Relationship problem with a girl

[UrbaNser]

Hello, I am new here, hello to all and sorry if somethings not according to the forum rules, but here goes.

 

About 6 months ago, my friend asked me to go out with a couple girls. Well, basically, one of the girls, let's name her Katy, had some feelings to my friend, they had met two years ago. She lives about 180 km from him and from me. Well they didn't have any contact for about two years and then now recently, little time before my friend asked me to go out with them, they started talking again, through social media of course because of the distance. Well, as stupid as it sounds, the girl is 17 and my friend was then 18 - they went into a relationship not even seeing each other that lasted for a few weeks. Then they broke up, and now she asked him to go out with her friend.

 

So, I went with him, met each other. We just had a chat, asked about each other and blablabla. Well, basically, I noticed immediately that Katy looked me deeply in the eyes, but I didn't hold the eye contact for long with her, knowing that she had something with my friend. Well basically we just walked, talked and later went home. Basic social day in a life of young people, I guess .

 

The next day, signing in to the social media website, Katy added me to friends list. I was kinda shocked, because it was very strange to me that a girl that was into my friend added me. I mean sure, just to be friends and have a chat yeah yeah, but still. So we started communicating with each other. A couple days later, I noticed that she was into me. She was always writing me first, asking how I am doing and such things. Complimented me for my jawline and etc. I wasn't very into her at that moment, firstly because I didn't kinda like her and secondly she had something with my friend, who is basically a childhood close friend. We chatted for about two months, I was one hundred percent sure that she was into me and well, I kinda started to like her too. She came to my town in about the middle of June, we saw each other for the first time after the first meeting and, well, it went all fast that day. We held hands, and at the end of the day even kissed. At that moment, my friend knew that we were chatting, typing, texting and calling and stuff. He told me that he doesn't want anything with her, and stuff but was a little confused how fast she forgot about him and went on into a new relationship.

 

So we step into a relationship. After that day when we first kissed, about a month past that, I went to the town she lived. At that moment, I already was questioning about our relationship, I was very jelly and fell in love with her. The part that confused me was that she didn't love me, well that's perfectly okay but it was bothering me. So the day I went to her, we were sitting and talking and something in my heart was telling me that something isn't right. I didn't realize how stupid I was stepping into a relationship so fast, especially with a girl that had feelings to my friend, who introduced us to each other. Well I asked her that day did she have any feelings to him, she said no, that he's a jerk(he is known for having many women, well basically he is very attractive and women like his personality) and that she doesn't have anything to him. Well, the stupidity of mine wasn't enough and a couple of my friends, with that childhood friend came to the town to drive me back. Well, we met up, she basically started talking with the friends and I was completely, morally killed. At night of that day, my friend shows me that she had texted him saying how stupid she is and that she has feeling to him, and told him to say sorry to me for this and that. Well, in short she dumped me because she still had feelings to him. I tried to recover the relationship, but she told me that It would be better if we didn't contact by no means, because at that point I was truly in love with her and that It would hurt me If I we would still contact each other. It was very painful period, cried for a couple of days but kinda got over it few weeks later and moved on.

 

She tried to have something with him, I know that because my friend told me that she texts him and things. My friend is a ****boy, sorry for the word but yeah, she tried and tried but in the end gave up. And you know what? Few months later after the brake up she wrote me Hi. I got over her already, but the moment she wrote me the feelings returned. We talked by phone, she asked me if I haven't found a girl yet and we talked about how our things have been going etc and that she is stupid for doing that to me etc. So we met again, held our hands again, kissed again and she told me 100% that she didn't have any feelings to my friend anymore. So again, me his boyfriend, she my girlfriend and all is good again. Would I be someone else, I would immediately send her to hell and not bother trying anything, but love is a painful thing.

 

Well, long story short, we broke up again because she at the moment has tough times, work school, she is sick and that she doesn't need any relationship at the moment, but she doesn't want to lose me anyway, basically friendzoned me.

I am kinda okay with it right now, she still calls me, writes me first and lately she said that she loves me because I always support her.

 

Sorry for the long story, hope you can understand my situation. So now my question is, what should I do? Wait? Does she really doesn't want a relationship at the Moment or she really just wants to be friends?

We had a conversation lately and I told her that I ain't worrying, that I understand that we wont have any serious relationship and that we will be friends and things, but she reacted to that seriously and asked my why am I saying that, how do I know what will happen in the future. Well those words just give some hope that something will and I am here, asking for your guys help.

 

Again, sorry for so much text, but I thought that this situation of mine is kinda strange and needs clearance. I am 18 btw.

Thank you.

[anika99]

Never wait for anyone. If down the road she wants to try again and you do too then great, you can reconnect, but in the meantime live your life like you are a single available man. Also don't put with self centred women who tell you they don't want you in the moment but then say manipulative things to keep you hooked and waiting.