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My boyfriend and I made out for the first time. It was the first time I'd made out with anyone but not his. I really really liked it in the moment, but by the next day, I just felt terrible. I have no idea why. All I can't think is "oh my God, did I really just do that? I can't believe I let him put his tongue in my mouth!" I don't understand why I feel like this and I feel terrible. All input is greatly appreciated.

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How old are you? How much experience do you have? Sometimes the first time you do that it's kind of nasty.

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It could just be because it was the first time, if you try it again you can get a better idea and see how you feel after the next time. Do you come from a family that doesn't allow this type or thing or is there anything from your background with your family or parents that may make you feel that way?

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Gosh did your parents instill thoughts in you that sex was wrong or dirty? Do you have a religious back ground?

 

Erase that mess in your head and relish in the moment....please let the experience be enjoyable, don't let the guilt get to you, my God!

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I'd say it's unusual to have such guilty feelings about kissing. I'm assuming you are quite young, but I'm hoping you are at least a teenager to be on a site like this, and I don't think that kind of regret is normal.

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It could just be because it was the first time, if you try it again you can get a better idea and see how you feel after the next time. Do you come from a family that doesn't allow this type or thing or is there anything from your background with your family or parents that may make you feel that way?

 

My parents are very religious and strict but they don't care what I do as long as I don't have sex. Which is okay bc we know that isn't going to happen any time soon bc we're only 17. I just feel like I've done something really wrong.

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My parents are very religious and strict but they don't care what I do as long as I don't have sex. Which is okay bc we know that isn't going to happen any time soon bc we're only 17. I just feel like I've done something really wrong.

 

This is all new and this is a big change in your life. Kissing is an intimate act.

 

I used to generally feel weird the day after I kissed someone. I'm an introvert and I would often feel uneasy the day after kissing. Then, somehow that feeling would dissipate and I would look forward to kissing again.

 

Here's hoping it's the same thing with you. If so, I take it your sense of unease is linked to the fact that this is a big change in your life, an important step toward adulthood. It's normal to feel ambivalent about it.

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