I'll be seeing my Ex around, so how should i act around her? [UPDATE: Ex reached out]

December 22, 2016

Dated for 10 months and we broke up one month ago. For months we've had issues regarding her being distant and not putting in effort. More and more she would not respond to my texts, would flake on dates/hanging out, wouldn't plan time to hang out with me. She was mostly asking me to hang out like "now" or "in a little bit" a lot of the time just at her house at night.

I'd been feeling heavily neglected. I'm not exaggerating that it was bad. I was an idiot for staying as long as i did. Back then i realized how selfish she was being, but even more so now. On top of that, she made me feel crazy and needy for wanting more from her. [] to get an idea without me getting into too many details is so accurate it's not funny. I don't remember the last time, if at all, she asked me out to dinner, or for a drink or offered to buy me a drink. She gives me excuses why she can't do or hasn't been the way i expect her to be yet i see her doing all that with all her other friends. She said she loves and is so thankful for me, yet refused to show it.

Anyway, i can go on forever. Obviously i really wanted things to work out because i was really into her and i loved what we were before and i believed we had potential. So there's a lot I miss and a lot i don't. I feel very stupid and have a lot of regret. Stupid for being manipulated and giving her the benefit of the doubt. I regret being so good to her for so long.

It's been a month and she's contacted me twice. One time we were with friends at a bar, but neither of us said "hi" to the other or even made eye contact. I didn't want to. Later she texted if I want her to keep giving me space or if i want to start saying "hi". I said it doesn't matter to me, but "hi" is fine. For the record, i never asked her for space, I'm just diong what i want. The second time, she invited me to a party on FB. She then texted me it was a real invitation, and then asked if i want more space or to not be invited to things like that in the future. I thought that was a ridiculous question and i just didn't respond.

I don't want to see her or talk to her. One, it's hard because going from sexual to platonic just is. Two, i have a lot of regret almost to the point of being embarrassed at how i let her walk all over me. Three, i resent her actions and don't think she deserves any of my attention.

She is pretty good friends with my friends and roommates. They've been hanging out and that's hard. She recently took them out for drinks. SMH. We had a party at my house the other day, and through my roommate, we coordinated that she not come over until i left the house. Is that bad? Does that just show her I care? I just don't want to care, but right now the means not wanting to see her. If she shows up, i don't want to pretend to want to talk. Why should we? She couldn't treat me like a friend then, why bother starting now?

So how should I handle myself if she comes up and says "hi". Can i keep it very short? Like, not ask her anything. Should I stop avoiding her or is that fine?

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December 22, 2016

Dated for 10 months and we broke up one month ago. For months we've had issues regarding her being distant and not putting in effort. More and more she would not respond to my texts, would flake on dates/hanging out, wouldn't plan time to hang out with me. She was mostly asking me to hang out like "now" or "in a little bit" a lot of the time just at her house at night.

I'd been feeling heavily neglected. I'm not exaggerating that it was bad. I was an idiot for staying as long as i did. Back then i realized how selfish she was being, but even more so now. On top of that, she made me feel crazy and needy for wanting more from her. [] to get an idea without me getting into too many details is so accurate it's not funny. I don't remember the last time, if at all, she asked me out to dinner, or for a drink or offered to buy me a drink. She gives me excuses why she can't do or hasn't been the way i expect her to be yet i see her doing all that with all her other friends. She said she loves and is so thankful for me, yet refused to show it.

Anyway, i can go on forever. Obviously i really wanted things to work out because i was really into her and i loved what we were before and i believed we had potential. So there's a lot I miss and a lot i don't. I feel very stupid and have a lot of regret. Stupid for being manipulated and giving her the benefit of the doubt. I regret being so good to her for so long.

It's been a month and she's contacted me twice. One time we were with friends at a bar, but neither of us said "hi" to the other or even made eye contact. I didn't want to. Later she texted if I want her to keep giving me space or if i want to start saying "hi". I said it doesn't matter to me, but "hi" is fine. For the record, i never asked her for space, I'm just diong what i want. The second time, she invited me to a party on FB. She then texted me it was a real invitation, and then asked if i want more space or to not be invited to things like that in the future. I thought that was a ridiculous question and i just didn't respond.

I don't want to see her or talk to her. One, it's hard because going from sexual to platonic just is. Two, i have a lot of regret almost to the point of being embarrassed at how i let her walk all over me. Three, i resent her actions and don't think she deserves any of my attention.

