Should I?

[marimari]

So, I am seeing this guy for a month, and everything went fine, we are still getting to know each other. But, yesterday he told me that his friend, who happens to be a girl from another town, is staying and sleeping over at his place, of course in another room. And also he told me that, because he doesn't want that I think something strange is happening if she tags him through facebook, because she is a little bit crazy. And I am like waaaat? So, should I be suspicious?

[Larryville]

Absolutely, be suspicious he is full of crap, run…

[butterfly84]

Is there any chance for you to hangout at his place or hangout with this girl too? so she knows you're in the picture? It could be just a friend but since you have only known him a short time you never know.

[marimari]

Well, he didn't mention hanging out, though he mentioned if I want to come to drink coffee, but I think he didn't really mean it.

[savvy2008]

I think he is covering his butt for when she tags him, I would be suspicious. I have my own opinions about dating and hanging out with opposite sex friends. I definitely think staying overnight is inappropriate, even if he says they'll be in separate rooms. New relationship or not, I wouldn't tolerate that. Unless he invited me to stay over as well.

[kendahke]

So, I am seeing this guy for a month, and everything went fine, we are still getting to know each other. But, yesterday he told me that his friend, who happens to be a girl from another town, is staying and sleeping over at his place, of course in another room. And also he told me that, because he doesn't want that I think something strange is happening if she tags him through facebook, because she is a little bit crazy. And I am like waaaat? So, should I be suspicious?

 

You're being put on notice that he's got a crazy girl buddy who he lets spend time at his place when she's in town, she likes to tag anything that isn't nailed down on facebook and that there is nothing going on between them. That's what I'm getting from this.

 

Question for him is: are you the kind of guy who lets his female friends run roughshod over his fledgling romantic relationships? Because how he manages his friendship with her will tell you better than anything if you should be suspicious or not.

 

So you may want to put that question to him once you two have invested more time than you have. Right now, you barely even know him where she's known him for a lot longer and has way more familiarity with him because she has been his friend for a while.

[marimari]

I don't know what to think about this whole situation, I've never experienced something like this. But how I will know how he manages his friendships at the moment?

[PegNosePete]

how I will know how he manages his friendships at the moment?

Well the best way is probably to accept his invitation to come over for coffee (whether he "meant it" or not, he made the invitation, so you just accept it). Then you can assess her, and their interactions, for yourself.

[angel.eyes]

Could she be his long-distance GF? Otherwise, why "warn" you preemptively about possible FB posts?

 

Agree with the above poster. Whenever genuine or not, accept his invitation for coffee. I would also offer to do something with her...give her a tour of your city, take her to lunch or whatever. How he reacts to that suggestion, will tell you a lot.

[marimari]

Yeah, I thought about that what if she is his long distance girlfriend?!?! And all ofthose questions came out because I don't want that kind of boyfriend. Thank you for replies.