LookAtThisPOst Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 (edited) I saw a post recently by an old high school friend that posted on FB, "Not the best day when you find out your ex married the [OW]." Talk about rubbing salt in the wound, but hey, as long as he's happy, right? ( I say this sarcastically and tongue-in-cheek ) Ever had that situation happen with you?Save Edited December 22, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language~T
Gaeta Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 Yes been there. It was one of the hardest thing to accept but I eventually did and life went on and I found my own happiness again somewhere else. Funny thing her and I became friends but that's me, I want harmony in my life and have no time to hold grudges. 5
Lady2163 Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 (edited) I saw a post recently by an old high school friend that posted on FB, "Not the best day when you find out your ex married the [OW]." Talk about rubbing salt in the wound, but hey, as long as he's happy, right? ( I say this sarcastically and tongue-in-cheek ) Ever had that situation happen with you? This is an unequal level of blame. His new wife is a "home wrecker" but he is merely the "ex". One of the problems in my marriage was my husband preferred to be his "mommy's little boy" rather than "my grown up husband." Does that make my deceased former MIL a home wrecker? She certainly could have done things to help rather than hinder. Sometimes mothers have a blind spot for their sons. So, yeah, sorry to say, but your friend is not giving them equal blame. And that may be how she gets through the day. Every man who cheated on me went on to be ridiculously happy with their AP. One of them did cruelly move her in and marry her within six months of just starting to see her. We had been together for almost three years and he wasn't ready to live together. I suppose it is a blessing that he only cheated on me for a little over a month, so there wasn't a lot of gaslighting. Lying, yes. Anyway, last I heard he was still insanely happy and still insanely a prick. I wouldn't have thought it back then, but my life is much better without him. He didn't love me, but would have used my love to probably contribute....oh....quick calculation $500,000 to his wants and needs. He was totally in love with his 100 year old shack of a house. He's still in it and I can't believe she has never got him to build a new house on he land. It really was below average. And yes, I've known many couples who married their APs. One of them just celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary. The husbands first wife still hates him. She alienated their children and only has two friends. One of which barely tolerates her.Save Edited December 22, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
Texygrl Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 (edited) Personally, I never considered the "other woman" part of the equation. Other women don't have allegiance to me, the person I'm married to is the only one that "owes" me anything. That said, my father did call my ex's names My ex did chose his 20year-younger OW over me...and I was glad to let her have him. She found out that he lied to her just as much as he lied to me. She found out that he "cheated" on her with me (in the couple of months after I initially left the ex). The ex later told me the reason they broke up was because she couldn't get over me. ?? Which made me laugh at both of them. Now, currently, as history repeats itself -_- I was initially furious at the other woman, then actually apologized for lashing out at her (because, yeah, I'm weird like that). HOWEVER, I then found out she was sending him messages via mutual friends. Still doesn't make her a home wrecker, just a not nice person.Save Edited December 22, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language~T
Larryville Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 What goes around comes around in the long run
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