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My friend's husband always asks me about my dating every time I see him and seems quite enthusiastic when he asks. Just before they got married a mutual friend said in front of my friend how her husband wanted to date me before they got together. I was shocked the mutual friend said this as his wife was unaware and seemed insecure after this - I didn't know her husband liked me and he seemed embarrassed and was playing it down. I did like him when we were both single but nothing ever happened. I catch him looking at me when we all go out. I would never go after a married man but wonder why he keeps showing an interest in my dating.

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I think you've answered your own question. There is clearly a lot of sexual tension between you and him regardless of the fact that you aren't going to steal your friend's husband. He may just be trying to live vicariously through your dating life...

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My friends husband always asks about me too....hes a nice guy and just interested in my life. That simple. Question is why do you care so much to post on a forum? Hoping for more?

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My friends husband always asks about me too....hes a nice guy and just interested in my life. That simple. Question is why do you care so much to post on a forum? Hoping for more?

 

My thoughts exactly....

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He's married....he is living through you with your experiences. A lot of guys do this...like to hear stories about their friends sexual exploits.

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Duh ! So his wife is now insecure about this and you are still continuing to be in friend circle?

 

If anything, she will stay his wife and you , his mistress.

 

And once he is done with you, he will not regret marrying you ( morals, you see )

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My thoughts exactly....

 

There is a difference between "Oh ... so yes Sarah, how is your dating life. Seeing anyone these days" in the middle of a convo (kinda 'when do we meet this guy' convo filler style) and "Are you dating anyone?" (said with a smirk or a flirting smile) as an opening every time they talk to you. If someone is always asking this with a smile, the first thing ... they are trying to steer the convo to that direction and hit it. Period. And since the OP is asking this question here, I'm guessing she wants that or at the very least gets excited about thinking he is trying to hit it.

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He's married....he is living through you with your experiences. A lot of guys do this...like to hear stories about their friends sexual exploits.

 

I disagree. I don't know a single guy (let alone married guy) wanting to hear about girl's sexual exploits ... or dating life, unless they are trying to hit it.

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I've seen this before, OP, where someone has a crush on another that they can't be with, for whatever reason. They will be very curious and ask questions about the other's love life and even talk about their own love life.

 

 

I think it satisfies some sort of romantic impulse they feel towards their crush to discuss romantic matters.

 

 

But it may not be the case here.

 

 

Maybe he just wants to see you happy.

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The men know what they're talking about.

 

He's into you for sure. If he wants to know about your dating life more than casually, he's genuinely interested in what you're doing and who you're doing :D

 

I'm 99.99% sure he's bringing this conversation topic up to steer your interactions into a more flirting sexual area and he's curious to see where it might lead.

 

Most women are very intuitive about this sort of thing and pick up on it and subsequently shut down the situation in disgust but you are on here asking us if we think he has any kind of feelings for you?...that suggests that you want him to be into you. Well I can guarantee you he is and if he even thinks he might have some kind of green light...he'll make a move. I'd bet on it and I'm not a gambling man. I'd also bet that a little part of you wants him to also....the question is...what would you do in that situation? That's what I'm wondering...

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He's clearly interested in you, and thinking that he missed some opportunity with you. But, he should be more mature and put it aside, what's done is done and there's no turning back.

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Next time just answer:

 

"No, not at the moment. Why, do you have a friend for me?" :p

 

 

I hate that question when I'm single. Unless you have some guy you want me to meet or introduce me to, what's the point in that question? If I were seriously dating someone, obviously I'd probably be bringing him to the dinner, family functions, or wherever else I was meeting friends. Duh!

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