She is pretty good friends with my friends and roommates. They've been hanging out and that's hard. She recently took them out for drinks. SMH. We had a party at my house the other day, and through my roommate, we coordinated that she not come over until i left the house. Is that bad? Does that just show her I care? I just don't want to care, but right now the means not wanting to see her. If she shows up, i don't want to pretend to want to talk. Why should we? She couldn't treat me like a friend then, why bother starting now?

So how should I handle myself if she comes up and says "hi". Can i keep it very short? Like, not ask her anything. Should I stop avoiding her or is that fine?

I think she's going out of her way to talk to you when you've made it clear that's what you want. She's doing it for a reaction. There may be a part of you that loves her, but if you truly reflect on the relationship do you really want those feelings back? Think of it like a drug. You know the high you're experiencing is bad, but in some way, you want it anyway.

If what you say is true, I think you deserve better than that. I would talk to her and say you need serious space, but try to be peaceful about it because you do have the same friends. I would try to do that and get over your anger towards her before you even consider seeing her again.

It's fair to be emotional, you just broke up. It's fair to ask for space, she hurt you. It isn't fair to you or her to stay angry - it won't help. Don't feel stupid, i was in a similar relationship, we broke it off, talked seldom for a year and started dating again. We broke up again because I had a work opportunity but the second go around was great and we are friendly now.

I'm going through a breakup myself and just want to say the best advice I've seen on here is to take care of yourself. I think too many people are focused on getting the ex back or taking them back without the changes that need to happen having been made. You're setting yourself up for more heartbreak if you don't focus on yourself and what you want and need going forward.

Edited January 23, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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December 22, 2016

Your going to have to act indifferent. Don't even acknowledge her in anyway.

And don't have your friends make special arrangements so you can avoid her.

Just suck it up. It's going to bother you.

December 22, 2016

I dated a woman for two years. We broke up almost a year ago now, and I see her at least once a month. She's not in the same MC club I am. I see her at club meetings/events/runs.

What do you do? You deal with it. I'm friendly with her, but not friends. That's what I suggest you do. There's no need to be rude or pretend you dont' see her in a crowded room. You say hi when you see each other, maybe talk a bit, but that's about it. If you really don't want to do that, no-one is forcing you too. If she comes up and says hi, you say hi back, then walk away.

December 22, 2016

Your going to have to act indifferent. Don't even acknowledge her in anyway.
And don't have your friends make special arrangements so you can avoid her.
Just suck it up. It's going to bother you.

So I should be ok with her coming over whenever? It just puts me in a weird position where if I don't hang out with her and my roommates I CV one off as hurting/sensitive. If I do hangout it will just be strange and I'd be pretending. I'm tired of bending to her will, putting her comfort ahead of mineand her getting everything she wants. I think a big part of her being scared of me leaving is I was just a crutch and she didn't want to lose me as a friend. Yet it wasn't important enough to even treat me like a good friend (I'm not exaggerating)

She seriously got all she wanted our of me, got over me, and have the comfort of not losing me because she's friends with my roommates? The home situation is different to me than say hanging out at the same bar. We're both choosing to bethere .

Even imagining a small talk conversation seems dumb. She'll have to say hi. I'll obviously say hi back, but then? One thing that really upset me is I was curious how she was, how were weekends were, etc. She almost never bothered to ask. One of our last times together we hadn't seen each other or talked for 5 days. She said how much she missed me, but then didn't ask me anything about my life recently. Like I was just a **** buddy. On top of that she can't emphasize with me being upset aboutthat .

Basically Id feel bad about her starting to "care" now. Why bother pretending? What's there to gain from being acquaintances?

I'm ranting , you don't have to answer any of those haha. But does it make sense why I'd prefer to not deal with her?

I guess I just feel terrible about how she treated me. This isn't about revenge for breaking up. For once I want to look out for myself. I told her this would happen but she didn't have the forethought or care to put in the least bit of effort.

December 22, 2016

You can be polite to someone without engaging with them. I have to see my ex around at work, and I've mastered how to be polite but aloof. I ignore him if possible. I don't go out of my way to talk to him, but, if he says HI, I will say HI back and keep on moving. If he asks about family, I say "they're fine" and keep on moving. There are ways to cut off conversations and let the other person know you are not interested in engaging further with them. You can do all of this without being rude and while also protecting yourself from further hurt. It just takes a bit of practice.

