DumpedGuy9617 Posted December 21, 2016 Posted December 21, 2016 (edited) Hey everyone, just wanted to ask if anyone has any input on if it is possible to get an ex back that you live with, or if anyone has successfully done this? Here's the story. My ex broke up with me in late November, as we were having intimacy problems for some time. I believe it was the result of us both being under a lot of stress, and not necessarily lack of physical attraction. In fact, I'm pretty sure that was not an issue for either of us. Anyway, when she first broke up with me, I broke down and told her to give me a second chance. She said she'd think about it, but doubted it would happen. I told her I would work on changing the things she didn't like. I have already gone a long way to do those things, and continue to make progress. We got in a couple small fights, and I also asked her one more time if there was anything I could do. After those things, which happened within the first couple weeks, we have only seen each other on weekends for short periods of time and to take care of things. She has been fairly standoffish, but doesn't seem angry or anything. I have kept to my bedroom, and her to the living area and spare bedroom. I have not contacted her in any other form, or brought up the break up again. I am moving out mid January. Should I continue no/little contact, or should I try to act like I'm completely over the break up? I figure I have no shot at opening communication again until a couple weeks after I move out, but I fear right now she feels akward and may not respond once we have parted ways. Thoughts on the situation? Edited December 22, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited for paragraphs ~ V
Viking Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 I went through something very similar to be honest. My live in girlfriend and I broke up early November and she just moved her stuff out today. For us, living together had made things stale because of the amount of time I spent at work and how much time she spent in school. Over the course of the year, I work approximately 3000 hours or so, which is more than the average I'd say. When we first broke up, I kind of ignored her and left her to herself to cry and deal with the pain. I isolated myself and played video games or went out with friends. I felt fine for a while but then it hit me and I felt a wave of emotions and all I wanted to do was talk to her. After a while, I went kind of cold and pursued other things, including a different girl. I can't be 100% honest and say I am over the ex and that's why I'm pursuing another girl, but I can compartmentalize well and keep my pain in check and not let it affect my time with different girls. As for getting back together, I'd recommend giving her space but letting her know your thoughts, and showing her you've made changes. If you get your own place, you'll want to start over and start small. Dinner out, coffee meet ups, movie out, then progress to visit her or her you. Find out also if she thinks she'd even want to consider it. Part of it has to do with how much time you were together as well.
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