Iaminnocentgul Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Here it goes, he had send me interest on the site and he messaged there regularly. We exchanged numbers and met for the first date. When date was about end he asked out for second one . I said yes. I liked him. After that he was constantly in touch. Everything he use to message and I replied to him sincerely. We met for second date and kissed. We liked it and he asked for third date. I agreed because we both had some really good conversations and a kiss to end. After second date he maintained the communication. He went on a business trip for 2 days and still kept in touch. Yesterday we met for third date at his house. He offered to cook a meal for me and i accepted. When i reached he didn't cook hence i assumed he must be busy or tired. I kept quite. We had some intense and hot moments but not sex. He dropped me to the house but this time he didn't ask for next date. When he reached home he did texted saying he reached and how much he liked the evening. But today morning after 2 weeks of regular messages I didn't receive his good morning messages. I messaged instead after some hours. He replied instantly and nicely but he cut off the talks saying he is bit busy. I said sorry and stopped talking. The last message was his reply that he just wants to concentrate. After that he didn't message at all. Not even a good night message. Now here I am waiting for him to initiate talks like before. Waiting for him to ask for date. I am getting thoughts about what wrong I did in the date. I am blaming myself that I must have done something wrong. Oh such a turmoil! What do I do? Should I consider it that after 3 good dates now he doesn't want to date and I dont know the reason also....
Author Iaminnocentgul Posted December 20, 2016 Author Posted December 20, 2016 By the way he also gifted a branded scarf which he bought for me while on business trip. He also gAve me flowers on third date. And now I am like he use to message me, ask me out, gave me gifts and all and have suddenly stopped all......
preraph Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Don't know that YOU did anything wrong during the date, but he has now made it clear he's not a habitual texter who texts for no reason or to say good night or good morning. Lots of people don't like to just keep returning texts, so don't take it personally. Just wait and see if he asks you out again or not. It was crappy of him to not cook after he said he was and leave you hungry. So his mind is scattered. He's probably multidating or very busy some way.
winny Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 You didn't do anything wrong. This is so similar to what happened with me 2 years back. He ghosted me when we only made out on third date and there was no sex. Don't keep a lot of hopes. He is probably backing off now and would probably have dropped you after sex. I know it sucks, I have been there few times. But count your blessings if he indeed is a douche bag you just got rid of one and made time and space for a nice guy. Take care and let us know. DO NOT text him anymore unless he does and be very careful. DO NOT have sex in the next date if he asks you out. Evaluate him because the way he is ignoring you by saying he is busy is so typical before someone ghosts you.
basil67 Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Unless he had a damn good reason, I would be backing off from a guy who offered to cook dinner for me and then didn't. Did he feed you anything? 4
bachdude Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 He could have at least ordered out some food for you if he wasn't going to cook like he said he was. I assume no apology either? 3
winny Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Unless he had a damn good reason, I would be backing off from a guy who offered to cook dinner for me and then didn't. Did he feed you anything? Once this guy invited me to his house for dinner and all he offered me was an apple... as expected it didn't end well
winny Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 He could have at least ordered out some food for you if he wasn't going to cook like he said he was. I assume no apology either? Doesn't look like he even brought up the topic of food when she was there... he was hungry only for sex... am happy he didn't get it... LOL 2
angel.eyes Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 Let's see... Come to my house. I'll cook for you. You get there, and he doesn't cook, just makes out. Ultimately, he doesn't get what he was hoping for at his food-less home with his hungry date. Once the date is over, he stops all the texts and attention he previously gave you, claiming he's "busy" and "needs to focus." You did nothing wrong. He's looking for sex with minimal effort. Chances are that he would have disappeared after you slept with him. You didn't. He's disappearing now to "focus" on finding someone who will. He's after NSA sex. Sounds like you're looking for something slightly more meaningful. You dodged a bullet. On to the next! 4
angel.eyes Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 He could have at least ordered out some food for you if he wasn't going to cook like he said he was. I assume no apology either? He wasn't inviting her over for food...obviously. Cooking was just a pretext. Come over for sex might have turned the OP off. But that's essentially what he meant by come over to my house for our date.
winny Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 He wasn't inviting her over for food...obviously. Cooking was just a pretext. Come over for sex might have turned the OP off. But that's essentially what he meant by come over to my house for our date. LOL these tactics are getting so old!!! :laugh: OP - You have nothing to worry... take care... and on to the next.