Your other option is to ask her never to speak to you. I initially considered this option, but it seemed too dramatic for my situation. The time never seemed right to say that, and my ex never pushed any further. He got the message that I wasn't interested in engaging with him and pretty much left me alone.

December 22, 2016

You can be polite to someone without engaging with them. I have to see my ex around at work, and I've mastered how to be polite but aloof. I ignore him if possible. I don't go out of my way to talk to him, but, if he says HI, I will say HI back and keep on moving. If he asks about family, I say "they're fine" and keep on moving. There are ways to cut off conversations and let the other person know you are not interested in engaging further with them. You can do all of this without being rude and while also protecting yourself from further hurt. It just takes a bit of practice.

Your other option is to ask her never to speak to you. I initially considered this option, but it seemed too dramatic for my situation. The time never seemed right to say that, and my ex never pushed any further. He got the message that I wasn't interested in engaging with him and pretty much left me alone.

That makes sense. That's basically how I see it playing out which I guess is why I'm saying "what's the point even?" if it's just going to be the most surface levelConvo . But ya I'll just keep it short and she can decide if she wants to keep itgoing . Why after like 2 weeks of NC and one time in the same place was she concerned if we can say hi or not? Just to keep me around somewhat?

December 23, 2016

I wouldn't say anything to her. You'll eventually master it. Takes time. If someone does me dirty they don't exist. I don't act mean or anything but they don't exist. Don't say hi. Don't say ANYTHING to them.

And if I dated someone and they screwed me over really bad they are as good as invisible to me. I don't acknowledge them. Why would I want to say hi to someone who did me wrong?

December 24, 2016

Long, complicated story. Basically started hanging out with this girl for 2months as friends. She broke up with someone, we became FWB. Then it got more coupley and we started talking bout dating exclusively. She really liked me like that, but didn't feel she was ready. Wanted to be open to seeing other people, but she wanted some time to see. Some time passes by and she's still not ready. I was sure i wanted to date exclusively. We basically kept seeing each other as a casual open relationship.

She started getting distant, but would be hot and cold. She's made me feel bad in the past and i'd bring this up. Those were the majority of the issues. Anyway, it all came to an end after a date night she was really late to and kind of ruined. She had been doing this a lot recently and we had a fight about her recent ways.

So there are a lot of different aspects that make me sad, frustrated, regretful. I just wanted to touch on two: not ending it earlier or making us take a break for a while.

I wish i ended it after 4 months when she said she still wasn't ready. I felt weird/bad giving her an ultimatum since she was recently out of a relationship and i didn't want to force anything. But now, i think about how i should've. She got comfortable with the fact she can do what she wants and still have me. I was stupidly in the mindset that, hey she's a friend first and at least we get to do all this rad stuff together. I had way more leverage back then when she was more attached to me. It got to a point where i feel like i have none now. She was really special and i hate the fact that we didn't give it a real shot. Yes, i learned a lot, but it hurts so much, this part of it.

How do i get over these feelings of regret? Also, i'm going to run into her once in a while which makes it hard.

January 2, 2017

I cant say Ive been in a situation like this before but I will tell you what I think. It is a shame that you feel like this since youre saying that you two were close before this happened, but you shouldnt feel regret. I think that everything happens for a reason, bad or good and I think that if she could see through you and understand how you feel she would value that. The fact that she couldnt commit to you only shows how she wasnt capable of making you her first choice (at least thats the way it looks to me from wht youve said). If there is one thing I have learned from my previous relationships, is that there is no point in feeling regrets because that is what you felt was right when you did it and there isnt only person to blame in a relationship, whatever that is.My point is that, regretting something you cannot change will only cause you being more upset and stop you from being happy. The only thing you can do is know better next time something like that comes up. Maybe for one last time though, you could try and be honest with her and tell her what you just wrote here. About how she meant a lot to you and you regret not having told her that you want to be exclusive from the beginning. Honesty is the only thing that works.

I hope that helps even a little bit xx

January 2, 2017

Ah... regret. Feels pretty icky doesn't it? It is pretty low on the vibrational scale. But here's a technique to overcome regret.

I'm going to give you two stories about what happened.

Story 1: "I really regret how I was in that relationship. I really liked her and I feel like if I had ended it earlier when she said she wasn't ready I wouldn't feel so rejected. And that maybe if I had acted then our relationship could have changed for the better. It sucks now because I feel rejected, powerless and I know I am going to run into her."

