relationship turned out to be crap, hence the break up but you want to find a girl who you can trust to the extent where she tells you check my phone if you don't trust me even if you don't actually go ahead and do it.