TheTraveler Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 LOL these tactics are getting so old!!! :laugh: OP - You have nothing to worry... take care... and on to the next. The guy wanted sex and the OP didn't play along. Lets be honest and has nothing to do with the OP. If a female is avg to below avg looking i.e. carrying a bunch of pounds, the guy can easily find a replacement.
winny Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 The guy wanted sex and the OP didn't play along. Lets be honest and has nothing to do with the OP. If a female is avg to below avg looking i.e. carrying a bunch of pounds, the guy can easily find a replacement. If it was so easy then why didn't he get it from OP... ha ha
TheTraveler Posted December 20, 2016 Posted December 20, 2016 If it was so easy then why didn't he get it from OP... ha ha It wasn't easy, hence there was no sex. Guys can easily move onto the next woman
Author Iaminnocentgul Posted January 2, 2017 Author Posted January 2, 2017 It wasn't easy, hence there was no sex. Guys can easily move onto the next woman So to end it all I thought to tell you all the conclusion of this. he did message later. talked to me for quite a while. appreciated how good i look and what a good girl I am. He said he liked the time with me. And that he wants to date again. I remembered he was going out to his mum's house for christmas. So I said sure but let's meet after he is back from mum's house. He replied - Good. After that I didnt hear from him. I realise now that he is a total moron and I don't want to hear from him. So I have blocked him now. Thanks for all those who advise me good. Traveller - thanks for letting me know rules of guy when they move on and when they don't. Cheers 1
smackie9 Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 TiP: the majority of the time, when a guy invites you over to his place for a date, he has an expectation for sex. It's the 3rd date rule that many like to follow. He was playing you, by looking like a gentleman buying you a gift and flowers......the sex, he felt, was owed. You are right he is a moron, and you dodged a bullet. 2
spiderowl Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 Er, you really don't need a guy like that. He invites you to dinner and doesn't make it? He could have at least ordered a takeaway and explained if he was tired. It sounds like he just wanted sex and nothing more. Honestly, you were lucky you found it before you had sex with him.
Miss Spider Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 He offered to cook a meal for me and i accepted. When i reached he didn't cook ... After that he didn't message at all. And that is what kids these days call a '****boy' Not even any shame. Yeah, he got impatient. You totally dodged a bullet here.
preraph Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 I agree the third date was a ruse to get you over there to have sex. You didn't or either that or he changed his mind, and then now he is done.
angel.eyes Posted January 2, 2017 Posted January 2, 2017 So to end it all I thought to tell you all the conclusion of this. Thanks for taking the time to give us your follow-up. he did message later. talked to me for quite a while. appreciated how good i look and what a good girl I am. He said he liked the time with me. And that he wants to date again. So, he failed with his other possibilities. Feeling horny in the moment, and with no new options available, he starts revisiting previous "dates." Perhaps if he slathered on a thick layer of sweet nothings and charm, and glossed over his earlier disappearing act, he might get lucky with you after all. I remembered he was going out to his mum's house for christmas. So I said sure but let's meet after he is back from mum's house. He replied - Good. After that I didnt hear from him. You weren't down for some horizontal action that evening, so he's on to the next in search of his on-demand good time. I realise now that he is a total moron and I don't want to hear from him. So I have blocked him now. Good for you. Block. Delete. Ignore. He's a waste of your time and energy if you're looking for more than an NSA quickie when it's convenient to him.
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