Story 2: "Looking back I can see how I could have done things differently. The way I acted resulted in me feeling powerless and rejected. I've learned from that and in the future if I am in a similar situation, I'll do it differently."

Okay, both are true stories right? They're actually 100% true and 100% equal. You're lingering in Story #1. But does it serve you? Does it do anything but keep you in the past? Try on Story #2. Does that serve you? Do you see that it moves you out of the past and into the future?

Try focusing on that story and I think you'll find that the feelings of regret will diminish over time.

Best of luck!

Mrin

Edited January 2, 2017 by Mrin

January 12, 2017

Ah... regret. Feels pretty icky doesn't it? It is pretty low on the vibrational scale. But here's a technique to overcome regret.

I'm going to give you two stories about what happened.

Story 1: "I really regret how I was in that relationship. I really liked her and I feel like if I had ended it earlier when she said she wasn't ready I wouldn't feel so rejected. And that maybe if I had acted then our relationship could have changed for the better. It sucks now because I feel rejected, powerless and I know I am going to run into her."

Story 2: "Looking back I can see how I could have done things differently. The way I acted resulted in me feeling powerless and rejected. I've learned from that and in the future if I am in a similar situation, I'll do it differently."

Okay, both are true stories right? They're actually 100% true and 100% equal. You're lingering in Story #1. But does it serve you? Does it do anything but keep you in the past? Try on Story #2. Does that serve you? Do you see that it moves you out of the past and into the future?

Try focusing on that story and I think you'll find that the feelings of regret will diminish over time.

Best of luck!

Mrin

Thanks. I've been going back and forth between those stories constantly. I've realized a lot of important yet painful lessons. I think i can do better at recognizing when i need to break up or take a break from someone. No ones pushed me to those emotional limits before, so even though I was aware of how bad i felt and how ****ed the situation was, i just pushed through it for some reason. Well one reason being i liked her A LOT. I know i deserve better. I know i was way too good to her for it not being reciprocated.

I guess one of my biggest stresses is the thought of seeing her. It's been 2 months, but mostly because we've avoided each other. It's made it easier for the mean time, but it feels like the awkwardness is building up for when we do see each other. I feel that even if i'm forward thinking, seeing her is just going to draw me back into the past.

Say she wants to talk and be friendly. My regrets are lessons learned for the future. I'm stressing from wondering how i can take my power back in this "relationship". small example: She stopped texting me "how are you doing?" or "how was your week"? Even the 2nd to last time we hung out and she said how much she missed me, she asked nothing about me. This felt terrible. So how do i face her and have a conversation like this, when i strongly feel that she doesn't deserve to know anything about me. I don't want to ask anything about her. When she does ask me, in my head i'll just think about how disingenuous it is, or how she had her opportunities for that already. How do i take control without seeming petty?

January 12, 2017

I cant say Ive been in a situation like this before but I will tell you what I think. It is a shame that you feel like this since youre saying that you two were close before this happened, but you shouldnt feel regret. I think that everything happens for a reason, bad or good and I think that if she could see through you and understand how you feel she would value that. The fact that she couldnt commit to you only shows how she wasnt capable of making you her first choice (at least thats the way it looks to me from wht youve said). If there is one thing I have learned from my previous relationships, is that there is no point in feeling regrets because that is what you felt was right when you did it and there isnt only person to blame in a relationship, whatever that is.My point is that, regretting something you cannot change will only cause you being more upset and stop you from being happy. The only thing you can do is know better next time something like that comes up. Maybe for one last time though, you could try and be honest with her and tell her what you just wrote here. About how she meant a lot to you and you regret not having told her that you want to be exclusive from the beginning. Honesty is the only thing that works.

I hope that helps even a little bit xx

I didn't feel like i was asking to be number 1 priority. But its hard when she was calling me her best friend, saying she loved me and was scared of losing me, to then seeming so indifferent to our distance. It got to a point where i didn't even feel like a good/close friend, but more like a **** buddy. She was making time for all her other friends, while giving me mere scraps of her time. On top of that, when i got upset about it, she made me think i was asking so much of her.

I know the regrets and the what ifs are terrible for me, i just can't help it. It doesn't help that there's constant reminders, like hearing my friends talk about hanging out with her (sucks that i can't join them anymore). I haven't even seen her since, but knowing that for the first time i won't be ecstatic to see her come over to my house, but rather dread it.

