AltaLinda Posted December 21, 2016 Posted December 21, 2016 I'm hoping someone can give me some insight. I was in a LDR for 18 months. We didn't get to see each other much but talked and communicated daily. It was a stable, happy, loving relationship but neither of us could move so that was an issue. 6 weeks ago we had a rough patch due to general life stresses but worked through it. And then, poof! With no warning, he was gone. I didnt realize it at first of course. After a few days, I left a message asking if he was OK. No reply. I left a couple messages this past 6 weeks saying I hope he's ok and to please call me but no reply. Of course I was heartbroken but I'm better now. I'm mainly just confused. We're in or late 30s so we're not young kids. I can understand why he would want to end the relationship but I'm so confused as to why he would end it in this way. It was very out of character of him to act this way because he was usually very considerate of my feelings. I'm 99% sure it was not another woman. Any ideas why someone would do this? Do you think he'll ever come back to explain and get closure?
Been Posted December 21, 2016 Posted December 21, 2016 Because he's a coward. Instead of being adult and telling you it won't workout he just stops talking to you. And in his mind you'll just eventually go away. Very selfish on his part and immature. I really think you dodged a bullet. 3
Author AltaLinda Posted December 21, 2016 Author Posted December 21, 2016 Thanks for your quick reply. I agree, I did dodge a bullet and I would never take him back. I can't imagine why a grown man would act this way. I'm baffled. I really wish we could have that last "thanks for the good times, good luck to you" conversation though.
Slimtripper Posted December 21, 2016 Posted December 21, 2016 Thanks for your quick reply. I agree, I did dodge a bullet and I would never take him back. I can't imagine why a grown man would act this way. I'm baffled. I really wish we could have that last "thanks for the good times, good luck to you" conversation though. Same thing happened to me, and it was LDR too. You dont know what's going on when you aren't there. He 99% had something going on with someone else. HEs too cowardly to let you know that so he weened himself away and then dropped out. I would say 70% he will be in contact at some point to explain what happened, but only when his next relationship breaks down. It sucks, and he is a real ****ty guy for doing that to someone who invested time in him. Just feel sorry for his next gf and look forward to the day he does come sniffing around, and you can tell him to take a running jump
Author AltaLinda Posted December 21, 2016 Author Posted December 21, 2016 Thanks slimtripper. I say I'm pretty sure there was no one else because we had an open relationship. I was occasionally seeing other people and he was welcome to also although he didn't. He would have liked to have been exclusive but I didn't think it was fair to either of us because of the distance. I always told him he coukd tell me if he met someone else and wanted to be exclusive with them...I would understand and wish him luck. I really think he would have told me if there was someone else.
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