violinist_chick21 Posted December 21, 2016 Posted December 21, 2016 Hey guys! I just recently got out of a brief relationship (only a month long). Because it wasn't that long and the guy and I had been friends for a year before, I'm not really too upset by it. The breakup was mostly mutual, and we're just going back to being friends like we were before. Overall, I'm fine However, I can't help wondering about some of the supposed "incompatibilities" that my ex brought up while we were having the breakup discussion. He implied that he was frustrated that I couldn't just up and spend time with him whenever I wanted to because I still live with my parents. My parents are Middle Eastern immigrants, and there was just no way they would've been okay with me spending the night at a guy's place or anything. He also thought it seemed like I still have a curfew (I actually don't have one, but my parents are just uncomfortable with me staying out too late), and that an adult shouldn't have any restrictions like this. Overall, he felt that my living at home was too much, and he felt lonely despite me being his girlfriend. I couldn't really understand this, because I'd always been down to talk and hang out at his place, minus sleeping over, whereas he likes the feeling of a girl sleeping next to him. It kind of sucks because unless you've been raised by Arab parents, it's really hard to understand how they do things and why they think the way they do. Cultural differences, man Anyway, we ended on good terms and we're still friends, like we always were. I've been considering the idea of moving out for a long time now (even before I knew this guy), and now I just feel like I've gotten some much-needed perspective on the whole matter. I'm looking into this idea even more now, not to get him to come back, but because I honestly think it would be a healthy thing for me to do. After all, if he couldn't see me as a real adult because I still live with my parents, then no one will. Who knows how many future relationships will be negatively affected by this? Sorry for rambling haha wow, I don't even really know what I'm asking, but any thoughts? I should add that I'm a junior in college, and I'll be turning 21 in a couple of months.
swydevfovd Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 not bad) not bad, bro ) Thank you for this great information! Good luck!
elaine567 Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 I've been considering the idea of moving out for a long time now (even before I knew this guy), and now I just feel like I've gotten some much-needed perspective on the whole matter. I'm looking into this idea even more now, not to get him to come back, but because I honestly think it would be a healthy thing for me to do. After all, if he couldn't see me as a real adult because I still live with my parents, then no one will. Who knows how many future relationships will be negatively affected by this? Will your parents allow you to move out and can you afford to move out?
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