She knew i wanted to be exclusive after a couple months. Then a while after that when we kind of agreed it wasn't going to happen, it was still important to me that we remain close friends/partners and be good to each other. Numerous times i tried to be honest with her about my feelings and how she was upsetting me, but she did this thing where she played victim and made me feel bad for saying stuff. i.e."so you think i'm just a bad friend" or "i wasn't using you" and i'd end up apologizing even though those things were true. She honestly was very selfish. It doesn't feel like she ever felt accountable for anything or had any empathy for me.

In hindsight, i always think i could've expressed myself clearer and better. I don't know if our conversations came off as me just telling her what hurtful thing she did and what i wish she would or wouldn't do differently. IDK if i was clear that "it feels like you don't care or love me, even though you say you do."

January 23, 2017

I'll try and be short and get to the point.

Became really good friends for a couple months following her break up. Realized we really liked each other. Then FWB. Back and forth for a few months if we should date exclusively or not ( i wanted to ). She was always unsure and eventually got to a point where she didn't think that would work for her. Anyway, we Considered us casually dating for 10 months. We saw each other regularly and did all the coupley things.

Eventually she started being distant, putting in less effort, talking to me less. I'd get upset, she'd blame it on her current poor emotional state or some other thing. Towards the very end she'd flake on hanging out, ignore texts often. However it was always hot AND cold, so we still had good times, just less. Also not so much quality time between us. Felt like i was getting the scraps, she would never make plans ahead of time with me, but could with all her other friends. For the most part seemed like she invited me over to her house at night. She'd say she loved me and was grateful for me but didn't show it. Yes, i stupidly stuck around for many reasons. I basically felt like she wasn't being a good friend even and that hurt the most. If this was a situation where she thought we could stop being intimate and be friends because it's casual, she wasn't showing that she valued me as a good friend.

One night after she flaked for the nth time, we got in a fight and broke up.

I've gone NC for 2 months since then and avoided seeing her. She's reached out once or twice, asking if i want space or whatever and i didn't really respond.

She recently texted if i want to meet up for a drink and talk about things. We have mutual friends, so we'll have to see each other eventually and she wants to kind of talk about that maybe? . I do miss her and think of being friends or something again, but she's really disappointed me, so sometimes i think i'm totally over it. But that will just make the future even more awkward. I'm also not in the best place with other stuff and i kind of want to be back on my feet before i deal with her at all.

So i don't know what to do or say!! Should i meet? Do i seem weak or petty if i say no thanks? What would we e even talk about? I feel like i don't have anything good to say and all that would come out would be more about how she was ****ty or what didn't work. ALSO, i can't remember the last time, if ever, she asked me out for a drink or dinner, which plays into the thing about her not treating me like a friend. Part of me wants to tell her that or something like "why start doing that now." Because during this whole decline in the relationship, it's like she never understood how she was treating me. She made me feel like i was asking out a girl form Tinder for the 2nd time, when i asked if she wanted to grab a drink. She'd always have an excuse.

Thank you if you read this. I've never been in a situation like this.

January 23, 2017

didnt she already flake on you twice?

January 23, 2017

no dude listen to me no. not at all. no again. nope. Throw your sources of communication in the lagoon and quickly handcuff your self to your bed post. Dont speak to her unless the words im sorry i love you lets get back together and make this work come out. Every time i said, i cant be in more pain then im in now so why not. I ended up in twice as much pain. run

January 23, 2017

no dude listen to me no. not at all. no again. nope. Throw your sources of communication in the lagoon and quickly handcuff your self to your bed post. Dont speak to her unless the words im sorry i love you lets get back together and make this work come out. Every time i said, i cant be in more pain then im in now so why not. I ended up in twice as much pain. run

I also ended up twice in pain but I disagree, even if she says these words, dont speak to her. My advice for you: when people show you who they are, believe them.

January 23, 2017

I also ended up twice in pain but I disagree, even if she says these words, dont speak to her. My advice for you: when people show you who they are, believe them.

I agree, see theres my mind getting weak again. Run these chicks play the same game. She wants like a cutesy date for your emotional support and then will bail out. Acting like she has no clue that you want her because we were just catching up or some wack crazy bull****. run dont look back

January 23, 2017

didnt she already flake on you twice?

Not sure where you're getting that from, but yes, probably more. Even if we were casually dating, that's still not cool right? I have a right to be upset? I know sometimes my friends will bail on something last minute, but even they show more respect in doing so and apologize.

