why is my ex always complaining to me?

[figgurinoutlife]

Well, last time I posted I talked about my ex calling me and ripping me a new one saying I disrespected her boyfriend by rolling my eyes at him. After that last phone call she hasn't tried to call at all, and she's the one who started calling after 2 mos. of NC implemented by me.

 

Well, I figure she is soo pissed at me she just decided to stop calling, period. Well the other day I'm driving out while she's driving in to the apt. complex (we both live in same complex) and she drives over directly in front of my car "chicken style" acting like she's gonna hit me, then she backs up and drives up to my window and we start talking. I guess she's not that mad at me anymore if she's joking like she's gonna ram into my car and she pulls up to talk.

 

The thing with her that's got me so confused is she right away complains about all the bad stuff in her life to me, like she got denied of her loan application for school this upcoming semester, and that her dad won't help her w/money for school, also she has to sell her car cause she can't afford it and buy a junker, and that she has to go to court for something she got in trouble for. I tell her, sorry and talk about how things are going w/my new job, but that's about it.

 

She doesn't talk bad about her relationship though, and didn't bring it up when we talked. Does anyone know why she is always complaining about stuff to me and making her life seem crappy to me?

[shygurl]

There's no need to analyze this or concern yourself with WHY she complains to you - she's your ex, she's got someone else in her life now, leave her and him be, move on, don't even waste your energy on her.

 

Aren't you the guy (I could check your past posts but don't have time to) who was posting about how your ex was in the car with her new guy, and she was making suggestive comments to you - in front of him - about past sexual things with you?...and how she wanted to bring her new puppy to where you work..and a whole bunch of other weird sh*t?

 

Why don't you just ignore her? Surely there's other women out there who you can invest your energy into - who are mature and single?

 

 

EDIT: here's your other post about what a tacky whackjob she is: read the responses there, they still apply.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=66091

[smile]

Man i have been there. And for months I convinced myself it was bc he really wanted me and didnt know how to prove it. And whether or not that is the case... the fact is he isnt doing anything about it. I told him how I felt and I went into NC and he contacted me... everyday for a week phone calls, emails. txts, myspace friend requests.... on and on... and when I finally called him he went on and on about how he wanted to see me.

 

A few weeks later I still hadnt called him and suddenly he tells my roomate to help me get over him. He came over, he called and he stayed for an hour and then said he was going to buy me something from disneyland. These ppl have NO IDEA what they want.

 

But they do know what they don't want. They don't want us to go bc we are their comfort, their secuirty ... possibly the only real nonsuperficial relationship they have ever been able to sustain with anyone. But you know what? Neither your ex nor mine deserve it right now.

 

Both are acting selfish and unfair. We deserve better. We need to get away from this bc its poison. It keeps us from living our lives. We are so obsessed with "what did that mean" that we can't think straight. In every second I have alone I wonder and that sucks.

 

You are her friend, maybe her only true friend.. but if someone who was just a friend (and never before a gf)treated you this way, would you let them? NO. And you can't let her either.

 

My ex has done this to me twice. The first time being when he had trouble with the rebound girl. And I listened. Bc I thought my being there was more important than my being comfortable. And it led into what I thought (and many others thought) was a second chance.

 

And now here we are. He wants me to get over him but doesnt have the balls to tell me... he whispers it to my roomate when I am in the other room. I think they need space. They need to learn that we won't ALWAYS be around. That we deserve respect. It sucks bc they felt we deserved it when we were together and now we have allowed them to think they owe us nothing.

 

I guess that is all I will say for now. If you need more advice you should call the cingular helpline. That guy is very helpful with relationship advice (see my post to get that )