Girlfriend says she loves me and wants us to work BUT something doesn't feel right?

[Mikec92]

Hi so I've been with my current girlfriend for 5 months ( it doesn't sound long but there was feelings on both our parts for a very long time we just never acted on them as we were both in different relationships ) we pretty much fell in love straight away everything was perfect we couldn't keep away from each other.

 

A couple of weeks ago we had an argument which led to her walking out saying she just needed some space which was fair enough, everything happended really quickly so I respected that. It was her who initiated meeting up and having a chat and she said she wanted to start fresh and a new start for us as a couple. Bearing in mind alot happened quickly she had moved in with me and we found out we were having a baby ( unfortunatly misscarried at 6 weeks).

 

Last night I had a horrible feeling that something was up with her so we sat down and she said that she loves me more than anything and really wants to be with me but "something doesn't feel right" but she doesn't know what that something is. She has said she wants to really really try for this because it's what she wants but always follows it up with something like " but I can't keep on trying" I get that I do, but how you can say your so in love with someone but follow it up with a negative?

 

I love this girl more than anything in the world, she has brought me back to the person I once was. I set up a weekend for her last weekend flowers candles her favourite movie ( les miserables 3 hours of my life I'll never get back lol ) took her to set off a sky lantern in memory of her uncle and my nan who both passed 4 months ago. I had a candle setup her favourite songs playing and a robin ( as the saying goes Robins appear when loved ones are near ) she loved it and she was so so happy over the weekend smiling laughing it was just simply love there.

 

But then it was last night that she said about something not feeling right and it doesn't feel like it did at the start but she wants it too. If she says she loves me and really wants us to work, is there any hope at all that things will sort themselves out? I'm terrified of loosing this girl she means more to me than I could of ever imagined I would give this girl the world do absolutely anything for her and I'm holding on so tightly to the fact she says she loves me and wants to be with me but it's always in my mind " is she going to leave today"

 

Sorry for dragging on any advice / replys would be really appreciated.

 

Mike.

[DumpedGuy9617]

Are you acting a lot different than you did when you were courting or fresh into the relationship? The whole miscarriage thing is pretty heavy for that early. I would suggest making sure you are not getting too serious too fast, because that will scare her off. The miscarriage and pregnancy probably scared her a bit. Maybe back off a bit, but make sure when you are with her she has a good time. Act how you did when you were courting her, before it was official. 5 months is early to be feeling this way! You guys should still be in the honeymoon phase.

[eightytwenty]

Her hormones might also be a big factor. When you get pregnant your body makes you think and feel so many different things. Then the miscarriage could also affect her.

 

You and her might not be doing anything wrong, it might just be the hormones and loss to her. Give her time. She might come back to being the same person, and some women after a miscarriage its internally hard and she might not even know that's what's causing the issue.

[Gloria25]

Moving in + pregnancy + miscarriage.

 

I think you guys might consider slowing down things a bit here...

[Purepony]

There's some one else in the picture