I know it's petty, so i won't do it, but i fantasize about agreeing and than last minute flaking. I only say that because on top of doing those things, she acts like i'm ridiculous and needy for being upset at that. Yet she expected respect out of me and i know would be upset too. (like any normal person)

January 23, 2017

no dude listen to me no. not at all. no again. nope. Throw your sources of communication in the lagoon and quickly handcuff your self to your bed post. Dont speak to her unless the words im sorry i love you lets get back together and make this work come out. Every time i said, i cant be in more pain then im in now so why not. I ended up in twice as much pain. run

If i knew there was barely a chance of seeing her again, i would have no problem saying "no thanks". But since i certainly will, possibly weekly (like hanging out with my friends/roommates at my house) it confuses things. Will i just be making it more difficult, awkward, seem more weak and broken, if i ignore her attempts to be cordial? Of course i would say "hi" to her if she initiated in person, i wouldn't be a dick, but not much more than that.

So many times during the relationship, i debated if i should reciprocate the way she treated me, but i didn't and continued to treat her respectfully since apparently we were "friends" more than anything and i don't play those games. Now i feel regret for being good to her and feel like making up for those times by ignoring her, though i don't think she'll necessarily give a **** anymore.

January 23, 2017

I agree, see theres my mind getting weak again. Run these chicks play the same game. She wants like a cutesy date for your emotional support and then will bail out. Acting like she has no clue that you want her because we were just catching up or some wack crazy bull****. run dont look back

IDK if she's seeking emotional support. Considering the way she treated me in the end, i'm sure she's pretty detached from feelings towards me and has moved on. Unfortunately, i can't completely run since we'll certainly see each other. I think she just wants to meet so it'll be less awkward for her and i, when we do have to be in the same room together.

I've avoided seeing her and she hasn't come over to my house since, but i imagine she's getting impatient and wants freedom to come over at will. This might be her way of transitioning into that sooner. It's true i would prefer she never come over.

January 23, 2017

no dude listen to me no. not at all. no again. nope. Throw your sources of communication in the lagoon and quickly handcuff your self to your bed post. Dont speak to her unless the words im sorry i love you lets get back together and make this work come out. Every time i said, i cant be in more pain then im in now so why not. I ended up in twice as much pain. run

Also, i know for a. fact she's only in the market for FWB as she's leaving the country in a year or so. IDK if that makes it more or less likely she would want me back. Part of me wants and thinks i could be her FWB and accept it won't be a LTR, but that's only if she can treat me like a good friend first. It's true, i really need an apology for this to move forward AT ALL. But should i only expect that through a text message? What if she's wanting to say it in person?

January 23, 2017

Don't feel stupid, i was in a similar relationship, we broke it off, talked seldom for a year and started dating again. We broke up again because I had a work opportunity but the second go around was great and we are friendly now.

I'm going through a breakup myself and just want to say the best advice I've seen on here is to take care of yourself. I think too many people are focused on getting the ex back or taking them back without the changes that need to happen having been made. You're setting yourself up for more heartbreak if you don't focus on yourself and what you want and need going forward.

When you talked, did you ever bring up past conflicts? We had a break up talk. I was left thinking she didn't understand nor feel bad for any of her actions. So i still have this feeling of wanting to get through to her. But i don't know if that's a bad idea to tell her AGAIN how she treated me poorly.

As for your last part, i know what i have to do to change. These are things that i have to do regardless of her feelings. And i want nothing more than to be able to focus on that without her as a distraction. Unfortunately, like i said, we have mutual friends and i'll probably see her regularly which just stresses me out. I feel like i don't want to give her any updates on my life until i'm ready to, but idk if i can avoid that.

January 23, 2017

Don't waste your time on this. It's an awkward situation but all you have to do if she says hi is say hi back and move on.

January 23, 2017

Don't waste your time on this. It's an awkward situation but all you have to do if she says hi is say hi back and move on.

Exactly, you wanted to get your power back...this is how. Don't give her anything to work with, just be polite but very distant.

If she enters the room and acknowledges you, respond in kind but that's it. If she asks you how you are, respond with "fine" nothing more and nothing less and don't ask her. Might even get up and refresh your drink or remove yourself from the conversation. This is your house, not her's.

I will say though from your last posts, it sounds as though you wanted more than she did and just from the post, sounds as though you were hurt by her not being exclusive with you. Was that the real source of the pain, her not placing you higher on her list? If so, I don't see the need to punish her for being honest with you here.

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