Mysterio Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 so I have 2 friends. G is going into year 4 with is GF who is expecting their Second child in Feb 2017. The first child was born in summer of 2015. She has been separated from he ex since 2009. The hold up to divorce seems to be coming from the ex. Yet G does not know what the hold up is. he says he has given up on her getting her Divorce. She has two big kids 15-boy/13-girl from her ex that go back and forth between Mom and bio Dad. J is on year 3 with his current GF. She has Bi-Polar. She has leg problems. Can't work because of Anxiety problems. They live together. He is still legally married to his ex. He now has to work extra shifts on top of a 40 hour week to provide for the two of them. What would you all gather the longevity for both couples making it. Just based on the info I have said. Are both men weak in your mind for putting up with their SO problems. Would you date someone with the factors that come with the women or if you are a woman. If your Man had the same factors would you still be interseted in them. Maybe I am different. I don't think I could handle either of them based on their problems. I don't even know which one is worse.
PegNosePete Posted December 19, 2016 Posted December 19, 2016 G is going into year 4 with is GF who is expecting their Second child in Feb 2017. The first child was born in summer of 2015. She has been separated from he ex since 2009. The hold up to divorce seems to be coming from the ex. Yet G does not know what the hold up is. he says he has given up on her getting her Divorce. She has two big kids 15-boy/13-girl from her ex that go back and forth between Mom and bio Dad. Personally if I were G I would not have accepted that situation, right form the start. Before having child #1 I would have told her that I wanted her to be divorced and I would not see her again until she was. There is absolutely no reason for someone to remain married if they don't want to. It is not possible for an ex to cause hold-ups like that. She should see a lawyer and get it sorted. No excuses. J is on year 3 with his current GF. She has Bi-Polar. She has leg problems. Can't work because of Anxiety problems. They live together. He is still legally married to his ex. He now has to work extra shifts on top of a 40 hour week to provide for the two of them. Same as above for J's GF. If I were her I would have told him I wouldn't see him again until the ink on the divorce decree is dry. But since he is taking on the carer/provider role maybe she is prepared to accept the situation. Would you date someone with the factors that come with the women No. 1
Author Mysterio Posted December 19, 2016 Author Posted December 19, 2016 Peg. Your right on the money. Both these guys are very introverted. Having a GF is rare for them on some level. For J even though he technically has had Back to Back GF's. He has no social skills to keep friendships going. My friend D and I were the only two friends he had at his wedding. My thing with J is that he was torn between seeing his son through a treatment centre and going to another city to be with his GF. He chose his GF. Left his job. Only to come back 3 months later, because it was two expensive to live out there/He knew no one out there. His GF eventually came back to our city and they are together now. She does not like that he is technically still married. He claims that his Ex won't interact with him over the divorce. J to me is a lost cause. Its G that I am worried about. He is a great guy. Its just that he is so passive and conflict avoidant. That he can't really call the shots. His GF calls all the shots. What is he going to tell his kids when they get older. Sorry. I can't marry your mother untill she gets divorced. I don't know why she does not care about this more. These women make me very weary of whats coming for me. I have made a deal with myself. At age 45. I deserve the best. So for that woman who really wants a Romantic relationship with me and all the trimmings. She is going to have to be Single/Widowed/Divorced without kids. Like I am just single without kids. Or has one kids possibly two. S/W/D. If she is separated. I better see some traction with the divorce within 6 months. No Bio kids with me or living together at all.
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