Elizabeth14 Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 I just started No Contact with my ex. 3rd day and I'm struggling. I know its only the start.. but I can't wonder what if.... he see someone else, move on from me, forgets about me... etc... then I miss him, hate him, love him... Emotions everywhere. Yesterday out of the blue, he calls me. I didn't pick up. I knew if it was something important he will contact me again, but he didn't. Now I'm going crazy why he called me.... I'm trying to keep myself busy, but there are gaps where I still think about him and miss him. We broke up because he said he doesn't love me and another girl 'shaken' him. Sighs... Trying to keep strong. Hoping for the best.
basil67 Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 No, there is no such thing as a NC Partner. I'm not even sure what you're getting at. The whole point of going No Contact is to get over someone. It is indeed about starting to live life without the partner and learning to leave them behind in our feelings. And yes, it's about seeing other people when you're ready. I would suggest blocking him on your phone so that you don't have to wonder about the meaning of his actions. Do you really want someone who says they don't love you and who is interested in another girl to be calling you? Don't allow him the privilege.
CelticGibson Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 The erratic emotions you feel is due to your brain not getting the oxytocin it once got in droves. Like an addiction to nicotine, this too shall pass but you have got to quite cold turkey to successfully kick the habit and that means NO CONTACT. No contact means distracting yourself from thinking of them by getting busy. Doll yourself up, go to the gym, learn new hobbies, try meetups to see if you can meet new people with similar interests to yours and eventually, one day, you will wake up and realise that you stopped thinking about your old habit and have finally moved on..
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